That must be really frustrating! It's none of their business how many kids you have (and I know plenty of lovely, intelligent only children )
I get the opposite, I have DS, DD and when we announced we were having a 3rd it was 'Haven't you got enough already??'. Like if we have one of eavh then we should be content I think that people will have an opinion no matter what you do!
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28-05-2011 14:29 #51
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28-05-2011 14:48 #52Senior Member
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I actually blogged about this recently. My MIL was appalled at the suggestion our DD might be an only child (like me).
We haven't said definitely no more but it's on the cards and we're both happy with it. MIL made it clear she thinks that is akin to saying we're planning to raise an axe murderer.
She didn't like my blog
28-05-2011 18:02 #53Senior Member
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You sound like a very supportive husband and father and I wish you all the best with raising you precious little girl. It sounds like she has had a wonderful start to be blessed with such loving parents.
We have one of each and I have recently discovered I am pregnant with our 3rd. It saddens me that I am actually worried about telling some of our family, in fear of their reaction. I mean we have one of each, what more could we want? We are only having 3, not 10! Rant over, I just wish people would be quiet, its not their life so why they feel the need to judge is a mystery to me! My sister only wants one child as she honestly believes that is all she could cope with, good on her for being honest and doing what suits her rather than what society thinks she should do !
28-05-2011 18:45 #54Senior Member
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When i saw this topic I just had to respond, I absolutely hear you!!!
DH and I have been together for 13 years and only had our first child last year, this was by choice, not due to any problems with conception. This shocked and confused many people and got every comment under the sun as we just weren't sure if we wanted kids or not. Also it was mostly due to me having a severe phobia of vomiting and I didn't think I could handle the pregnancy but I took the leap, I did it (my first words to my mum when DD was born lol) so I was very proud of myself and happy that we were a family.
Now we constantly get asked when we are having more.... Grrrr how's about you have the damn baby!!!! Lol pregnancy ain't always easy and let's not even talk financials and I've heard every response to those "excuses" too!!!!
DH now responds with "nah we aren't going to risk it again" and I mist admit it stops people in their tracks. When they look confused he says "we were blessed with a happy, beautiful child without a complicated pregnancy or birth and no issues thus far" next time that could be different so this is how it will stay.
Might sound strange to some to respond that way but I like his thinking. We truly were blessed an even in this day and age things can still go wrong and they didn't so we consider ourselves extremely lucky
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28-05-2011 19:12 #55
People can be so stooopid! Personally I would like another bub ( but 2 is plenty for me!). My dh has other ideas and would be quite happy with just dd. He is an only child and frankly he is a lot more normal and balanced than me and many others I know who have siblings! know lots of lovely, normal and well adjusted only children so bull&hit to those who say otherwise !
14-04-2012 18:49 #56
My son is almost 4 and a half.. Im 31 my husband is 35 and we are STILL being asked of we'll have any more kids :-\ I know it's usually just a conversation starter but geezer!
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