My advice for what it's worth is try (and this is a really hard one) not to let IVF consume your life. I let go of friends, exercise, studying all because Im waiting for the elusive sticky BFP. So, Im going to study next year, work part time and do IVF. And I can't wait. Oh yes that's another thing. There's lots and lots of waiting!!!!
Lean on your partner for support. I pushed mine away to the point where he sat me down one day and told me that this involves him too and he's just as sad as me when it doesnt work or we have another M/C. He wants to share this ride. He is now my rock.
Yes, you will put on weight. Im not sure if it was all the drugs or me just thinking that I can eat whatever I like and not exercise (not overheating during IVF cycle is a really good (not) excuse for not going for a walk and letting yourself put on 12kgs).
Research, research, research. If it hadn't been for BH I never would have known about DHEA and I truly believe that we got better embryos on just the second cycle because of it. Im hoping that if we have to cycle again (after using our frosties) that they will be even better.
Find some way to have a really good laugh after you've cried and cried and cried.
That's my tips for surviving this crazy ride. Good luck everyone.
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30-11-2010 21:15 #11Waiting for our little prince or princess.
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30-11-2010 23:11 #12Senior Member
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Hi. My tip is everyone of us can react differently to the medications. Some get every side effect some get none. This does not mean they are not working or doing the job. Everyone is different and even some of your repeat cycles can be different on the same drugs. Science is strange in that way.
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21-12-2010 22:02 #13Senior Member
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trying really hard - what is DHEA
I am new to this forum. Have no idea how it works really. Although IVF kinda does consume my life, I am studying and working as well. Your right doing IVF is a great excuse to not exercise. I guess we have the chance between IVF cycles to try and shift some weight.
I was curious about something you stated.. You mentioned DHEA - excuse my ignorance, but what is that??
3 cycles - only 1 transfer that didnt take
22-12-2010 12:27 #14
Thanks so much to everyone who has shared there tips and experiences. i'm one of the newbies who has recently joined this site, and so far I have had my eyes opened. I knew it wouldn't be an easy road, but I am amazed at my own naivety when it comes to expecting it to work straight away. Maybe its positive to think this way? Normally I am very pragmatic, but this is such an emotional subject that I seem to be obsessed with it, and I haven't even had my first appointment with the clinic yet.
I was meant to start this ride 2 years ago, and various impediments got in the way, the latest a head on collision in July 09, which I am still recovering from.
One thing I would very much like to know as a newbie is what the following terms mean:
Thanks very much. Hope you all get nice surprises for xmas
22-12-2010 16:29 #15
Hi Mamalinz and MrsDaisy and welcome to BH. You will find everyone in here very supportive, lovely and knowledgable
This is my first IVF cycle but I have been on BH for a few months now. So I can helpy you out with a few of abbreviations:
EPU - Egg pick up
DHEA - ?
DH - Dear Husband
BFN - Big fat negative
BFP - Big fat positive
BH - BubHub
POAS - Pee on a stick
HPT - Home pregnancy test
BT - Blood test
FET - Frozen embryo transfer
Hopefully those are all correct! You have got me on DHEA! I know there is a thread someone listing all the common abbreviations but once you are on here for a while you will be onto it.
with your journeys.
22-12-2010 17:14 #16Senior Member
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DHEA is the name of a drug. It's kinda newish and some doctors still won't prescribe it. Many women with diminished ovarian reserve or poor response to the FSH injections use it to promote egg quality and quantity.
That is my own personal understanding and experience of it. Hope that helps.
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28-12-2010 14:03 #17Senior Member
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From my experience these were my two biggies
IVF isn't guaranteed to work. I was 20 when we started and really thought it was THE answer. When it didn't work first go I was absolutely devastated. It took us 9 transfers in the end before we got our bubba.
Ask your doctor questions, you are not stupid for asking. I changed clinics after 4 failed cycles my doctor refused to test and told me it was a numbers game. I changed clinic tested found out I had problems. Problem was treated and hey presto it worked. Go with your gut
29-12-2010 13:07 #18
Totally agree with Mrs P, that was my experience...dont be afraid to change clinics if you're not getting answers! It seems daunting to have to change and to organise but it really isn't that hard so don't be put off. Do your research (asking questions on bubhub is really helpful) not all clinics offer the same things so it's worth looking into as you want to have all options available to you, everyone is different and what works for one may not work for another! I found some Ob's would be very closed minded to this and also trying certain protocols...that doesn't mean it won't work for you..don't let one OB's opinion be the be all end all..they don't all know everything!
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03-01-2011 21:16 #19
So, I am in my first cycle and I think have been fairly lucky that I have had few symptoms (Hubby reckons my mood swings are no worse than normal )
I have had one really bad day of Hot flushes (but I think I had a 24 hour bug too so?)
It is funny how for years I had said If I couldn't have kids naturally I would adopt. Looking into adoption after a year without natural success TTC I found out that our odds were better through assisted fertilisation (we have to utilise ICSI) plus through the adoption process there is no financial support (that I could find). Not the biggest issue (we would always find a way, but just another thing in my head) I believe the number of adoptions in QLD in 2009 was as low as a single digit (8 or 9 adoptions). After meeting new friends who had gone through IVF unsuccessfully for YEARS I was worried I couldn't go through with it.
After talking to a specialist, I felt very different, very calm, very focussed on the end result, I REALLY wanted to be a mum, I REALLY wanted my Hubby to be a daddy and for us to be a family. Considering my hubby and I have been together for ten years (and he has pretty much bugged me for a baby since we got together, I am very lucky with this beautiful man).
We thought we wouldn't tell anyone, we thought we would just plug along, but it seemed to just come out, and most people we are very close with (friends, family, work friends and some new neighbours (we are also building a house this year) have found out, and they are very supportive.
As a teacher one Doctor said that at least one student in every classroom would have been conceived with assistance (likely IVF).
We will see how things go for us, play it by ear
If someone wanted my advice I would say, stay open with your partner, keep communicating, that is the most important thing. the next thing is, play it by ear, this is your life, your body, your mental health...
THank you for this thread, i have devoured everyones stories (thank you for your openess)
Good luck, warm wishes to you all
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I'm subscribing to this thread as we are about to embark on our first IVF.
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