I hope it has been so quiet in here as you all have been busy getting BFP news. Fingers crossed for you all. No news for us and this month is likely to result in AF turning up on time again as we just haven't managed to DTD. The land purchase is all going through, it will settle whilst we are away. This my gorgy girls will most likely be my last post for 2011 as we are going away a week today. Look out SA and WA - here we come!
I would like to take this opportunity to thank you all for your support through 2011, you have all been my strength and inspiration. I would also like to say that if the opportunity arose to choose you as friends (not just ones who have been thrown together by unfortunate circumstances), I would definietly choose each and every one of you. May love and peace be with you for the rest of 2011 and may joy enter our hearts with the fulfilment of all our dreams in 2012.
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03-12-2011 21:41 #291
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06-12-2011 13:08 #292
dear Sarah, what a lovely post, I have been thinking of you and all the girls and hoping, praying to hear good news soon. Please make some time to get giggy with it!! maybe when you are on holidays! you will come back with more than a tan.xx
Kez, I have been hoping to hear from you how have things been going? My thoughts and prayers are with you also.mwah xo
All you lovely ladies I wish you all a safe and happy Christmas, be kind to your selves and enjoy the festivities.
love Jen xox
07-12-2011 11:55 #293
Well Alex and I trodded off to the FS on Monday to hear the results of all our tests. I was quietly panicking!!! Alex's sperm were given 100% (god, I am NEVER going to hear the end of that one!!! lol) and my test results came back better than expected. FS was pleasantly surprised and said he had to change his plans on treatment because of my results. Who knows with such good results why I wasn't getting preggers??!!! We will start treatment not this cycle (because it's too close to Christmas and they are closing down over Christmas) but next cycle.
I wish all of you lovely girls all the very best for Christmas and hope that we all have some great news to share in the New Year
11-12-2011 19:09 #294Member
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i just came across this forum while looking up info on private health cover and then decided id post.. ive just turned 37 last week, DP is 43 and were about to start TTC #1.
im both excited and petrified at the same time. im so scared that weve left it too long to start trying and it wont happen- which i realise is a very negative frame of mind...so im trying not to think that way but its not easy! DP is a very positive person and he starts to get annoyed when he hears me being negative about it saying ive got no reason to be that way. which i guess he's right about (but obviously our increasing ages terrify me when i read stats etc). ive wanted to TTC for a few years now but the time wasnt right, but were on track now so fingers crossed....
my cycles are usually 27-28 days, and ive bought this little machine from the UK which tells you when your about to ovulate and then when your ovulating. its quite cool actually, its got little lights that go red/green/yellow according to what it wants you to do (ie pee on a stick). its actually meant to be used in the reverse manner, to help people NOT get pregnant so they can abstain etc during fertile times- but ive read reviews from loads of people who have used it to predict ovulation and ended up pregnant. i used it last month and it picked up ovulation spot on (according to when i myself calculated i should be ovulating) so im hoping it will work for me.
anyway..nice to meet you all..merry christmas to everyone : )
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15-12-2011 13:10 #295Member
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Sarah that was such a lovely message you wrote, I feel the same way about you!
Feebs, that is super awesome news....sounds like you have everything you need for this to happen soon, especially with a FS on your side now
Jen, geez you must have a good looking belly going now. I hope you are feeling well and enjoying this wonderful time which I am sure you are
Kez, I have been thinking of you and wishing for the best for you, please god fingers crossed
Hi Juniper, lovely to hear from you and how exciting for you to be starting to try for your very first bubba.
Well girls, I had my first cycle of ivf this past few weeks and now just waiting to see if it worked. I dont find out until next week....but I dont feel pregnant which I have to try and stop thinking of. They didnt get many eggies and the one I had left over didnt make it to freeze stage so I am a bit freaked out that my reserve is very low. There was one good quality one and hopefully he is strong and goes the distance. All I can say is, pray hard!
love and hugs to you all
16-12-2011 14:07 #296
Oh Nelly!! I have my toes and fingers crossed for you, please try not to be too anxious and avoid caffeine,hot baths, any baths actually, and probably sex. I just remember my first FS telling me after transfer "nothing you do will affect the outcome" I truly believe she was wrong, and I also believe a positive outlook helps.
Also avoid pineapple, I was eating one day and read on the internet it can cause uterine contractions. Just more information.
