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    I enjoyed the peace and quiet after the kids were asleep. I would use the time to read or watch tv, i'm quite a solitary person so that part wasn't too hard for me.
    If i felt lonely i would just go to bed and sleep
    Do you have skpye? or are you able to have regular phone calls? That always helps to
    You could organise a girls night in or something with friends if you want company - something to look forward to.

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    Damn just lost my post. ok lets try again

    We're on the first week of a 3 month deployment. It's our first long deployment. I've got an almost 3 yr old and a 4 month old.

    The advice i was given most was to plan things. Someone visiting or taking the kids somewhere special etc. It makes the time pass quicker if you have things to look forward to.

    I definately agree with the carrier. Its a life saver. At first it's hard to think about going out with two by yourself. BUt it gets easier.

    About the housework...well im still working on that one I think just doing little bits when you can is the only way. And definitely take any offers of help you can.

    As for feeling lonely at night...That seems the hardest part. im using the time to get some study done. Maybe get some new books from the library or hire some new DVD's? anything for distraction.

    Feel free to pm me if you want to chat. (although these days i spend more time in the purple bubble then here )

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    He'll be out field for the second half and has been told not to take his laptop while he's away but I can skype with my sisters in Brisbane.

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    Quote Originally Posted by elleandsam View Post
    How do you stop from getting lonely? When the children go to sleep at night?
    Hi my DH left for rotation for 7 months when our DS was 8 weeks old, to save from the lonelyness ( ds was sleep through already) i saved the cleaning for at night i caught up on my fav tv series and chatted on facebook etc i also caught up on reading and did alot of painting ........
    it really is tough but you will be fine! and its so tough on them to being away from family.

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    I am going on 4 months next week, so know exactly how your feeling. Week 1-2 is hard, then the next few are easier as you settle into a routine. The last 2 will fly by as you use it as a countdown (ie. 12 days til he is home)... If you know when he is coming back it's not too bad as you can plan around it, i find the hadest thing not knowing when you will see him again.

    Housework - I do what I can, but if it doesn't get done I've learnt to let it go. It will still be there tomorrow!

    Shopping - my mum comes with me, makes it much easier with a second person. If he can't come, I grab what I can get in a basket and get out of there before I go crazy!

    Nights - these are the hardest. I use the first half hour to clean an tidy the kids toys, then settle down by 8.30 with a magazine or tv show and try head to bed pretty early.

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    Also i always find the week just before he leaves and the first couple of weeks he is gone the hardest. I have a tendency to snap at DH and start fights the week before he goes (because it is easier to see someone leave if you are mad at them - it's a common coping mechanism) so if you find that happening don't worry too much, it is a normal reaction.
    The first couple weeks are the worst as you need to get into your own routine and get used to not having your partner there - once that time has passed it gets a lot easier. It really does get easier
    Having regular things to look forward to is great advice. I used to do a tafe course and went on campus once a week for 3 hours - it was my thing that i looked forward to each week. That was no longer possible once i had two kids so i found other things to look forward to - i often plan to stay at my inlaws for a few days in the middle of DH's time away so i can look forward to that (and bonus by the end of my stay i get a bit sick of my MIL and enjoy being home alone alone again ).
    It really breaks the time up and makes it go faster if you have things to look forward to.

    I found time away from DH went faster after i had 2 kids as i they kept me so busy.

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    I wish I could be more help but I find the nights the most difficult! Dd goes to sleep around 7 and I'm not the type of person go enjoys 'alone' time! Some things I have done though: :beading ( making jewelry) ok so I'm not any good at it but it does pass the time!
    : sorting out DD's clothes (she's growing so fast)
    : catching up on my fav tv shows
    : sorting out our next holiday when dh is back!
    : reading bubhub!
    And I also tend to go to bed not long after she has. It's hard to not have anyone to pass her to if I need a break so I'm generally pretty exhausted by about 8:30! During the days I make sure I've got things planned and I'm out of the house... Being out all day makes you want to be at home!!



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    It will be hard at first, but once you get a routine happening it's not bad at all!
    I have a 6yo 4yo and a 3 month old baby and my DH works away on the mines, the hardest part is missing him, especially when the kids are asleep and it's just me and the tv.

    In all honesty, things run so much smoother when DH is away, I get the housework done, dinner is always served around the same time the kids are organized for bed by 6:45

    It does get hard, but you cope, because you have too, and you do miss him so so much, but there is always phone calls and skype, not the same as the real thing but still nice.
    Maybe make up a calendar for the kids, ( and you) counting down the weeks & sleeps till daddy comes home?

    Goodluck, it will all work out!


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    Oh it sucks doesn't it?

    We have no family here, so I tend to go back to Newcastle (no family closer than that and we are in Brisbane) while DH goes away for long periods of time.

    When it's just a few days/a week etc I manage on my own. Some things that help:

    - Do grocery shopping online. It's not that expensive to get delivered.

    - Get out of the house as much as you can in the day. Nothing worse than feeling like a hermit!

    - When the kids go to bed: Watch a girly dvd or tv series, read a book, have a bubble bath, a glass of wine, make yourself something yummy for dinner, ring up a friend for a chat etc.

    I hope the 9 weeks goes fast. I know how horrible it can be. I guess the biggest tip is to stay busy



 

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