Wow, can't believe you got so many donors to choose from - that's terrific. I wasn't sure if you could go through Clinics here using donor sperm from overseas or whether it is a private arrangement. Do they have the same tests run on the donor sperm that we do here? Do you have a link to a web site or anything I could look at? Sorry for all the questions but I'm really interested!
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20-05-2011 19:14 #11
20-05-2011 21:11 #12
I don't think all clinics use overseas donors but it's worth asking around. They have lots of test also , you can also get photos of them as adults and as a baby they all there education, if they have long eyelashes ( important for me as I don't have any ) and that info also goes for family members. I think mine came from Cryobank in Brisbane and I think they use xytex think I Speke that correctly. My specialist also going to do assisted hatching for me because of my age. I'm excited and looking forward to July keep looking at the drugs in my fridge and looking forward to using them. When do you think you will start your cycle, also has anyone suggested acupuncture it is meant to be good for fertility I've been going every week since my last cycle failed I figure anything is worth a shot. Feel free to ask any questions nice to go through it with other singles
20-05-2011 21:14 #13
Sugarberry I'm sorry to hear about your last cycle hope your feeling better and goodluck for your June
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20-05-2011 21:18 #14
I'm pregnant, having used a known donor. I've been very lucky to both find him and get pregnant despite a fairly low AMH with no assistance. I have had a lot of support from the SMC Australia group though. We have a local single mums by choice group who meet regularly and it's fantastic to have their pooled knowledge and experience. I'd suggest you google for them!
20-05-2011 22:14 #15
Hi Single Ladies
Just want to pop in and offer any support I can for those choosing the single mum to be doing ivf route as I have loads of experience and loads of advice I can share. (AMUM21 mentioned me in a previous post ). I started ivf at age 38 and after 2 1/2 long years I gave birth to my beautiful angel Evie who is 10 months old today. I did have a few fertility issues so my journey was a little tougher than expected but totally worth the end result. All I can say at this point is stay strong, be positive, and keep your eye on the prize no matter how tough it may get for you, perserverance is the key. My mind set was 'this is what I have to do to get my baby' end of story. I did not let ivf rule my life, it just became part of it. TTC is a different process for everyone, there isn't always a one size fits all protocol, so it's important to be proactive in your treatment. Investigate, research and get to understand the processes if you can and don't be afraid to ask your FS or clinic nurses questions. I think I hounded my FS and he was probably glad to see the back of me but if I didn't do the research I did, I think I would have taken his advice that I was a hard case & may have given up. Yes there were times I thought it was never going to happen, but I just could not give in to the failed cycles, I just knew that I was going to be a mum, and I am one very lucky mum.
I also will say this, it's not always as hard as it was for me doing so many cycles, lots of people are fortunate that it doesn't take long at all, some of us do have to look at it as a long term thing. I told my FS I only need the one golden egg, it was just a matter of finding it. I did everything I possibly could to enhance my chances - acupuncture, herbs, vitamins, relaxation - even learned to meditate, something I had never thought I'd get into but it helped put me in a good mindset.
I thoroughly recommend DHEA for us older ladies, it has worked wonders for a lot of my BH friends - it's not for everyone but it's worth trying, particularly for poor responders and poor egg quality.
As for support, I found it very important to have my closest family and friends back me up, without them I would have managed but not as well. Everyone has been fantastic and backed me 100%, there were some negative people but I chose not to involve them and honestly didn't care what they thought. If people care enough about you, they will understand your choice, and you must remember it's your choice not anyone elses. I often find that the majority of people are completely amazed and happy for me and my daughter. It is THE best decision I have ever made and THE best thing I ever did in my life. I get very excited when I see other single women go for it too.
Without a doubt this website and the ladies on it, I certainly would not be in the position I am in today. I found out so much information chatting to the ladies on here, there is always someone that can answer anything you want to know, and it's also very useful to just vent about what you are feeling. Only others that are also experiencing what you are going through can truly relate to you.
Anyway, I am happy to share anything you want to know from my experience. Feel free to PM me if you like as it will be quicker for me to answer, however I will check in on this thread from time to time.
I wish all you ladies the best of luck with your ttc journey, you all will make wonderful mums one day.
20-05-2011 22:34 #16
Sugarberry - I am so very sorry to hear of your news. I m/c at 5 weeks and also at 10 weeks. It is a difficult time, it really threw me but one of the things that helped me get thru something like this was that I knew I could get pregnant. . I am glad that you are looking forward to your next cycle. hope you are ok.
I did find out I had an issue that caused miscarriage which was ANA Antibodies. For this I was treated with clexane (a blood thinning injection) and prednisone to suppress my immunity (the antibodies were attacking my embyros). Some people only need a low dose asprin (like cartia). It's suppose to stop clots forming in the lining and around the embryo so the embryo has an easier time implanting.
