From reading through the threads there seems to be alot of newbies starting out on this rollercoaster ride. I've been thinking, maybe a thread like this might help them with information of what they may experience.
Any hints, tips, advice or suggestions you can think of that would help (especially those that have been doing this a while) I believe might be of some assistance to them. Just whatever you think of, add it to the list. I have noted down some of my own thoughts, but am getting too tired to think straight.
- This journey will be hard, try to be as prepared and informed as possible in the beginning.
- It is unlikely you will get pregnant from your first cycle. Yes it does happen for some but it is not very common.
- You will face injections throughout your cycle. Discuss with your partner and FS/FN the best way to deal with this especially if you are needlephobic.
- Icing or using Emla cream beforehand does help to numb the injection site first, it can help.
- The 2WW will cause so many different emotions and the drugs will contribute to this.
- Having a support network does help, be it BH, family, friends or all 3.
- Not everyone in real life will understand what you are going through unless they have been through IVF themselves. Unfortunately they will sometimes say things that don't help. Acknowledge this beforehand and try and have mechanisms in place to help you cope.
- Have an idea in place of how long you think you will do this journey for. Maybe even think about a what you will do and how you will cope if you are unsuccessful on your journey.
- Know that as long as we have this science of IVF, there is hope.
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28-11-2010 21:38 #1Senior Member
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Hints, Tips, Advice and Suggestions for new IVF'rs
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29-11-2010 15:02 #2
The most important thing for me to remember and some times I forgot this too much is that IVF is no guarantee! Once the embryo goes back in, there is a 25% chance you will get pregnant and a 75% chance you wont! Nothing in IVF is set it stone and you must take life day by day
Another thing I know most IVF'ers will agree - weight gain is most likely to happen!
29-11-2010 16:25 #3
My acupuncturist was treating me for back/leg problems when I mentioned undergoing IVF.
He said I must always wear shoes if I want to get pregnant!
So after a year of BFN's, I decided it couldn't hurt and was easy enough to do.
I caught a sticky one on the next cycle!
You just never know...
29-11-2010 20:26 #4
29-11-2010 22:13 #5
i love the idea of this thread! like a handbook for newbies!
decide who u want to tell and who u dont. i am so proud that i did ivf, that i did everything in my power to conceive my precious daughter BUT there r alot of ppl who dont know, ie my workplace! yet most of my friends know and will discuss it at length if they want to know!
as stated above, many comments will not be helpful!!!!! think about how u will cope/deal with these b4 hand, ie ignore, educate and inform these misguided soles etc
wear panty liners wen using crinone/pesseries!!!!!!
i dont know if this will help, i am NOT saying i suggest this to ppl, but it is my story... after 2yrs ttc, inc 12months of ivf and two mc's we stopped ivf (for financial reasons- we were BROKE), we conceived naturally a cpl of months later!
30-11-2010 09:13 #6
What a great idea for a thread!
Totally agree with Greenapple about being realistic with your chances. Most clinics claim a 75% success rate within 3 FRESH cycles, so for couples who get frosties, that could be 6 or more cycles including FETs. If you don't get pregnant on the first cycle, don't despair!!
Panty liners are a must when on progesterone support (thanks LnW)!
When I was first starting out, these are some things I would like to have known:
- Allow yourself at least 2 days off work at EPU time, one day for the EPU and one to recover.
- It can be hard to remain positive after a failed cycle, but its important not to get consumed with negative thoughts. An 'infertile mind' can be worse than an infertile body. Don't be afraid to get your hopes up and BELIEVE it WILL work. You're always going to be sad after a BFN, trying to protect yourself with the expectation of failure will NOT make you feel any better.
- You WILL go crazy in the TWW !
- There's been a thousand threads on 'How soon can I POAS?'. Go to the sticky thread called 3d and 5d transfer... what happens http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/f...d.php?t=356637
Thats about all I can think of for now...
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30-11-2010 11:11 #7Senior Member
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Take everything day by day. Make sure you talk about everything with your partner and let them know how you feel. Dont bottle it up. Even the bad stuff.
Pessaries arent a disaster story. I didnt think that there was that much discharge just use panty liners.
Over reading everything sign and symptom in the 2ww. Try to chillaxe as much as possible, hard yes but try.
Reduce work hours if possible. Im so glad Im not working full time.
People will always say Why dont you adopt instead of doing IVF. Ignore them. Or tell them what I did. Its actually easier to do IVF than adopt.
30-11-2010 11:56 #8
Great thread idea!
and some great advice already!!..that I totally agree with.
My advice would be that if you are with a clinic and don't feel you are getting answers or that they are trying enough to help you...Please get a second opinion..try another clinic if there is one available to you-do your homework! Not every clinic is the same and some do more protocols than others.. keep your options open as what one clinic believes in may not be the same as another..ie. I wanted to try DHEA for egg quality and the clinic I was with didn't believe in it..so I changed and amongst other new things they also tried,I got my BFP!
I changed clinics three times before I got answers as to what my issues were..had I stayed at the first or second clinic I am totally sure I wouldn't be where I am today as they were ready to give up on me!!
The other bit of advice would be to try to keep your stress levels down..acupuncture is great but can also be expensive..so even trying some meditation or listening to peaceful music at home.
good luck and may this journey be a short one!
30-11-2010 13:27 #9
There are some really good tips here.
My tips are:
- Don't set your expectations too high but also keep believing that it will happen eventually.
- Keep the communication going between you and your partner, they won't really truly understand what your going through unless you tell them.
- Be honest with your FS and ask as many questions as you need to also bareing in mind that the first cycle you do is often a practise one and an FS will more than likely take it slowly.
- If you feel like you need a break from it all then take one, i felt burnt out after 8 months of it and was not feeling well overall, i took a nice big long break and amazingly fell Pregnant naturally, of course we were were very lucky and this may not happen however a break can be a really great thing.
- This site was and still is an amazing source of information. I have made some fantastic cyber friends and couldn't have gotten through any of it without them
30-11-2010 19:34 #10Senior Member
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- Adelaide SA
I'm so happy to see people adding to this thread. I know I would have liked to have known some of this stuff when I started. Keep the thoughts and ideas coming
- Crinone or pessaries do NOT always hold off AF. Everyone is different and will not react the same way with the progesterone support.
- Neither crinone or pessaries will affect a HPT if you choose to POAS, neither of them have HCG in them to give you a false positive.
- Pregnyl injections can give you a false positive on a HPT. This is usually out of your system within 5-7 days but again is dependant on the person.
- If your clinic does BT's for pregnancy as opposed to POAS, still have it done even if AF has arrived. This is how I discovered all 3 of my chemical pregnancies
- Chemical pregnancies can be a common occurance. IVF'rs are diagnosed with this more than those TTC naturally as we have testing earlier. Although heartbreaking, this information can help shape future treatment and testing.
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