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    Quote Originally Posted by Nat1341 View Post
    I agree, wishing well at an engagement is very presumptuous (sp??) Meanwhile, we are invited to a 1st birthday party (yes, a 1st birthday ) with the invitation specifically saying 'no obligation, but we are having a wishing we'll if you would like to make a contribution'. ...W..T..F???!!??!!
    I would have been W.T.F too! That's just

    Sounds tacky to me having a wishing well at the engagement. For our party we went out and put on the invite that each person was simply asked to pay for their own meal.

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    I think as a pp said the etiquette is you should give what the function costs per person, I would much prefer to give money or registry gifts as at least you know what they want and don't have to stress about buying a present and wasting your money on something they don't want.

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    I personally never would dream of asking for money on any occasion makes me feel so embarrassed. Whatever happened to inviting ppl to occasions because you want their company. Anyway $50 is fine.

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    I'm not sure about the whole wishing well idea in general. If this is an option at a wedding I attend, I usually put gift cards in the wishing well....I hate giving cash. I was invited to a wedding once where the poem in the invitation about the wishing well specified that although the bride and groom were happy with "yellow" notes, "green" notes were their favourite. WTF?!?!? Rude imho!

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    im not a fan of wishing well's or money tree's etc either but it seems to be becoming the regular thing to do.
    i hate having to decide how much to give people.

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    My rule is $50 x 2 at minimum....

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    Whatever happened to "it's the thought that counts"?.... I ignore wishing well poems and i give them a gift.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xanadu View Post
    I'd give $50 at a wedding (more if it were immediate family) but not sure of an engagement, does seem a tad rude, I think you were generous giving $50 at an engagement
    Seriously? The cost per head for food at weddings is $100+

    We give cost per head plus depending on who it is.

    Eg: Sister + $1000, friends + $250

    And for engagements at LEAST $100.

    Short and sweet because I sent this from my iPhone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bebehvala View Post
    Seriously? The cost per head for food at weddings is $100+

    We give cost per head plus depending on who it is.

    Eg: Sister + $1000, friends + $250

    And for engagements at LEAST $100.

    Short and sweet because I sent this from my iPhone.
    Good for you but not everyone can afford to get a personal loan for other peoples gifts, i guess only rich people should be invited to weddings!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moosie View Post
    I recently attended a engagement party with a wishing well & it didn't cross my mind that asking for money was rude. The couple had a fairly large party at a function centre & I know it cost them about $65 per head (& they invited about 120 people). They are getting married in Fiji so the actual wedding will be small, hence the big engagement celebration.

    We gave $50
    Each right? So you gave $50 per head? Still less than the $65 for your food and drink. Am I the only one who thinks like this??????


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