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20-05-2011 23:26 #17
Dees - thanks so much for the information. I imagine if my clinic used overseas clinics that they would already have used it to cut down the waiting time, but I will ask all the same. I had a quick look online and am amazed at what information you get from the donors in the US than you do here. Very tempting!! I can imagine how excited you are with the drugs waiting in the fridge. Just counting the sleeps now until you get started I bet. I'll be the same. I'm still a few months off I'm sure. I have regular cycles and FH has only been tested once but in the normal range so hopefully when the donor sperm is available I'll be ready to roll. I haven't tried acupuncture but I will certainly look into it. Thanks for the advice. I'm looking forward to travelling this journey with you
Singlepregnantchick - thanks for the information on SMC Australia. I checked out their website and will look into it further. Such a wonderful source of support for many people I'm sure.
Kismet - So so so happy to hear about your success and the wonderful arrival of your beautiful daughter Evie. It sounds like it was a long road of ups and downs and I'm so glad it worked out for you. I will definitely take your advice and keep my eyes on the prize. I've investigated and researched low ovarian reserve and am now taking DHEA. I've only been on it a couple of weeks but will be a few months off starting ICSI so hopefully it will have had time to kick in fully by my first cycle. Like all of us I'm hoping it will work sooner rather than later as financially, it will become difficult to have ongoing treatment. Here's hoping I spit out a decent number of eggs the first time around! My FS has been very supportive, but indicated she probably wouldn't give it more than a few cycles due to my very low AMH unless I had a viable embryo during that time. Well, I'll hold my thoughts on that until I get started and see how I go. I don't like the idea of having an end point determined by someone else and think I'm just going to have to go with how I feel. She was lovely though and very supportive so happy to stick with her. Thank you also for sharing with us your history. It's lovely to hear that there was a happy outcome for you, despite having some very difficult times to get through. You are a source of inspiration for us. Thank you again for taking the time to write. Greatly appreciated. Evie has an awesome Mum.
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22-05-2011 15:48 #18
I am not single, But I have been through the donor sperm thing. I have seen the beautiful Sugarberry go through a cycle at the same time as myself, And i take my hat off to you ladies! I would do the same if I was in your situation! But you must be so strong to go through this with only family and no partner. Dont forget if you ever need to talk to people who understand and care, we are here on Bubhub! big hugz and to you all!
Wishmeluck _ I, like dees had overseas donors to choose from in Brisbane QFG through xytex(USA). 25-30 donors, with heaps of info like dees was saying. They supply info like education, job, pics, eye/hair colour, as far back in the family tree as the donor can remember with all big health issues or carriers as well as basic hair/eye info, eye sight, lip size, body size, acne, skin colour, blood type, hobbies, interests, the donors even write a little essay on themselves. Its like a resume for genetic inheritance and personal interests. Lol. It is actually fun picking through to find the perfect one. Also I had no wait with the first 2 times, but the 3rd time, I had to order a vial in, so waited 2 months for that. I have had to choose donors 3 times, and me and my Fiance are very attached to a particular donor now. Once you find that special donor, and go through this process a few times, you make a bond with that particular donor. I hope you find an awesome donor that u r happy with! Also the rules are, that the donor is only allowed to successfully make babies for a limited 10 families. So buy as many vials as you can afford, so they don't run out of your favorite! We could only afford 1 vial at a time, so its a horrible feeling when they run out.
My thoughts and wishes are with you lovely ladies, and I hope that your wishes come true sooner rather than later!
22-05-2011 20:29 #19
Thanks for your post. I'm overwhelmed by the lovely support that we're all being given. It is a difficult decision to go it alone, but made much easier through the lovely comments made by so many terrific people on this site. It really makes you feel like you're not alone. I will certainly be looking into the overseas donor angle and will call Concept tomorrow to see if it's something they will consider. I like that you get much more information and that even though I may still choose to wait a few months to let the DHEA do its job, it would be wonderful to know you're not limited to 3 choices, none of which may suit!! All the very best for your FET tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you and sending lots of your way!!
22-05-2011 21:03 #20
Wishmeluck - from what I have heard and understand, only some clinics will import sperm from OS, I hope your clinic is one of them. I am in NSW and my sperm came from VIC however the legislation changed whilst I was doing my cycles with my sperm and VIC do not export sperm to NSW anymore. Lucky for me that I was successful because I picked good genes , and if I want to try again I can get the same donor even though he is not on the availability list anymore. Because there is such a shortage of sperm my clinic was successful in lobbying to start their own sperm bank and are currently recruiting donors, they have a restriction that donors can only successfully help 5 families. . I am not sure if they are only supplying locally or 'spreading' it out so to speak. I could find out if you like. Is Concept in WA?
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