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    The op had nothing to do with this being a debate about who smacks their kids, who's right and wrong.

    Seriously people.... This thread could be really interesting but your all wrecking it with trying to all prove a point.


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    I get confused by people who smack saying they never inflict any pain... then what's the point? If you're doing it simply show your disapproval then there are better ways of doing that which will actually strengthen your relationship with your child rather than making them fear you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atlantic Puffin View Post
    The op had nothing to do with this being a debate about who smacks their kids, who's right and wrong.

    Seriously people.... This thread could be really interesting but your all wrecking it with trying to all prove a point.

    The anti-smackers always have to come in and tell you how wrong everyone is

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    Bundymummy, I'm glad you don't hurt your child but you can't really tell me that's the same for everyone? 350,000 kids each year are physically abused in this country, so clearly some smacks are hurting can I ask
    then why do you hit her? Is it to scare her or
    make her fearful of you?
    Like I said earlier, she rarely gets a smack anymore, if she does it's because of a safety issue - generally when she runs out on the road and doesn't listen to me, wants to do everything herself. She needs to realise that what she did was dangerous. 9/10 she calms down after a smack and asks to hold my hand. It gives her that shock that
    Mummy is serious. If we're at home, she just gets picked up and put in her room for timeout.

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    Quote Originally Posted by confusd View Post
    The anti-smackers always have to come in and tell you how wrong everyone is
    Then request a pro-smacking section .

    Until then, this is in the general chat section, so please expect that there will be conflicting views.

    I for one appreciate these discussions as it strengthens my resolve and gives me ideas on how to use alternative methods that will remain effective throughout toddlerhood, and the teenage years.

    This thread shows that it's a temporary tool at best - so why not start the guidance process with something that lasts??
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    Perhaps those who think all us smackers are abusive ought to experience real abuse. Might put things into perspective eh?

    I'm over and out - this thread is tugging at emotions I've had buried for a very long time

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    Quote Originally Posted by confusd View Post
    The anti-smackers always have to come in and tell you how wrong everyone is
    This is an emotive topic. You are going to get people who have a different views, isn't that to be expected? The 'anti-smackers' are going to tell you how wrong smacking is, the 'smackers' are going to tell you how right they are. Is it so hard to read an opinion different to your own?

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    Quote Originally Posted by bundymummy View Post
    Perhaps those who think all us smackers are abusive ought to experience real abuse. Might put things into perspective eh?

    I'm over and out - this thread is tugging at emotions I've had buried for a very long time
    I never called it abuse. I know abuse. I just think there are better ways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bundymummy View Post
    Perhaps those who think all us smackers are abusive ought to experience real abuse. Might put things into perspective eh?

    I'm over and out - this thread is tugging at emotions I've had buried for a very long time
    Wow. A lot of people here have experienced real abuse. I for one have.

    I don't think your abusive. I don't think anything in fact. I simply think for myself.

    I used to smack. It happened when i was tired, at the end of my tether with her sleep and was frustrated. Each time I smacked it was because of how it made ME feel in that exact moment.

    But, Because of the abuse I suffered - I decided that I could no longer tell my daughter that she has the right to be treated with respect, the right to expect that her body is hers, that she had the right to say no to physical contact that she felt uncomfortable with and that she should expect to never to be slapped, hit, with or with out 'justification' because she 'started it' or didn't obey them' by a future partner, yet for me to go and smack her.

    The hypocrisy was too much for me.

    So there's your perspective.

    Maybe theres a reason your emotions were tugging? I know mine did when I read these threads. Then I worked out why. Now, I'm changing my guidance methods and I'm at peace.
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    This is going to sound bad, lol... but my Mum stopped hitting me when I was about 12 because she smacked me and I smacked her back one!! It's only funny now because it was obviously such a long time ago and we now get along like a house on fire. But I think she realised that at her only being 4ft11 and me being quite tall for my age, if she went too far and I was confident enough, she would come of second best! and I just figuered, well, if you are going to hit me, I will hit you!!

    Dad was obviously a different story and I remember copping quite the hiding around the side of my head at about 15 years old . Sadly, I have and will never forget that and I dont really think my relationship with him has ever really recovered. We get on great and I love him to death still, but I have a bit of a F.... you attitude to him when he annoys me or when we dont agree on something. It just damaged us I think and you cant go back!! Consequently, with my own DD, whilst I have smacked her maybe 2 or 3 times early on in her life time, I have realised that I did it mainly out of my own temper and frustration, not because I actually thought it was going to teach her something. So I have found other methods of discipline that have been more effective for us like time out in her room, or taking something away etc. Just finding whatever her achilles heel is at the time has worked fine for us.


 

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