Happy first day of December to you all - I have to say that I love christmas and all the decorations and festiveness that comes with it.
Well I have gone back but there is so much I have missed out on so i will just say a big hi to everyone.
For those who don't know me, I am a floater who has had 2 missed miscarriages in the last 12 months - the first just over 12 months ago and the second in May 2010. I have been on a big weight loss journey and have almost lost 20kgs and was going to start ttc in March but I think that we have actually decided to start now.. well when i say that, I mean we wont be worrying about not getting pregnant. A part of me hopes that it will happen in the new year but another is looking forward to the excitement of being pregnant again. We have an appointment in Jan at a recurrent miscarriage clinic so if i am pregnant by then i will also be monitored frequently. I am still hoping that the last two losses have just been one of those things.
So now I am officially in the tww but wont be testing and will try not to analyse every twinge as i have learnt in months go by that the body is a strange thing and can give off symptoms even when there is no chance i could have been pregnant. I will not test until 2 days after AF is due so 13 December. The last two times I have fallen on the third cycle so we will see how long it takes. I definately dtd around o time as I had all the signs.
I hope everyone else is well.
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01-12-2010 11:08 #341
01-12-2010 11:35 #342Senior Member
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Sorry girls I got sidetracked from this thread for some reason!
AF showed up on Sunday so it's a no go for me, now onto cycle #8 in total, cycle #4 since the miscarriage. My AF is due christmas day! LOL i have to laugh if not im gunna cry haha.. knowing my luck huh.. no idea when i'm going to test, probably 1 or 2 days before xmas so it doesn't get me down if it's negative on the day!
02-12-2010 15:35 #343
ONION: Welcome. Sorry that you find yourself on this thread, but you've definitely come to the right place.
Your hatred of PG (pregnant) women and babies is totally normal. I am the same way. But mine has been going on for a long time now. But just remember that you are not a horrible person for thinking/acting that way.
When I had my M/C's the doc said that we could start TTC again whenever we wanted. She said that if I was mentally and physically up to it she gave us the green light. If not, we could take our time. There is no right or wrong time to start TTC again. It all depends on how you feel.
I've had 3 M/C's and the thought of it happening again frightens me, but I want a baby more than anything so i'm willing to take that risk.
It's just unfortunate that your rollercoaster ride is just beginning. Some women have been on it for ages. Mine has been going on for nearly 4 years! Hope it's not a long one for you and your next BFP (big fat positive) is a sticky one for you. So best of luck on your TTC journey.
JAZZ: Big to you hun. Sorry about the negative blood test.
I'm in the same boat as you. I can't go and see a FS until I get my BMI down to 35 which means my weight has to be 85kgs. My doc said that that is the maximum BMI they will take. If it's over that, they won't take you which is why she hasn't refered me to one yet. But think positive. You can do it. I have faith in you. If I can do it, so can you. If you get stuck and you want to talk about it, PM me okay. We can do it together if you like. For some moral support.
CHERISHED: Welcome. Sorry to see you on this thread and sorry for your loss , but you've come to the right place.
It does make it so hard not having anyone who has been through this situation to talk to. Coming on here has been fantatic. All the women on here are awesome and offer love, support and lots of great advice. So you won't feel alone on here I promise.
Trust me, it doesn't get any easier after each M/C. I've had 3 so far and still to this day, it breaks my heart thinking about them. Plus having friends or family members who announce their PG is like a knife in the heart and someone is twisting it. My BIL's wife had a baby boy about 8 weeks ago and that was so difficult to deal with. And it still is. They only got married last october and come february told the family that she was UTD. They weren't even trying! So then there's me in the background pretending to be happy but slowly dying inside.
It breaks DH's heart seeing me like this because we've been trying for so long and nothing has happened. I wish that I could give him a baby. It would be great if I was UTD by Christmas. It would be the best present he'd ever been given.
Good luck with TTC again. I hope that you get a BFP very soon and that it's a nice sticky one. So sending you loads of and your way.
AFM: Prac went very well. Can't believe how quickly it went. The kids were upset that I wasn't staying until the end of term and were asking me to come back next year! I told them that I had to wait and see. I may or may not go back there. It's just unfortunate that there was no sturcture with regards to the work the special needs kids had to do. I was basically playing it by ear on a day-to-day basis. But other than that, it went really well.
