Wow trish I'm sorry you had to go through that at the hospital we can really be our own worst enemy some times ... But sometimes when we feel better it's other people who drag us down because of our past.
thanks for your responses... I think maybe I'm just sometimes not ready to grow up... But on the other end of the spectrum.. There's nothing I want more then to marry DP and have his babies. We are TTC and maybe the failure of that is piling on top of everything else.
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29-03-2011 14:19 #11
29-03-2011 14:27 #12Senior Member
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You have to focus your energy elsewhere and remember that those memories you think were great probably were not that at all.
Whenever I got an urge I think back to the time I was almost raped due to the fact I had gone way overboard with it one night. Luckily someone stopped it happening. What a sight I must have been, covered in vomit with knickers down and someone still saved me. I rarely speak about it but just know that if you focus on other things you will forget it all.
I have a great career and kids now and while I sometimes wonder about that life I know I could never return to it.
19-09-2011 13:07 #13Senior Member
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19-09-2011 13:22 #14
As for addiction I've never had an addiction but DP used to take a fair few things and doesn't seem to struggle or miss it too much he says I am enough and he doesn't need the drugs now BUT and I think this is a very important but- he **CHOSE** to quit himself, I didn't push him or even ask it of him he got off that plane with it leaving his system and has been great ever since. He does still smoke but has set his quit date himself and I am happy with that. His mum wants me to make him quit but I believe it really needs to come from yourself for it to stick properly I hope it gets easier though AP xx
17-11-2011 14:13 #15Bubhub Ambassador - tongue in cheek
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I dont have the answer but Im hoping it does and just thought i would let you know you are not alone
Ive had 2 stints with 2 different substances. The first 'stint' lasted 3 years, then i had 6 months 'off' before i fell in love with something else. I only quit when I discovered i was pregnant with DD (26 months ago) and while i have no interest in the first substance, i still think/dream about the 2nd one.
Heres a running comentry in my head.
'surely just once wouldnt hurt' I know dam well it will because i tried to quit so many times and every 'just once' turned into another few months of abuse.
'it was so much fun/i wish i could go back there'.. ah. no i dont. I hated being a slave to my addiction, at the time I always felt so guilty because I wanted to quit and couldnt. It was a constant embarressment. And while I found it 'fun', no one else in my life did and everything so decayed because of it.
'it was such a good life'.. how could i possibly know that when i was out of it all the time anyway. I never had any money. and had to hide away so no one knew how bad it really was. That doesnt sound like a good life to sober me.
Im guessing it goes away sometime between 2 yrs 2 months and 5 years 8 months (due to being over the first substance but not the 2nd )
If you ever want to chat/vent you can pm me. I, like you, am usually distracted by my daily life but there are times i think (or like last night, dream) about using again x
29-06-2012 10:33 #16
I don't think so
29-06-2012 13:51 #17
I think it does, eventually... took about 18 months for intense cravings to go for me, and another couple of years to not wish I had some at certain times.
Actually I still do that sometimes - but if it magically appeared now I wouldn't take it. I'd certainly be tempted though.
I can go into details if you'd like, I'm just being vague because everyone else is.
29-06-2012 14:09 #18
Thanks for the hugs x
29-06-2012 15:47 #19
Would love to go into more detail but I'll wait and see if we get that new section
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