You don't have to say what do you want because then he might not make the right choices. Instead say would you like sausages or chicken? What vegies would you like you can choose between carrot, peas, corn, broccoli etc. That way you're helping him make the right choice and still giving him the choice.
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19-09-2010 18:22 #41
19-09-2010 18:22 #42
I honestly wouldn't worry about it too much. Children go through stages of fussy eating. Tell him he can have the alternatives that he is requesting AFTER he eats a few mouthfuls. If you don't think he is getting enough nutrients, perhaps give him some multivitamins? I actually found these helped give my son more of an appetite.
19-09-2010 18:24 #43
19-09-2010 18:25 #44
No I don't think you were unreasonable.
My parents also left me with bad meal habits. I am a very stubborn person, like an chen if my parents put something in front of me I didn't like and said 'eat it or you starve' I would starve. I'd go as long as it took until the food offered was gone or off and could no longer be offered.
To combat this my mother, on the advise of family and friends, took the approach of regularly making meals I was refusing and attempting to force me to eat them by not allowing anything else, to 'get used to' them. I'd have to eat eventually. It didn't work. I simply wouldn't eat. If it went on for days I'd sneak into the kitchen at 3am and get something else to eat. I'd stash food in my room. I even stole money ($2 coin) from my mother to buy hot chips a couple of times. There was no way in hell I'd choke down something I didn't like. I suffered malnourishment, and I learned deception, not food tolerance.
I don't serve my kids foods I know they don't like, if we try something new and they don't like it after trying it I am prepared to offer something I know they do like instead.
However if they refuse something I know they like chances are they aren't hungry. I won't make them stay at the table and eat it but if they claim to be hungry again before the next meal is due their only option is what was refused re-served.
19-09-2010 18:27 #45
19-09-2010 18:28 #46
19-09-2010 18:31 #47
those who let their children eat as much as they like of whatever they like (within reason and what's on offer, of course) have obviously never heard this conversation in their house
'i want a cheese sandwich'
(5 mins later) 'are you going to eat up your cheese sandwich?'
'well you can have the sandwich or mummy will eat it and you can have a banana or some strawberries'
5 mins later 'are you going to eat your strawberries? You said you wanted them so please eat them'
(wailing) 'i don't waaaaaant strawberries. I want chips mummy chiiiiippppppiiiies!' (sob sob sob)
'well you can't have chips you can have your cheese sandwich, or the strawberries, or a banana'
19-09-2010 19:35 #48
19-09-2010 20:31 #49
LOL fortunately i've not been the 'mummy' in that convo, either the nanny or overheard it between mummy and child. I've heard it many times though
19-09-2010 20:34 #50Senior Member
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YES IT IS UNFAIR !!
He is just a little boy... I dont eat things I dont feel like !
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