Reading the above post about having an only child reminded me of something that was said to me regarding my eldest DD. She was an only child for 11 years before I had my DS.
My uncle's wife ( I won't call her my aunt) used to go on, all the time about my DD being 'spoilt' because she was an only child at the time.
I said to uncle's Mrs "just because she is an only child doesn't necessarily mean she is spoilt!'. And she wasn't . I had to work full time when i was a single mum and my supposedly 'spoilt' DD never had a brand new school uniform (all second hand) and had to walk herself the 2 klms to and from school while I was at work. Now I remember back to it this woman really p!ssed me off.
There was no telling her that just because DD was an only child didn't mean she was a spoilt, overindulged brat. Some people are just thick
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12-06-2011 14:35 #201
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12-06-2011 14:52 #203
Another Christian woman told her that her lost babies would go to hell as they hadn't been baptised. I'm not sure I believe in God, but if he exists, and if he would let a little baby that never had a chance to be born go to hell because it couldn't be baptised, then he's not a very nice God!
As for me, probably the rudest thing ever said to me was by my own mother not a stranger. I told her I had lost 10kg, and she replied I still had 30 to go! Thanks for the support Mum. Not that I expected anything else, she also told my sister that she was disappointed when I got pregnant as she thought I was the only smart one (as my sisters had kids and I hadn't until then)!
So it just goes to show that some people should think before opening their mouths.
12-06-2011 15:18 #204
MIL always critised the fact I will be going back to work when baby is 8 weeks old and DP will be SAHD. She said to him I'm not a real mother and when was he going to find a real one. Needless to say I dont really speak to her unless there is no other option. Rude rude old fashioned b!tch.
13-06-2011 05:23 #205
Brodiebunch, your post reminded me of what a number of people said to me when I found out both my twins were boys. My eldest is also on the spectrum & a few people said what a shame the twins would be boys too. Fortunately it looks like both twins will not be on the spectrum, but if they were, then having a few more like my first would be wonderful as he is a fantastic boy.
13-06-2011 09:20 #206
13-06-2011 14:58 #207Senior Member
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Well, she's been dead for 15 years you pr!ck and if you had ever bothered to talk to your staff like actual people you would know that.
I've also had the whole "What a disappointment, we always expected she would be the one to make something of herself" type comments from my own father and grandmother, simply because I had a child at 21. Um, a) it's not that young, b) even if it was, it's not a life sentence to poverty and there are plenty of pathways to further education available should I choose to take them, c) it's not an indication that all I want out of life is to sit at home on Centrelink, it indicates that I want to nurture my own children and it's a great shame that you are choosing not to be a part of their lives.
Why people can't be more supportive just baffles me. Perhaps if family and society gave young mothers a break their morale would be a little higher and they wouldn't face the struggles that so many do.
13-06-2011 16:50 #208
These are all just awful! People can be so unbelievably rude.
I don't have kids yet so one of the rudest things anyone has said to me recently is (from a girl I went to school with and her husband. They have two kids, and I was seeing them for the first time since having them); "So you don't have kids yet? And you're HOW old? I don't know how you do it. Life just isn't meaningful without kids."
Meanwhile I am TTC and failing every month. Cheers for that.
The other thing was when I was about 14, and I had just started working at the local woolies. A middle aged man told me my Mum should have just had an abortion, because I couldn't figure out how to process his transaction.
Then when I was about 19 (and still working at Woolies) there was another guy who came through my register with a little girl who would have been about 4 or 5. I love kids, so I immediately start chatting to her, and I ask her what she wants to be when she grows up. She says she wants to work in a shop like me. Her Dad looks mortified and says; "No sweetie. You won't work in a shop like this. Jobs in shops are for people that aren't very clever ... and you're a very clever little girl".
I ignored him and said to the little girl; "Working here is fun and I do it to pay for me to go to big people school. When I'm finished going to school, I'm going to be a doctor".
The look on the Dad's face was priceless!
I'm always SUPER nice to the checkout people whenever we go shopping now! They put up with so much!
13-06-2011 18:32 #209
13-06-2011 19:55 #210
I use to work at Bunnings. Some of the sh!t I use to put up with from blokes was appalling. Most of the tradies were nice. It was generally your weekend DIY person who liked to think they knew way more than a female. Admittedly some did but I did and still do know a fair bit about a variety of things. Gardening was out of my league but tools, builders hardware, indoor and outdoor timber I can do. They don't let morons (generally) be in charge of hire shop on three weeknights and run hireshop and service desk on the weekends (sorry, bit of a vent).
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