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    Ugh - It's a horrible feeling.

    During a recent discussion with my mum I told her 'you never said you loved me, you never showed me any affection', her response was 'it was easier to love a baby'... It turns out she had issues loving me as I became more independent.

    It hurt, but it was honest and I'm glad she acknowledges it as her lack of love towards me has scarred our relationship majorly.

    I love her, but I'm still unsure if she loves me or is capable of loving me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LPerth79 View Post
    I know how you feel.

    A couple of years ago I was let on to the news that my mother exclaimed "I finally have my little girl" when my sister was born.

    I am older than my sister

    That is awful


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    Quote Originally Posted by BlissedOut View Post
    Ugh - It's a horrible feeling.

    During a recent discussion with my mum I told her 'you never said you loved me, you never showed me any affection', her response was 'it was easier to love a baby'... It turns out she had issues loving me as I became more independent.

    It hurt, but it was honest and I'm glad she acknowledges it as her lack of love towards me has scarred our relationship majorly.

    I love her, but I'm still unsure if she loves me or is capable of loving me.



    (((HUGS)))

    I really hope my DD never feels this way. I know it is my issue - she is a beautiful, funny, clever girl.

    Some of these posts are breaking my heart. Huge huge hugs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by overitand36 View Post
    if it was told in the right circumstances in support for a daughter feeling the same about their newborn it may be ok

    lots of people feel this and it comes into the range of normal

    Just because something is common, doesn't make it normal. A lack of compassion for other humans is common, but it's really not normal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Freya View Post
    I think how she said it so casually is a bit off, have you spoken to her about it?

    She realised immediately and said sorry. It was one of those thoughtless comments that just came out. She's done the same thing when talking about why she didn't breastfeed me - literally said that she found the idea of me near her breasts repulsive.

    Huge hugs to everyone who has experienced similar moments. It's so sad for us and our Mums.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Singlepregnantchick View Post
    She realised immediately and said sorry. It was one of those thoughtless comments that just came out. She's done the same thing when talking about why she didn't breastfeed me - literally said that she found the idea of me near her breasts repulsive.

    Huge hugs to everyone who has experienced similar moments. It's so sad for us and our Mums.

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    Has anyone considered PND? It's common, and not always recognised.

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    From about the age of 18 my mum has said a few times that if she had her time over again she wouldnt have had children. she then followed on to say that she is too selfish.
    regardless of the reason its not nice to hear.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nellpops View Post

    From about the age of 18 my mum has said a few times that if she had her time over again she wouldnt have had children. she then followed on to say that she is too selfish.
    regardless of the reason its not nice to hear.
    Similar here. Now that I am a mum my mum has said a few times "if I'd have known how hard it was going to be I probably wouldn't have had children".

    Also when I was about 20 and we were arguing she told me I was the reason she tried to take her life. Ouch. I had no idea she had tried to take it at all.

    Have to agree with OP. Don't tell them. Ever.


 

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