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    Quote Originally Posted by jadorevous View Post
    This.
    I found what was said in the other area inflamatory and disgusting!!
    couldn't agree more.

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    Thanks ladies

    Rule Number something something something: Dont seek medical help for the stepkid/s without Bm. Dont seek legal advice without Bm. Dont even ring and seek advice from a child psychologist without BM. After all, you wanted this shared parenting right? Please Note:This does NOT work in reverse, Bm reserves the right to tell your DH about any medical issues, doctors visits, counselling calls etc weeks maybe even months after it happened.

    Rule blah blah: Yes, step-parents have a say in the childs upbringing. BM will tell everyone with pride that their child has four parents. Unless of course you happen to say something she doesnt agree with, then that number is reduced to three. Two if DH also disagrees......

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    As a half-time stepmum to a 10yo boy, I've been reading this thread with interest and many emphatic nods of agreement. TurnedBatty, I was wondering when the medical thing would come up. Whenever I've used my own judgement to give SS medicine and word has gotten back to BM, DH has been subjected to an interrogation. Never mind that I have a background in health care ... I'm obviously going to poison her son. And oh lord, when I recommended a chiropractor who specialises in children to help sort SS' chronic back pain, boy did that go over well. Even though after two treatments SS happily related that he was feeling much better.

    It's a thankless job ... thankfully, things have gotten much better as time has passed. Unfortunately, sometimes you catch grief no matter what you do.

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    Medical can be a big issue. Our latest one was DH getting blasted for calling and seeking advice in order to make the changeovers easier. Bm blew her top because they are supposed to be doing everything together, yet not one phone call that ss was in hospital. Darn shame.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wicket View Post
    love this one, laughing my head off.

    I tooooootally agree about moving this to the private area if we can, after yesterday i felt terrible, like someone had sort of invaded our one area where we can be honest about all this stuff - i never see anything on the single parents thread from step mums we are like leopars until now i only ever thought there was one or two of us on here.

    Hahaha - looks like there's a few of us hey!
    how many are shared care?
    how many are full time step mums???

    im a full timer :-/
    (oops..... im not allowed to whinge! lol)

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    Quote Originally Posted by jen023 View Post
    You have no right to attend any sporting events at school, help within classroom, go to parent teacher...even if bio mum has never set a foot in the school!!

    Even though you have DSS every weekend and all holidays and you pick him up and drop him off almost 2 hours away you have no right to tell centrelink... in case her $$$ goes down...


    Girls after reading these I realise how lucky I am now...it wasn't always like this I used to be able to relate to 99% of all posts

    I saw your signature. Has you DSS come to love with you? How is it going??

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    Oh ladies.... this has made such a difference to my day!!!! I was really stuggling the last few days.... but to know all of you know EXCTLY what it is like.... ah.... such a relief.
    And its all been very funny too!!!!
    Thanks so much for this thread
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    hey nuttamum, full timer here too!

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    I'm I shared care mum here. She is week on week off.

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    My son is 50/50 with his dad, my step son is here sun-fri every second week.

    rule blah blah blah- You can have have the kids extra hours when it suits BM (such as needing to go shopping, she has other things to do) but dont bother asking to pick them up an hour early for a family function. Dont forget she has already been generous enough to you both in allowing her children to visit.


 

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