Tension is high here at my place. Poor DH is stressed to the max. He has his exam on monday and the mine manager who is suppose to watch over him while he does it rang him back yesterday and said that he wasn't going to be on site, so DH was ringing up Uni, his lecturer and his boss to try and sort things out.
Plus i'm stressing out because I got a package back from my lecturer saying that the questions that i've already done, I have to resubit them again, because they've added more questions! WTF!! Which means I now have more work to do. Which makes me think why am I faffing about on here instead of doing study. Oops!
But on the up side, it hasn't stopped us from DTD. Did it last night and should do it again tonight because DH flies out tomorrow morning. I think that was a bit of a stress reliever for DH.
My mum leaves for Burma early tomorrow morning. This will be her very first trip without my dad and her very first trip back home since she left in about 40 years. She's excited and nervous because she doesn't know what to expect, but she'll have my Aunty (who's been numerous times), and my cousin. But they'll be gone for about 2-2.5 weeks. Wonder how my dad will cope doing things for himself. I bet my sister or myself will be getting some phone calls on how to do stuff like how to work the washing machine! He's a great cook and knows his way around the kitchen so at least we know hw won't starve.
Sorry for the long rant. Hope everyone is having a great day. Take care.
02-12-2010 22:17 #344
Hopefulmum2b - I am so sorry for your losses I hope you get a BFP really soon Thankyou for your warm welcome and kind words. Its comforting to know that there is other people who know what I am feeling and going through. I guess I found it really difficult because I didnt tell any one (except some family) about the pregnancy so therefore had no support when the pregnancy ended.
I am feeling more positive now and we are TTC again, So hoping this is my lucky month, It would be a great xmas present .
02-12-2010 23:41 #345
Hopeful, thank you for your post. Its so good to be in a place where everyone understands what I am going through. At the moment I think I am impatient more than anything.
Cherished, I feel like you could almost be writing my story as well. Hugs to you and I hope we both get BFP's for Christmas.
03-12-2010 07:26 #346Senior Member
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thank you all for your well wished re my scan. all went well and there was one little heartbeat. i still don't feel anymore relaxed about this pregnancy but i am trying to remain hopeful that this one is a sticker. i am currently a little over eight weeks. my DH said to me the other day - wow, it is going really quickly this time. i was like - are you kidding me!!!! men!
Liddy - i am sorry AF showed up. fingers crossed she doesn't show up for you on christmas day and you get your BFP this month! AF on christmas would suck - last month my AF was due on my first MC due date which was also melbourne cup day...that sucked the big one. i thought it did arrive but it was have been some implantation bleeding. good luck this month!
Jazz - so sorry about your BFN and you DH not really wanting to talk about things you obviously need to talk about. i think it is just their way of dealing with things - unfortunately it just makes us think they dont care. i hope you are having a better time of it this week and you too get a BFP this month!
Hopeful - glad you prac went well! sounds like the kids loved you. sorry you have to redo some questions and hope you DH was about to sort something out re hid text. extra stress is the last thing you want. i am wishing you much stickiness!
matalee - how did your appointment go? and excellent idea about bali - i am very jealous!
onion and cherished - i am so sorry for your losses and that you find yourselves here. hopefully you stay with us will be short everything you both feel is very normal - a MC is a horrible experience. you are grieving for the baby and child they would have been - the moments you would have had together. i hope you both get BFP's very soon and have fer long and uneventful pregnancies!
angelbubs - YAY!!! TTC again! that is wonderful news, as is your continued weightloss. i was reading your weighloss post the other day eating a packet of biscuits...oops! i hope the tww is a quick one and you get your BFP very soon!!!! cant wait to hear the fantastic news x
AJ - you still around? hope all is good x
to anyone i missed - i am very sorry.
AFM - busy busy busy around here. my in-laws arrive from the UK in 10 days and the bathroom still isn't finished!!! i dont even think we will start the tiling until mid next week. the whole house still looks like a construction zone. i would be stressed over it if i wasnt so exhausted - am suffering from full blown pregnancy fatigue ...am loving it!
03-12-2010 14:16 #347
Just a question, How long did it take for your cycles to return to normal? If they ever do.
Since the M/C I have had a 30 day and 34 day cycle. I used to be 28 days exact. I am finding it difficult to track O when I dont know when AF is due, I used to also get small amount of spotting at O but now I have none.
