I don't believe in hitting people because they aren't doing what i want them to.
I did smack my first child and it wasn't a healthy way to deal with her behaviour. I will allways regret doing it.
However I have never smacked my 5 YO son and i believe he is a gentler and happier child because of it.
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10-08-2011 21:23 #53Senior Member
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Haven't read most of the replies but this is why I really wish it was outlawed in our society - people do not know the laws and don't *really* know when it's "appropriate" to start and finish 'smacking'. People's understanding is very limited so IMO it would be much better to have a blanket law that says "no physical punishment" (because, lets face it, that's exactly what it is - a punishment to humiliate and shame a child) so there is NO confusion.
Unfortunately, we live in a culture that has lost the art of true parenting and we often learn from our own parents mistakes (I was a lucky one!) so a lot of parents simply do not know how to discipline without raising a hand.
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11-08-2011 09:54 #55
But as an hormonal adult I've probably acted that way too in my relationships - all part and parcel of being a human. But, If my husband decided to throw a bucket of water on my head he would have to justify why we should still be married.
That's just to put it into an adult - adult relationship context versus a child - adult one. I think at times, we think being a child means we can treat them with much less respect.
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11-08-2011 10:10 #56
Physical abuse is a non-accidental injury or pattern of injuries to a child caused by a parent, caregiver or any other person.
It includes but is not limited to injuries which are caused by excessive discipline, severe beatings or shakings, cigarette burns, attempted strangulation and female genital mutilation.
Injuries include bruising, lacerations or welts, burns, fractures or dislocation of joints.
Hitting a child around the head or neck and/or using a stick, belt or other object to discipline or punishing a child is a crime.
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11-08-2011 11:11 #57
My son is 7 and my daughter is almost 6 and they RARELY get a smack anymore. We have found at this age alternative ways work. We now take away things that mean a bit more to them. As for DD2 she is just turning one on sunday and we don't have to smack her at all for understandable reasons. She is still young. She gets the occasional swat on the fingers if she is touching something she knows she isn't allowed to. But I can soon see the time when she will get one too. For us its only used at the young ages because once they get a bit older there are other ways of disciplining them. (take a ways special things, sit at he table witih head down. ) Stuff that wouldn't mean much to a two year old.
11-08-2011 11:20 #58
Here is something I can't get my head around:
*My niece #1 (4 in Feb): She is never hit by mum and dad, they use talking, naughty corner etc. Anyway, when she gets angry or frustrated at my DS (2) she screams, yells and hits/slaps him (quite violent and hard). We cant leave them alone together, has been this way for many months.
*My niece #2 (4 in Sep): IS Hit by her parents. However, when she is angry or frustrated with my DS, she will cry, get upset, winge, but NEVER hits him. I can leave them to play with not problems.
11-08-2011 11:22 #59
11-08-2011 11:25 #60
However so many parents on here believe that if they smack their child, then their child will hit others, however if they don't smack their child, then they will have a non-hitting, calmer child. Well not always the case!
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