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    Default For those with bonding issues

    [Sorry if this should be somewhere more specific mods - feel free to relocate]

    I'd really recommend you never tell your children. A couple of days ago my Mum was on the phone, chatting about how lovely it was that Esme can now tell her that she loves her. She then went onto say how she'd been amazed at how much love she'd felt holding Esme in her arms as a newborn. Then she finished up by remarking that it was strange how she'd never felt that way about me. Ouch. Not entirely surprising, but all the same - I did not need to hear it.

    So I'd like to suggest that you don't ever bring it up in conversation, not even in 37 years time. Don't open up. Don't share. Nobody needs to hear that their mother didn't love them when they were a baby.

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    (((HUGS))))

    I have bonding issues with DD and I have and am continuing to do everything to rectify this. I try my best to never let on and I never will.

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    Oh that's harsh!!

    There are a lot of things parents shouldn't tell there kids and I think this is #1.

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    My mum has told me she did, I already knew it though! I know it's not a reflection of me though, it's her issue.

    Much love M xoxo

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    i'm sorry that she told you. that sounds like something my mum would come out with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Freya View Post
    My mum has told me she did, I already knew it though! I know it's not a reflection of me though, it's her issue.

    Much love M xoxo
    Right back at you! It wasn't really news, but my goodness it was horrid to hear. I think it goes back generations.

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    I think how she said it so casually is a bit off, have you spoken to her about it?

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    if it was told in the right circumstances in support for a daughter feeling the same about their newborn it may be ok

    lots of people feel this and it comes into the range of normal

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    Aww hun, that must have stung.

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    I know how you feel.

    A couple of years ago I was let on to the news that my mother exclaimed "I finally have my little girl" when my sister was born.

    I am older than my sister


 

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