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    Hmm not going to say much but shameful secret is my depression during pregnancy was so bad and still is that it's going to pass on to her like hereditary... I got of meds when I found out was pregnant doc agreed...I'm just happy I survived because I was close to suicide ....😢

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    Quote Originally Posted by SoThisIsLove View Post
    Luananjo. Its tough. Good on u for getting help. Don't beat yourself up about it. I can relate to everything u said and I'm sure most other mums can to at one time or another. Learning to forgive yourself is something that took me a while to get the hang of. Big hugs
    Can I ask how you went about learning to forgive yourself, or where you started? I feel so guilty about how I've behaved and not seeking help when I first knew something wasn't right. And bizarrely feel guilty for actually having PND, which doesn't make sense, because I've always been such a strong advocate for people looking after their mental health.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maddmumma View Post
    Hmm not going to say much but shameful secret is my depression during pregnancy was so bad and still is that it's going to pass on to her like hereditary... I got of meds when I found out was pregnant doc agreed...I'm just happy I survived because I was close to suicide ....😢
    I don't think that's shameful at all. I think it shows that you're stronger than you perhaps thought you were. Your daughter is lucky to have a mama who knows how important it is to look after your mental health as well as physical health. Big hugs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maddmumma View Post
    Hmm not going to say much but shameful secret is my depression during pregnancy was so bad and still is that it's going to pass on to her like hereditary... I got of meds when I found out was pregnant doc agreed...I'm just happy I survived because I was close to suicide ....������
    You have nothing to be ashamed of Luv. Depression is an illness...like diabetes is. And like diabetes, some forms of depression need daily medication to be taken so you can stay well.

    I know because I have Clinical Depression & an anxiety disorder too. I went off all my meds before we started IVF and it was really bloody hard at times!!

    You did beautifully to keep it together as best as you could while you were pregnant & now you're back on your meds things will hopefully start to improve as each day passes. You are stronger than you believe or know.

    I also worry about my daughter inheriting the depression gene that runs in my family & although she may be susceptible because of it, there's every chance she won't which is the same for your daughter too.
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    Thank you for the support I was so scared to post

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    Default Motherhood: The Shameful Secrets

    Ok. Confession time. Since having dd2 (7 weeks) I've really struggled with dd1 who turns 3 in just over a month. She was the apple of my eyes, I adored her until dd2 came along. I know it's a big adjustment for her but she is driving me bonkers and I'm really struggling to find that empathy and patience for her. She is ten times more difficult than my beautiful placid baby. She's rude, demanding and refuses to do anything with DH. I've given her all I've got since dd2 was born and all this extra effort has amounted to naught.

    Today she is sick. Her whining is just like nails on a blackboard. I have zero sympathy for her. I just want to put her in a bin.

    Feeling guilty for feeling this way. I DO love her, but to be honest right now I prefer dd2.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    Ok. Confession time. Since having dd2 (7 weeks) I've really struggled with dd1 who turns 3 in just over a month. She was the apple of my eyes, I adored her until dd2 came along. I know it's a big adjustment for her but she is driving me bonkers and I'm really struggling to find that empathy and patience for her. She is ten times more difficult than my beautiful placid baby. She's rude, demanding and refuses to do anything with DH. I've given her all I've got since dd2 was born and all this extra effort has amounted to naught.

    Today she is sick. Her whining is just like nails on a blackboard. I have zero sympathy for her. I just want to put her in a bin.

    Feeling guilty for feeling this way. I DO love her, but to be honest right now I prefer dd2.
    I understand exactly how you feel. Hugs

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    Default Motherhood: The Shameful Secrets

    Hugs Little Miss Sunshine. I feel the same way about my 3yo DD and I don't have a newborn! She's being so difficult and defiant lately. Tells me to "leave me alone" about 100 times a day, screams at me, fights with her brother, yells at her father etc etc. She can be completely lovely and adorable one minute, screaming banshee the next. So much fun. Sigh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Californication View Post
    Hugs Little Miss Sunshine. I feel the same way about my 3yo DD and I don't have a newborn! She's being so difficult and defiant lately. Tells me to "leave me alone" about 100 times a day, screams at me, fights with her brother, yells at her father etc etc. She can be completely lovely and adorable one minute, screaming banshee the next. So much fun. Sigh.
    Sounds like my ds1 😒

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    My ds1 and ds2 keep making it difficult for me to become the parent I always imagined I'd be.


 

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