IVF Over 40 #3

[lilwish]

Hi lilwish
Thanks for your kind thoughts. I won't know how many I have to test until day 5 so it's still a wait & see for me on CGH. I also have the day 2 frosties I brought over from my own clinic. So, assuming I get a few fertilised, they'll have whatever this haul brings, plus thaw my 3 old clinic embies. Day 5 will be the key; they need to be grade 1 or 2 blastys to qualify for biopsy. If there's only one or two that qualify, I doubt I'll have CGH since CGH testing at my clinic is quite a bit more than you were quoted ! Tuesday will most likely be D day.

Good luck with your scan tomorrow !

Hi Lilbirdy,
The cost I was quoted was only for PGS - don't know the cost of CGH but assume much more too. considering I never normally have one or 2 blastys I doubt I'd do it too as I'll have used up my only frosty on this cycle - which of course will work, so all this worry for nothing....?
Good luck for Tuesday

[Leannep]

Hello everyone

Lillbirdy good luck for tomorrow I can't wait to see how you go it sounds like the next tests are going to be expensive but if it works it's all worth it

Micca sounds like your diet has been tasty but back one wagon soon

Lilwish you asked if I was transferring one or two but they will only do one as I'm doing it on my own. So for now it's one only how are you going?

Tens2many a weekend away would be fantastic hopefully it will keep you occupied for a few more days yeah right!!!! What date is your test?

Afm I had my transfer today and all went well it was a day 3 transfer and it was at 8 cells so I'm hoping that it's good?? Now I'm in the dreaded TWW

I hope everyone else is good

[lilwish]

Hi everyone

Have a gr8 weekend away, tens. Hope it's nice and relaxing.

Not long now, micca!

Lilbirdy, how did EPU go? Hope you got plenty of nice little eggies

leannep, congrats on ET! 8 cell day 3 is gr8... let's hope it keeps growing nice and strong in there. How are your other littlies?

AFM, had follow up scan this morning. FS still not telling me what I want to hear and body still not playing the game right. Still no AF although have started spotting and a bit more... scan showed sac not shrinking anymore but grown slightly!!! If no AF and sac passed over the weekend, will need D&C on Mon. When does the good news start????
I've been feeling less and less positive lately... starting to envision what life will be like without kids afterall cos don't know whether I can keep doing this. I think all the thinking about chromo testing etc has exhausted my brain and I'm just tired of it all. Don't have time to take a break tho - will be a grand old 42 in 4mths!!! I never thought I'd be stuck in this situation! Feeling very flat today

[lilbirdy]

Lilwish that is upsetting I'm sorry things aren't moving ahead for you. I was in the same boat, just waiting is probably the worst of all. Try not to think about the next steps too much. I did the same while I was waiting to miscarry and in hindsight I reckon it made things worse at the time, trying to deal with so much. You have time to figure out what's next once this stage is done, as horrible as it is. During the period where I miscarried and then had D&C, I tried to think about my next cycle as a way of trying to focus on the positives but looking back, I think it's important for your overall health to recognize the loss. My advice would be to take it one day at a time.

Leeanne how is day 2 of this never ending waiting game ? Feels like test is an eternity away but I hope the time zooms by for you!

Afm, just back from clinic and resting up. They collected 18 eggs, sounds like stacks, but I know now after 5 stim cycles and no success, the quantity doesn't mean a thing. I had a slightly lower FSH dose this time, just trying to get me some quality.

[Leannep]

Oh lilwish my heart is breaking for you and i wish there was something we could do to fix it for you its gotta be the crappiest thing anyone ever has to go through but you will survive because your an amazing woman. As they say take one day at a time and you will make it. I felt the same after my mc but you know what there is no way in the world god made us not to have children i reckon it just means when we get one they will be perfect in everyway take care and we are here if you need us as your the best sending u big big hugs
Afm well its day 2 after transfer and only about 14 days till test!!

[Leannep]

Lilbirdy sorry hit send but hadnt finnished i hope your recovery is good and your not too sore?? When do you find out how they have fertalised? Rest up

[cillile]

Hi all. It looks like a lot is happening here. There are always people trying new things, with news and of course in the midst of waiting.
We have been doing a lot of waiting ourselves. We are still waiting for the embryo we have been offered to be available. We did the counselling and appointments and blood tests and our donor is still going trying to get those done themselves. Hopefully next month it should be all finalised and we will get to give the little fella a go!
So back to waiting for a bit more.
Take care and all the best for your waiting and treatment.

[lilwish]

Leannep & Lilbirdy, thank you so much for your very kind supportive words. It means a lot. I know I'm not the only one who's been here, and I know I'll pick myself up again sometime (soon I hope)... I think once AF comes I can start moving forward - and you're right... I do need to take one day at a time. Thanks.

Lilbirdy - well done on the big haul. Hopefully lower fsh is the trick you needed for more to fert this time I wish you so much luck, and look forward to hearing your results.

Leannep, again good luck with the 2ww. Do you have any plans to keep yourself busy to cope rather than go crazy?

Cillie, I hope yr donor is ready soon. You must be feeling quite frustrated, but not wanting to seem ungreatful... a sticky position to be in. Good luck

[tens2many]

Hey Ladies

Just a quick one from me unfortunately we got to our holiday spot and after lunch laughter mini golf archery and pony ride for DD and DS i have started to bleed so im deflated again......
will take a little break from BH thankyou for all the support we are just not sure about going again ill be 42 in 2 months and my body is just wrecked.....not to mention the mind I do hate the thoughts that follow like "what if the next one is the one" we have 5 DE left but as you know funds run low all up we have spent about $40,000 and I have no dam reason why I cant fall I felt sure with 36 year old DE's I was a sure thing.... maybe a miracle will happen or ill win lotto and will go again next year.

I wish you all the best ladies

Cheers xo

[Leannep]

Oh tens i am so sorry that you started bleeding it's just gut wrenching I wanted to say thank you for your support over this long long process thanks!! I wish you all the best take time to regroup and get over all the emotional turmoil you have been through and enjoy the precious kids and hubby you have. Take care and it is very sad to see you go for a while but you have gotta take good care of yourself I will be thinking of u and hay maybe you will win tatts(how good would that be can you share)Please take care and we are here if you need a chat xxx