I feel like I dont really know my body any more
I hope you all have a lovely weekend
03-12-2010 21:01 #348
Cherished Sorry you have found your self here but you will find that it is the best place for support. I don't know about anyone else but mine is still not back to normal yet. But best of luck that yours returns to normal very soon.
KazzyC Glad your scan went well. Best of luck for a quick few weeks until your next scan. I know that he is just trying to protect him self etc but the point is moot at the moment because I can not talk at the moment any way (tonsillitis)
Hopefulmum2b Sorry to hear that you and your DH are under stress at the moment but I hope that you get a for Christmas. You never know your dad might be right with out her (or might find someone else to do it for him so you don't know he doesn't know how too.
Liddy Sorry that AF showed up. Best of luck for a for Christmas for you.
angelbubswithwings Well welcome back, I hope your relax approach works really well and that you will get a positive this month.
mandy2007 Sorry you have also had a loss but I have found the ladies in here to be so supportive and it is good to be able to talk to others in the same boat as you.
3PLUS1equals4s Glad you enjoyed your trip. I hope your tww goes quickly for you and you get that long awaited positive.
AFM well I got a call from my doctor tonight. He has said that he has talked to a thyroid specialist about the (mixed) results of the test that I had done and they have decided that they want to run another test so I have gone and picked up the paper work and have to have blood taken in the morning. I hope that they are able to find if there is a problem with my thyroid (and it is easily fixed) because then hopefully that will fix any issues that I have with my fertility (we don't think that I am even O'ing at the moment). I should have the results of that test next Saturday. I have to say I LOVE my GP. I have no idea when AF will come again (seeing as she still hasn't arrived from last month) but I would be expecting it before Christmas so that she doesn't come and I have a positive instead.
to anyone that I might have missed.
03-12-2010 23:59 #349
CHERISHED: Thank you. I would love nothing more than to get a for Christmas.
You are most welcome. We've been through it all before so we're here for you when you need to vent.
I'm glad you're feeling more positve now. It's a great attitude to have and you never know, Santa might bring you a fantastic Christmas present in the shape of a BFP. Good luck hun.
ONION: You're welcome. You're definitely in the right place. It is great to know that you're not alone in the world which can sometimes be quite daunting. But here, we've been down this horrible road and we're all here for each other.
KAZ: Yay on hearing a heartbeat and being 8 weeks. How exciting. I can understand your apprehension, but it's not going to help you or bub. Make sure you get plenty of rest.
Prace went really well. Can't believe how quickly those 7 days went. Glad it's over now till next year. 12 months down, 12 more to go.
JAZZ: Thanks hun. Hasn't been the best couple of days, but it'll be over come monday after DH does his exam in the afternoon. Poor thing is stressed to the max about it.
I'd LOVE to get a BFP for Christmas. It would make DH's year. I can't see it happening though seeing as he's never home when i'm laying an egg.
Yeah, my dad is going to be fine. It's lucky that my sister and I only live 10 minutes away from their house. I'm sure he's more than capable. Although, i've never seen my dad do any household chores because in their house he does the stuff outside and my mum does the stuff inside. That's they way they've been doing it for the last 36 years! Oh what I wouldn't give to be a fly on the wall. I'm going there tomorrow night, so it'll be interesting to know what he'll ask me about.
AFM: DH flew back out to site this morning so (singing) i'm all by myself, don't wanna be, all by myself anymore. Who's up for some karaoke? Okay i'll stop now.
Did some Christmas shopping today. Have to get a present for my niece and nephew and then we'll get my parents one when DH comes back.
Studies have hit another bump. Got my work book back only for then to give me another booklet which has more questions to answer instead of the 1. I am not a happy camper right now. But at least DH has given me a hand and showed me how to do a power point presentation, so i've nearly finished that. The essay will be done when that's finished. I so can't wait for this to be over. Then I get to do it all again next year. YAY!
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05-12-2010 08:51 #350
Well my DH decided to play a song for me yesterday. It is by Ozzy Osbourne so I had never heard it before. As it was playing he was like listen to the lyrics this makes me think of everything we have been through in the last 3 and a half years. For those of you who do not know Ozzy Osborne songs here is a link to it. Lay Your World On Me - Ozzy Osbourne. All I could do was hug him when I heard it.
I have also put up my Christmas Tree and I have found these two angels that I have put on the tree too. Angel I love how the lights hit them.
Anyway I just wanted to share that. Hope every ones weekend is going well.
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