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    Unhappy Looking for advice, help, anything.......

    Okay, I just really need advice. I'm starting to completely lose it. Something needs to change.


    If you were me: how would you make your life better?

    At the moment, I have:
    • no satisfying friendships - just acquaintances. Nobody I catch up regularly with/have fun together with
    • not enough money
    • no men interested in me
    • no yard for my child to play in
    • no licence, and no car that is registered/works
    How do I improve my life? I have zero quality of life. I realise some people don't need people around them and are okay. I am the sort of person that needs to talk to different people every day to be healthy....I am going out of my mind. if I don't talk to people, I need to at least be around nature. Which is impossible without a yard or a car. I can't get them because I have no money. The circle goes around and around.

    If you were ME, if someone came and transported YOU into my body and my situation, what would YOU do?

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    How old is your child? Have you thought about joining a playgroup? Got a park nearby you could have a picnic lunch in?

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    Quote Originally Posted by elleandbump View Post
    How old is your child? Have you thought about joining a playgroup? Got a park nearby you could have a picnic lunch in?

    He is 5 and goes to primary school. I have being to the local parks 500 million times, if I see the local parks again I will vomit.

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    I guess the first step I would take would be either applying for work (if you dont work already, I dont know if you do sorry!), or applying to study again - something that INTERESTS you. Once you start either, a new door for meeting new people opens, if you get what I mean?

    I wasnt as stuck in a rut, but I found my brain was turning to mush once DS1 started school and DS2 statred Kindy, so I looked for work, nothing really applied as such, so I started my Diploma of Accounting that Ive wanted to do for years. In the process Ive found a new sense of esteem and met people doing the same course and made new friends that way. Does that make sense?

    I guess these foundation need to be started first before the others follow? They will flow easier I reckon
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    I would be seeing a doctor about how I am feeling, first off.

    I would also perhaps try and see someone in the community health service.

    They may know of a social group or some people you can talk to, to build lasting friendships with.

    I know you have no money to join a club or anything, but some things are free to be a part of.

    Can you see if your council has any where you can volunteer, or a church or similar may have a few crafty groups you can join.

    I think you could be guided by looking at your hobbies interests, and see if you can join a walking group, or community garden or something.

    I know these things exist, I do not necessarily know how to contact people to be apart of them.

    That is why I suggested the doctor or community health.

    There are lots of free things to do, but sometimes finding them is difficult.

    HTH

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    Quote Originally Posted by TomblibooMum View Post
    I guess the first step I would take would be either applying for work, or applying to study again. Once you start either, a new door for meeting new people opens, if you get what I mean?

    I wasnt as stuck in a rut, but I found my brain was turning to mush once DS1 started school and DS2 statred Kindy, so I looked for work, nothing really applied as such, so I started my Diploma of Accounting that Ive wanted to do for years. In the process Ive found a new sense of esteem and met people doing the same course and made new friends that way. Does that make sense?

    I guess these foundation need to be started first before the others follow? They will flow easier I reckon
    I graduate from uni in November. Yeah, I used to think that too. I have no friends at uni. I also work, casually. Going to work is probably the highlight of my life, it is really interesting. I don't work in a "team", I get called in and sent out to locations whenever I am needed so I don't really get to establish any bonds.

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    where abouts in Aus do you live?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hooves View Post


    I would be seeing a doctor about how I am feeling, first off.

    I would also perhaps try and see someone in the community health service.

    They may know of a social group or some people you can talk to, to build lasting friendships with.

    I know you have no money to join a club or anything, but some things are free to be a part of.

    Can you see if your council has any where you can volunteer, or a church or similar may have a few crafty groups you can join.

    I think you could be guided by looking at your hobbies interests, and see if you can join a walking group, or community garden or something.

    I know these things exist, I do not necessarily know how to contact people to be apart of them.

    That is why I suggested the doctor or community health.

    There are lots of free things to do, but sometimes finding them is difficult.

    HTH

    Anti-depressants, hey? No thanks. I know what I need as a person to be healthy - healthy relationships. Money, nature and a car would be good too.

    I did go to church but I don't fit in - it's either young singles or married couples. I've given up trying to find people who dont' think I'm a horrid person. I just don't know what I keep doing wrong. If I did, obviously I would change it.

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    An Chen, I have read a few of your posts and it sounds like you are going through a very hard time. Things can get better, but you need to make it happen!!

    No sure how old your child is, but do you go to a local park? I go to the same one all the time, and got to know a few girls that way, one who has become a good friend. It just started off as a "hi" and then "you're here again?" etc etc chit chat, and before long it was let's have coffee etc. If you frequent the same places, it is a good opportunity to meet people. Ok just saw your post about vomiting re the park - understand where you are coming from but you sound very lonley and it is better than sitting at home.

    Also totally agree, any part-time job must be a positive thing?

    Good luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by CazHayRiffic View Post
    where abouts in Aus do you live?
    Where you live.


 

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