It can drive you mad I swear!!
best of luck and Merry Christmas to all
18-12-2011 09:37 #297Member
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thank you so much....and for the tips . Trying not to be too anxious has been the massive challenge for me...as I suffer from generalised anxiety all my life anyway, but I have managed to keep my anxiety down, well better than I normally am anyway. I have had 2 weeks off work which has helped heaps...and I did resign a few weeks back so I only have one more day left there....my last day at work is the day of the pregnancy test mind you. I will be forced not to think about it I guess being busy finshing up at work! I have been going to an excellent acupunturist too, I changed to one that does japanese acupunture instead of chinese just because my usual acupunturist left, and finding it heaps more relaxing!
also, the clinic gave me the progesterone support/pessaries and so it's mega hard to stop thinking about the symptoms I am getting on and off...as the early symptoms of pregnancy are also potential side effects of the drugs! I have to work hard at shutting down my brain overthinking every little symptom!
We went to a family Christmas party yesterday and my hubby's aunty said in front of everyone at the dinner table, time for another child Renee??? I havent told any of my husband's family including his parents about the ivf as my sister in law is due to have her baby any day now and I just didnt want to go there at this time and also, as much as I love my dear mum in law, she isnt very good to talk to about this stuff. So I nearly burst into tears at the dinner table, it was so awful as it's such an emotional time.
Anyways, enough of me. I hope you are feeling well. Wishing you and your fam a very special Christmas hon.
19-12-2011 10:53 #298
Hey dear Bubhub girls, I wrote this in a private forum and wanted to share the summary of my/our journey. I hope Santa is gearing up to sprinkle whoever is left with babydust in this group and to shower the currently preggy or recent graduands with beautiful healthy baby vibes..... I think about all of you all the time and always send out my prayers. Haven't been in here much and following from the end of this epic read I am now STILL awaiting to transfer those precious frosties..... Here's hoping they go in before Santa, I have to this Friday for my body to behave and do its thang. Will read back on what you have all been up too. It's such an honour and a privilege to know you all this way and boy have we all ridden dat der dem waves together, but you know what, I wouldn't want to have shared it any other way....thank you, I wub you all.... xmwah mwah mwahx
Gorgy girls - My name is Julie and I am 43 yrs of age. My Husband, Sir Richy the kind-hearted, is the same age and we have both been on this Rollercoaster for 4+ yrs.......
After a giddy romantic wedding in Hawaii some 4 yrs ago with our nearest and dearest we fell pregnant immediately in 2007 - it was elation and excitement to boot, a new baby to join our humble home and due on my 40th birthday no less!!!! How perfect huh? Then my first u/s at nearly 11wks revealed the worst. We had just been delivered the first blow of what was to become many disappointments. Those haunting words "there is no heartbeat" rang on in our ears, the news coming from a rather detached Sonographer.......as if she was asking us to shut a window....((
We had just experienced our first 'missed miscarriage' or a 'missed abortion' - charming terminology huh? Anyhoo, we picked ourselves up after the D&C and continued to 'try' - ah we tried and we tried and we tried and we watched another 2yrs pass on the calender. Where was this elusive baby??? I was temping, I was charting, I was OPK'n. I attended the Baby Showers, we rejoiced in my friend's good news, we watched their baby's grow, we smiled and grinned at all the right times, we cried on the inside. For goodness sake, I am a Natural Therapist, what is wrong with me.....??? How can I help other people achieve their health goals when I can't even fix my own broken wheel. My confidence was shaken.....Arrrrggghhh!!!!
We became desperate, we tried CLOMID - ahhhhhh the evil mind altering CLOMID which took me through some dark dark doors buuuuuuuuuutttttt we fell pregnant, I remember my beautiful young Niece and Sister staying with us and giving them the exciting news in the morning!!! My young niece told her friends that Auntie Julie put a stick in a glass of water of now she was having a baby. Ahhhhh Elation again!!! Tears of joy....and then my beautiful soul mate was diagnosed with IgA nephropathy, a chronic disease whereby his kidneys are being slowly destroyed and will require a transplant one day. Um, Ok Ok, wrapping head around shocking news, this is HUGE!!!! - but this baby will keep him strong.....or so I thought.......?!??????
We had not only 1 but 2 early successful ultrasounds, seeing that wee heartbeat and counting our blessings kept us going. Soon it was nearly first trimester time - I think I was about 11wks again....Our Gyno was so thrilled with our continuing results that we just expected another successful u/s. I jumped up on the table quite nervous (always nervous after my first m/c) but excited to greet our baby again and quickly observed the grim faces (from both Hubby and our Gyno), then more silence, I could barely get out the question "Is there a problem?" More nervous gestures and then those dreaded words "I can't seem to find a heartbeat"......... As I walked downstairs to a bigger clinic to see things in greater detail I could barely comprehend what was going on, I was numb. Our baby girl's heartbeat had stopped almost on the day of my u/s, she had grown to size and date perfectly, she was perfect. Maybe the machine's not working I thought....Then it was confirmed downstairs, I fell apart. I was given tissues and pictures in 3D to take home with Richy.
