I voted Other.
After my birth trauma with my first and receiving 4th degree tears i wasnt scared of labour the second time around i was looking forward to doing everything differently, and i was looking forward to showing the Drs that i could do it vaginally.
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No, mine have been okay
Yes, I am absolutely terrified but hope I can cope
Yes, but I know it has to be done and have coped in the past
Yes, so much that I've asked for an elective Ceasar
07-07-2011 18:33 #11
07-07-2011 18:37 #12
I voted Yes, so much that I've asked for an elective Ceasar based on my experiences.
I was petrified of labour the first time around and unfortunately, my fears were nothing compared to just how terrible, horrific and traumatic it actually was. I never, ever want to feel that sort of pain or terror ever again in my entire life. I have PTSD as a result.
The second time around, I opted for an elected CS. It was the most wonderful, beautiful experience of my life and the pain of recovery afterwards was nowhere near what I was told it would be. It was also *nothing* compared to the 6 or so months I spent recovering from my first VB. I thought I'd be sore for at least 6 weeks after my CS but I only needed very minor pain relief a few days after. If I ever have another child, it will be a CS again without question.
07-07-2011 18:50 #13Senior Member
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I have had reasonably good labours 12hrs, 3hrs and 1hr but I still get nervous knowing how intense the pain can be.
My first labour was agony because I fought it the whole way, I didn't want an epi and had peth late in the labour. I do wish I had more pain relief for the first but couldn't handle someone sticking a needle in my spine.
My second was okay had a pretty good middy through out it and loads of ice.
My last labour was really good as I didn't fight it I just let the contractions happen and tried to relax as much as possible. So this is what I will try to do again.
The only thing for me with such a quick labour was the intensity of the pain builds up super quick. I was shaking uncontrollably after DS was born.
07-07-2011 19:07 #14
The first time I experienced labour was for a Vbac and I honestly, hand on my heart can say I was not at all afraid of the thought of labour, nor the feeling of labour. To be honest, I was elated at the thought of being able to finally get a chance to experience labour and even though it hurt like hell, I wasn't fearful and it wasn't scarey and I suffered a very painful and extensive 3rd degree tear.
My second labour after the first Vbac, though having had the previous 3rd degree tear and subsequent issues, I still can say I honestly wasn't fearfull.
I find labour to be very empowering, not something I was afraid of, I am not a hero or a matyr I think a lot of my lack of fear had to do with being a Vbacer and wanting so badly to succeed in labour and birth.
07-07-2011 19:11 #15
I wasnt the first time around, i was excited. But this time im going to have to fight for what i want, so it makes me a little scared. Im more worried about not getting what i want then the actual labour.
Ive been told i should be traumatised by the aftermath of DD's birth but im not. Its something i cant change so im not going to dwell on it. Im just preparing myself the second time around.
07-07-2011 19:16 #16
My first labor I had no fear. It was long and ended in a hospital transfer for assistance (planned home birth), and there was a small amount of trauma.
This next labor (in 3ish months) I still have no real fears, I don't want another transfer, but I'm filling myself with positivity surrounding a successful homebirth instead of concern at the possibility of another transfer.
Birth doesn't frighten me, I trust my body, I trust my baby and I trust my care providers. Pain doesn't frighten me, complications concern me but I can't dwell on that, I have worked through our plan of action for any major birth complications and I am comfortable with what we would do if that did arise.
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07-07-2011 20:01 #17
It scares the crap out of me!
07-07-2011 20:21 #18
I was so scared and the best advice I got from a friend was that I was designed to do it. This helped me so much. I didn't have a long or complicated labour and managed drug free. I actually can't remember the pain, DH asked me how it was straight after and I couldn't tell him. I just felt so strong and empowered at the end.
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07-07-2011 20:24 #19Senior Member
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I need another option- "NO, I love giving birth and I'd do it all the time but I don't want to end up with that many children!!"
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