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    Yup I'm a terrible mum once again I'm very lax a daisy ( or however it is spelt) but I know I won't have spoilt bratty children so I have no issue letting him have 5 more minutes in the park, I have an extremely strong minded toddler he wants what he wants, just like his daddy (in a good way, he is also very kind hearted and generous... I try to hide things that are going to cause him tantrums, maybe I'm lazy.... Oh well

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    Also alot of times when parents say oh it's just easier, it means ohh I can't be bothered explaining myself to someone who is clearly already judging me for what my child is doing

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    Wow, thanks OP... I feel like a failure as a parent. What you see for 5 minutes in regards to a situation, doesnt show how a parent is with their child. Each child is an individual, we're just trying to do our best in life.

    DS2 is 2.5 and is as stubborn as hell. I thought I did pretty well with DS1 and thought DS2 would be the same... I was proven wrong from about 18 months of age and I still struggle at times. Not from a lack of trying either thank you very much.

    I wont be coming back into this thread.

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    Don't sweat it threechooks...their not bullying just trying to make you feel small minded by giving you a post full of sass then acting ignorant about it. Very highschool chic...common on here as green grass & a defense to some deep down pang of thought about points in your opinion. Enjoy your night & opinion...it's yours to have

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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleBlueKisses View Post
    Don't sweat it threechooks...their not bullying just trying to make you feel small minded by giving you a post full of sass then acting ignorant about it. Very highschool chic...common on here as green grass & a defense to some deep down pang of thought about points in your opinion. Enjoy your night & opinion...it's yours to have
    Thankyou

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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleBlueKisses View Post
    Don't sweat it threechooks...their not bullying just trying to make you feel small minded by giving you a post full of sass then acting ignorant about it. Very highschool chic...common on here as green grass & a defense to some deep down pang of thought about points in your opinion. Enjoy your night & opinion...it's yours to have
    Really?

    Actually no. Its not personal at all. So the OP can talk about judging bratty kids and saying she finds it hard not to judge kids behaviour ..and I am a bad person.????

    Far out.
    i dont know who she is. i dont want to make her feel small minded. i would like her to stop judging parents on how they handle a tantrum.

    Its a different opinion...not being high school..not bullying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loving5 View Post
    My no means no. If we have a tantrum then that's the end of whatever we are doing. If I am asked in a nice manner if they can have 10 mins more, they will most probably get it. For me it all about how you go about asking.
    same here.

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    Off to bed, must start work at 6am, I will check this thread with interest tomorrow.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pina Colada View Post
    I pick my battles
    Me too.

    My son is only 27 months, so he is just getting to the stage of carrying on when he wants something. I try to compromise. For example, we were at the supermarket recently and he wanted something to eat in the trolley. I had a packet of figs (which he loves) but he saw the packet of soy chocolates I had bought for my partner's lunches. He started pointing and saying "choc! choc!", but I just hid them and said "no choc". After a couple of minutes, he quite happily took the figs. I felt that was a good compromise (I do let him have chocolates sometimes, but not in the trolley - too messy).

    Sometimes it seems that parents just set rules for the sake of setting rules. I try to make sure that if I say no, it's for a reason.

    I don't think this generation is any more lax then previous ones though.
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    I think there are parents in every generation who are strict and have high expectations of their children and those who are more relaxed.

    I think also there are many and varied reasons as to why a parent may be perceived to be lazy/slack when disciplining their kids.

    The mum may be very tired,stressed ,have financial or personal issues,she may be a single mum etc etc.What we see may be a 5 minute snapshot of a mums day when she is attempting to deal with her childs 15th tanty for the day.Then we all sit around and judge because she doesn't do what WE WOULD DO when she really just wants 5 minutes peace.

    I know i am sometimes judged this way and it hurts.I am on my own and have a very intense,high spirited and willful boy.Sometimes i just get so overwhelmed i let him carry on because i am emotionally drained.

    I think there is usually more to the story.Sometimes theres not but truthfully unless the child is hurting me or my child i don't let it bother me...

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