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    Default Support chat for those TTC again after pregnancy loss/stillbirth

    Anyone beginning the ttc journey after the loss of a bub?


    Anyone in a similar boat and want to chat???

    I see there are many ttc threads but the loss one from yrs ago doesn't seem to be active anymore.

    Hope someone will join me
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    Hello my love!

    As unfortunate and awful as the situations we have found ourselves in, I am very happy to be able to say i will be joining you on the TTC journey!

    We will be giving it a crack after my first AF after the d&c which should apparently be a couple weeks away.

    I am so happy you and DH are trying again. There has been many days where you have been in my thoughts and although a new baby wont replace B by any means, theres just nothing like newborn cuddles. I think for myself, the excitement of a new baby (although yes, nervous as all hell) will do wonders for me and my little feelings. Since the m/c I have felt so empty and useless, I don't think its because of any grieving I have yet to do, but we wanted a baby so much when we concieved our angel, that wish hasnt gone away just because they sadly did.

    Even though you know to some extent what happened, doesn't make the whole process any easier again, I agree I'm going to be so nervous. I guess the innocence of pregnancy has been taken away. We we never found out what went wrong, our little baby was perfect, just not alive I'm worried it could have been something from my thyroid, or some weird genetic little abnormality we are prone to. SO getting UTD again is scaring the cr*p out of me. Especially being so remote, the medical side of things wasnt so great for the m/c by any means.

    I know the whole trying, and TWW and POAS is going to drive me and DH crazy again. But bit easier knowing I'll have you there Having to wait for our dating ultrasound will be horrible, they dont do them until 8-9 weeks for a dating scan, which is the first and last time we saw our bub.

    But until then, I am wishing lots of baby catching and sticky baby vibes

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    Yay for a familiar face to start with

    I don't feel like another baby will be a replacement either. I have wanted 4 kids forever and so have DH. I want a newborn again (I'd like 2 LOL) but we have to draw the line somehwere Dh tells me.


    CD9 today and have the OPK's at the ready.

    Fingers crossed for a quick ttc journey for us both.
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    I would love a whole housefull of kids also, but DH only wants 2. I would love to have a little girl. That is something that has really bothered me about the m/c is I don't know what the baby was. I don't know if it would be worse not knowing... or knowing it was a girl and making another boy next!

    I'm glad you have a wonderful OB - Hes delivered all your kidlets hasnt he?
    I wanted a 7 week scan with bub, but they could onlt fit us in at 9. I'm also glad you'll have lots of scans an attention, but it's sad thinking something might be wrong from now on. I don't think I will go to an ultrasound with the same excitement and anticipation like I did with DS.

    I'm expecting AF to arrive in the next 2-3 weeks, and full steam ahead after that..! I too have a cycle of around 30 normally, and am pretty much spot on O'ing around 15 days. I guess this week will be a busy one for you

    I still have some of the OPK you sent me, its sad I put them away thinking, I won't need these again! Have you tried the saliva one? Ive heard mixed things.... Actively TTC is not DH and my strong point. It wasnt very fun last time. haha. It becomes a bit of a mission, I have to become drill sargeant in order to get the job done.

    You catch a baby next week!!!

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    Hi Ladies

    Im so sorry to hear about ur losses, its the worst feeling ever and nothing will replace the baby you have lost weather it was there for a short or long while.

    It sounds weird but I thought I was fine after my missed miscarriage, had the D&C and carried on with a strong tough front, making myself beleive I WAS OK, life sux sometimes and unfortunately i had to deal with that, it wasnt until i recently just found out friends of mine were pregnant, i realised I am actually quite hurt and do want this more than i thought!

    It was actually a 'miracle' pregnancy for us, we were diagnosed with 'unexplained infertility' we conceived our 2.5year old daughter thru IVF and was planning on doing another cycle this year for another when out of no where it happened much to our surprise, so feeling a little bit punked from the man upstairs when we lost it but wondering if it will happen again or will IVF be needed... hmmm!

    I have just finished first AF after D&C in the last few days, I should be ovulating around the 20th, so towards end of next week into the week after I will be getting my 'rabbit' on My DH also finds it a bit 'armyish'! but its gotta be done and all for a gooooooood reason especially if it works !

    I beleive that getting pregnant soon after a MC will definately help with the grief, you have something else to focus on although i reckon it will most definately be a little nerve wrecking but they say after a MC, D&C especially ur super fertile and MOST go on to have super healthy pregnancies and babies Fingers crossed its the way for us !

    P.S thanks for this thread, and sorry for the ramble, it was actually good to get a little bit off my chest even tho it wasnt much, still....
    Its guna be great to have support for each other

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    Hi ladies, firstly I just want to say I am so sorry for each of your loss. I know how devastating the loss of a baby is. My second DS was stillborn at just over 20 weeks 27th July 2010.

    As soon as AF returned we started TTC. It's coming up to a year now & still no baby. I also know that no baby will ever replace my Jay but we always wanted 3 children. My DS is 3 years old & desperate for a brother or sister. He is always asking me why my baby died & when can he have one. Almost everyday he asks me if there is a baby in my belly & I say no & he says, where is she, why is she taking so long? It breaks my heart. We are just so desperate for another baby (or 2).

    We have since found out that I have a low AMH & we've tried IUI twice & IVF also. We have an appointment with a new specialist in August. I was really hoping to have been pregnant before the 1st birthday of my angel but it doesn't look like that is going to happen.

    Like all of you I am terrified of being pregnant again, knowing how things can go wrong, but our love & desire to add to our family will hopefully get me through the scary times.
    I just pray I don't have to wait too much longer.

    Good luck to all of you

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    Argh the only time I don't copy my reply and I lose it as my internet disconnected

    Grrrrrr.

    Sorry ladies just wanted to say hi and whilst I'm sorry you find yourself here I hope we can be of some support to each other.

    3dpo here for me and petrified that I won't get the BFP I so desperately want.

    There is also this thread

    http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/f...d.php?t=411341

    I found it after I started this one. You can put your name on a date for testing and chat with other ladies as well.

    Will be talking with you both soon


 

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