We went through the process of telling my parents we were pregnant, they weren't happy (we were only 18/19 at the time) but said they'd support us no matter what, then we told ex-DP's sister and she was stoked. Told his dad- he refused to speak to either of us again (was about 2 weeks i think he stopped talking to us), spoke to his mum and she 'was furious', my parents called her and then called me back to tell me not to talk to her for a few days because she had asked my parents to tell us to abort DD.
I spoke to my ex-MIL about it later on and she confirmed she said that, even now when DD is 4.5yr she still tells me that i should have aborted DD and never had her.
WTF? how could you ask ur son to abort his baby? ask your future DIL to abort her baby?
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31-05-2011 17:33 #121
31-05-2011 17:38 #122Senior Member
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The rudest one for me from memory was when I was in a lift with my first bub, he was probably 1-2yo. A lady got in the lift with me, gave me an obviously filthy look, tut-tutted and shook her head and said-
"oh it's terrible."
Me- what's terrible?
Her- you teenage GIRLS! Kids having kids you are! Terrible!
Me- erm actually I'm 21.
Her. Oh. Well. You don't look it! You look about 15!
Me- yeah well I'm 21 and I'm also married.
Her- *rushes out of lift* LOL.
I also get the "are they to the same father" comments because my eldest is darker like his dad and my 2 youngest are fair like me. I've even had someone say in a really 'I'm sorry to hear that' kind of voice- "oh.... is your eldest's dad lebanese?".... Um no he's not, yes they have the same dad and if he was lebanese why would that be a problem???
31-05-2011 17:59 #123
Oh my gosh i dont even think i can remember everything that was said to me..
Here are ones i do remember..
When i was pregnant i was made to feel really insecure about my size. When i was past 30 weeks thats when peoples, especially customers would comment. One man asked if i was pregnant and i said yes he then asked how long i had left i think i said 2 months and he said "wow are you having twins??" and then another day a lady needed help with a particular wine and we got to talking and she asked how far along i was and when i said she said "wow you are TINY!!" I left work at 34 weeks and i remember my last shift a lady who i served quite often came in and shouted "you haven't had the baby yet??" and i was always told that i looked like i was about to pop.. ohh all those comments were so annoying and made me feel terrible.
Then when DD was born she was really unsettled one day in woolies so i got her out of the pram, she had no socks on but she was warm and i had a blanket around her and an older lady came over to me and yelled "oh take her home and put some clothes on her!" i just stood there. Another time i gave DD a bottle while i was waiting for DP to come out of a shop so she would have had to be atleast 4 months or so and this lady came over to me and started rambling "i see young parents these days and it angers me how they are doing it all wrong.... they should be breastfeeding not using these disgusting bottles.." oh that reminds me when one of my co workers lectured me about not BF..
Just last week i had DD in the child seat of a trolley and i was outside the post office when i overheard a group of eldering women talking and one said "oh how inappropriate that baby is FAR too small to be in that trolley!" its because DD is so small that people dont believe shes almost 11 months.
31-05-2011 18:11 #124Senior Member
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I was at a funeral with 4mth DS and had an old lady do a cross with her finger on DS' forehead and say a blessing after yelling at me for not having him baptized
31-05-2011 18:37 #125
DD is now 21 months and around the same time as her 2nd birthday i'll be going back to see both our families and i know i'm going to get more crap for still bfeeding
31-05-2011 18:53 #126
31-05-2011 19:49 #127
My son is 3 and a half and thankfully i've not had any rude comments.. Some annoying ones but certainly not rude
01-06-2011 08:40 #128
The rudest comment I've ever gotten was from my fiancé's nan, but was said to him, not me.
We had gone to visit her with our first baby, for the first time.. He was only about 2 or 3 months old.
She was talking to him about the sister of a friend of his who had recently gotten married. After talking about the wedding, and the husband, she said to my partner (we weren't yet engaged at that time) "you should have married her".
There was me, sitting right there, his newborn in my arms, wishing that we were to be married, and I felt totally dissed and about this >< big.
01-06-2011 09:29 #129Happy family
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Well its not baby related and it wasnt said to me but i was there
I was in the city with my friend and it was a really hot day and this man said to her as we were crossing the road 'oh its really hot today isnt it, you must have a sweaty box' what do you say to that
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01-06-2011 10:09 #130Junior Member
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I haven't had too many bad comments,
Just "oh she's small isn't she" about my DD, no she's in the 90th percentile for her age but was born with lots of hair so people assume shes older.
My sister has had lots of nasty comments, she was 20 when she had her DD and would always get people coming up to her at the shops saying
"oh another baby bonus baby", "such a shame another teenage mother" etc
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