The black days continued, my beautiful Husband was sick and now we were not having a baby. I was scheduled for another D&C, I carried my dead baby around like a Mother in mourning. We requested Genetic Testing and it was confirmed that she was indeed a girl and was a little Downs Syndrome baby. During this 'black' time I reached out to Bonnie Babes - a telephone counseling support line for parents struggling with M/C, stillbirth and loss. They saved my sanity. I literally found myself on the floor in a mess one day and realised I had hit rock bottom. I picked up the phone. They provided great anonymous comfort.
One day they called us back and politely requested if there was anyway I would consider going on 60mins to talk about my experience. I almost balked at them!!! After I put down the phone I suddenly thought about all the women and couples that must be experiencing this journey and decided that I would do it to reach out to them. If we could help one person, one family then our job was done. We would go on TV to reach out to other women and men who may find themselves in that very same dark black hole.
The morning of filming we got a +++ Pg test. OMG! Elation.... The whole experience was positive and my beautiful Husband allowed himself to be interviewed. I was so nervous. We didn't tell many friends what we were doing but the outpouring of support took our breath away. Friends and acquaintances (perhaps sitting down to eat with the telly on in the background) heard our voices and looked up to see their friends Richy and Julie..... We were contacted over the days from friends and people we hadn't heard from in yrs, all wonderful people, all expressing how they had no idea and offering genuine support. So much support it was cleansing and healing all at the same time.
That pregnancy was short lived. I started bleeding heavily immediately within days of our 60mins exp. A 'chemical pregnancy' - another lovely term eh. The following mth the same thing happened again. +++ test quickly followed by bleeding. We decide to commence IVF. A very hard decision given what I do for a living but nonetheless it felt good to hand ourselves over to someone else. No more charting, no more CM internal checks, no more 2wk waits biting our nails, no more 'scheduled' bedroom appoints. We surrendered ourselves to the invasive world of appointments/needles/drugs and I took my fertility medicine whilst Husband took his ever growing dispensary for his kidneys. Now he was on injections too and we laffed and tried to see the crazy funny side of everything we were going through. He was at the specialist every other wk and so woz I. We tried to keep the glass half full....
Fast forward to late last yr and we failed, we did Acu for wks and wks and wks in preparation, my cycles were fantastic, like clockwork. We had a great Egg Harvest and a terrible fertilisation. No frozen embryos to keep for next time. Back to square 1..... I started to use wine as my buffer. A glass or two here or there. I felt quite disconnected from myself and my own health and other people. My weight increased. Then Zumba entered my world and more recently the beautiful and talented Gabriela. I started to walk towards the light again... The combination of support from a physical level all the way up to an emotional level and a nutritional overhaul brought me back to reality with a huge YEAH BABY!!! My happy bubble is BACK, sanity returned, Husband sighs with relief (boy they go through it with every step of the way eh)!!!!.....
Hubby really wanted to give IVF another crack but he has also very much embraced and complied with the NFB guidance from baking the GF bread to following all the other different dietary and lifestyle guidance.... we have stalked G at all her seminars, crash tackled her for cuddles and feel indebted, it's created a wonderful balance. I have lost over 20cm off my frame and this time we achieved a reasonable harvest and 3 wittle frosties (all currently awaiting us to greet them). The last few wks have been incredibly hard. My hormones wouldn't rise as they should, the staff were nearly giving up on me and I kept saying "I am sure I am going to Ovulate - I must be having a late ovulation with this pain on my L side increasing". They hung in there and kept monitoring me and this morning the u/s revealed a beautiful big juicy follicle and a lovely thick endometrial lining......ahhhh Elation again....
Well.... here I am, 43 yrs of age and literally days away from a FET (frozen embryo transfer). We now have to get through the thaw, the transfer, the 2WW, a possible +++ pg test, a heartbeat and then all the other HUGE milestones but we know we are much better equipped and well on our way to creating a truly healthy baby.....Thank you to our beautiful G and thank you to all the gorgy women/men/friends and family, nurses, drs, natural therapists and colleagues and our cyber connections )))....It's been a combined effort that has got us to where we are now.....we have been so supported on this journey. And most importantly thank you to my amazing Husband who continues to beat his own challenges- here's KNOWING 2012 will deliver our miracle bublette. Much love n light and a bucket load of BABY DUST to all xmwahx......
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19-12-2011 13:27 #299
I used to post here for a couple of years until I decided to bow out. My message is for all of you but especially for you Keziah being the same age! I hope you remember me...
Firstly - good luck with your FET - everything crossed that it is a BFP. I sincerely mean that.
Secondly - and this could be something for all to think about....have you thought about an egg donor? Here is a bit of my story and what I am talking about..
My last miscarriage was in 2009. My last FET was in 2010. I needed a break so hubby and I decided to just let things be. Within 9 months I had lost the 10 kgs I had put on from doing IVF and from 4 failed pregnancies. I was feeling back to normal. We forgot about trying to fall pregnant when I was ovulating and just got back to being us! We built our dream house down south on the ocean with the view to it being our holiday home and ultimately the place we would retire to. We took many trips to Bali and just enjoyed ourselves. I became me again - the woman he fell in love with - my hormones were all back to normal - life was great! In June this year, after suffering around 8 months of irregular periods, I decided I better go and get it checked out. I was referred to my Ob/Gyno specialist and he decided that some exploratory surgery was required. He did the surgery and found a cyst on my ovary - which he removed. When I went back for my results I broached the subject of IVF again - hubby and I had decided that we may as well give it one more shot considering I had now had a break for 18 months. He sent me off for a test which would indicate my ovarian reserve and of course this would result in whether it was worth spending more money on IVF.
My results arrived in - he gave me the bad news - I was a 1 - basically my ovarian reserve was so low that there was no possible chance of me being successful in doing any more egg retrievals through IVF. He asked had we considered the egg donor path as this would be the only way to realise our dream of having a baby. Of course we had talked about it, but everyone knows how near impossible it is to get an egg donor. He asked had we considered an egg donor from overseas and specifically Cape Town where they have like an agreement with a Cape Fertility Clinic. No we hadnt thought about it but we most certainly were now. This was mid July.
In August after receiving all the facts about it, we went online and searched for our egg donor through various websites that had been recommended to us by the fertility clinic here. We kept on going back to the same donor profile and decided she was our lady. Once chosen, and once she had accepted...things moved really quickly! By mid October we were flying to South Africa for two weeks - the trip of our lifetime! After my checks over there and hubbys deposit done, we basically had the entire time just sightseeing and enjoying our holiday. The day before we were due to fly home, I went in and had two very good 5 day blast embies transferred. I have 4 fertilised and frozen in Cape Town. My donor had actually had a very successful stimulation cycle and they retreived 21 eggs in total!
Off we flew home 36 hours later with the dates that we were to have our blood test. I am on a truckload of progesterone, estradial and clexane, and so any thoughts of what may be pregnancy symptoms cant be relied upon due to all this medication.
The day arrives...off I go for the blood test...and then the wait...finally the phone call we had been waiting for...i was pregnant! OMG - tears of pure joy, loads of anxiousness and just so damn happy. I have to go for bloods again in 2 days, and then every week thereafter until I am 8 weeks pregnant. Which I do. However on week 6, I experience bleeding - bright red blood. My stomach plummets, I am devastated - another miscarriage - no way, just so not fair. I ring the fertility clinic after hours contact(it happened after 5.30pm!!) who advise me to come in for a scan the very next day - I was due for a scan in 3 days, but with this new development, it was to be the next day. It was a sleepless night for hubby and I and with a heavy heart we went for our scan. We saw the blood filled sac, and also saw another sac, one that seemed to have a heartbeat! What the? Yes we were pregnant - initially with twins, so both embies had taken...my bleeding was one of my little embies that didnt make it. Hubby and I couldnt believe it. Our ultrasound lady toook measurements and checked the heartbeat - all was okay - all on track. So very happy...sad too that one didnt make it, but so very happy that we still have a chance of having a baby!
So I am now over 9 weeks pregnant. I still have some spotting but according to my ob, this is quite common in IVF pregnancies. I had my first appointment with my new ob on Thursday, and he did a scan and there was my little treasure, all squashed against the side of his big sac, heart beating away! Could not wipe the smile of my face. I still have a long way to go obviously but to put things in to perspective my ob advised me this...I may be 43 years old but 90% of my pregnancy is that of a 32 year old (the age of my egg donor). He also advised that I am now down to around 5% of miscarrying...very reassuring for me who has been so worried. He knows that I wont believe it or be 100% happy until I am holding our baby in my arms...given my history, he can understand that. He is happy to see me every 3 weeks to reassure me with scans and words of encouragement, as we take this long awaited, much wanted journey of having a family.
So I guess my whole post to you guys (and you Keziah), is dont give up hope. There are options for older people like me...I am almost kicking myself I didnt get the chance to explore this option earlier...but maybe I wasnt ready then - maybe I needed to deal with everything first and have some closure.
Wishing you all a very happy Christmas and dreams come true to you all in the New Year. I am happy to answer any questions you have, or if you dont want to ask on here - just PM me.
19-12-2011 16:47 #300Senior Member
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