Have been lurking for a while and reading posts and thought it was probably time to say hello. I had a missed m/c last month and a d&c on 31st Aug. The pregnancy was a complete surprise - our last two were ivf and we didn't want to do that again. I thought I was more than happy with my 2, but then I got used to the idea and was getting really excited to have another. Well, that was not to be but now we have decided to keep trying for a few months and see what happens. I know my age is against us, but who knows???
My BF found out she was pg three weeks after me - she's still pg and I'm very happy for her but sometimes it's a bit weird. We talk usually two times a day so I hear all the details . . . .
Hope everyone is feeling well and positive today. Congratulations on the BFP's - you so deserve it after what you've been through.
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17-09-2010 20:24 #131Member
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18-09-2010 17:48 #132Member
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Congats on the weight loss - that diet sounds like really hard work. You must be really motivated. I felt a little guilty reading your post - I was in the middle of eating a chocolate bar!!
I understand what you mean about the pill - I went off it years ago and won't go back
Have the drs told you to wait to TTC?
I found your story about TTC funny - I have given up any pretense of DTD being about anything but getting UTD. Poor DH. Although oddly enough TMI I have found myself more "interested" in DTD since the D&C. I think this maybe because I was told not to do it for 2 weeks. Must be the rebel in me.
Originally Posted by jacinta53;51:43843
I hope you get UTD really soon with a strong and sticky bub.
AFM - still plodding along. Nothing new going on. Hope you are all having lovely weekends.
18-09-2010 18:28 #133
Hi girls! Can I hang here for awhile? I am sorry for all your losses. How much does it truly suck to be in this position?
We are not TTC at the moment but I have been following this thread for a few days and feel that maybe you could help me and dh figure how to move forward?
We lost our little squishy at 9 weeks 9 days ago. At 6 and half weeks an early scan picked up a heart beat but it was slow so for 3 weeks we had to keep going back to the Drs to check if bub was still with us. We were told we had a dying baby that would 100% not make it. So we just had to wait for the heart to stop and for my body to realize. Well bubs heart stopped at 9 weeks but my hcg just kept on going up so I opted to have a D&C done.
My Dr was also concerned that it might have been a partial molar pg and if so we wont be able to try for 6 months, maybe 12 if not everything was removed with D&C. I have to see Dr again this week for results and for more bloods and scans. I am over all of that and am tired of been poked and probed. I am also sad and angry and confused... all the usual stuff. Its only been 9 days and my hormones are up and down and all over the place.
Dh has gone overseas for 8 days for work - he had no choice, such bad timing! He left today. I thought I would be ok but today was a very low day. I feel like I have lost him too (i know that is silly) but I just feel such loss right now. I feel like I have lost so much this year already. I just feel huge loss!
I dont know when or if we will ever try again but I thought if it was ok I could just hang out here and vent and cry a little with you girls who understand and maybe I will figure out what I want along the way?
Thanks for listening
18-09-2010 18:51 #134Member
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I am really sorry for your loss. We were in the due in April thread together and we had our scans on the same day. I remember seeing your scan about the HB. My scan also didn't go well. They couldn't see a baby. I was offered a D&C straight away but opted to wait a week and see my Ob. He confirmed the blight ovum and I asked for a D&C. My HCG levels were going up not down. It's been a almost two weeks since the D&C and I felt that I had started to deal with the loss and was looking forward to TTC again. But my Ob phoned this week and told me it was a partial molar and I needed to be monitored. I have had my first BT and have another this week. It looks good so far.
My heart breaks for you. I understand how crappy you are feeling Those three weeks must have been so difficult for you and your DH.
I hope you drs appointments this week go well. The ladies here are really supportive and a wealth of knowledge. I am thinking of you - I hope the 8 days till DH gets home goes quickly for you.
19-09-2010 10:33 #135
Hi Brynn - Thanks for the reply! Hi to all the other ladies too!
Its so nice to wake up and read words of encouragement and support. Thank you so much for your reply. I remember you, Jacinta and Gummi from the April thread. I remember I was so sad for you all.
Whats hard with the partial molar is that you cant begin trying right away and you have additional concerns about your health for the next 6 months. I really hope they go quickly for you and that your TTC period that follows is not too long!
I am feeling better today. One day down, 7 to go before DH is back. The nights are the hardest but we will get through them!
Have a great Sunday everyone! Its freezing here in Brissie!
19-09-2010 10:46 #136
Hi everyone, hope you are all enjoying your weekend!
JaxM - I'm so sorry for your loss. That would have been awful knowing that and not being able to do anything about it. I lost my bub at 9 weeks but didn't find out til 15weeks! Here I am thinking everything was fine and for the last 6 weeks it wasn't! I used to be a bit of a skeptic but mum took me to this really good psychic. She told me that I lost a little boy and that he is ready to come back to me very soon. I guess it helped me to emotionally move on knowing that he was being looked after and that he would return when the time is right. I believe that everything happens for a reason and when the time is right our little angels will come back to us
AFM - Af has finally visited me today! I know it's weird but I have never been so excited to see her! The waiting and not knowing is finally over and I now have a starting point to try again.
19-09-2010 12:36 #137Enjoying my beautiful DD
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Hi girls, can I join?
Firstly I'm so sorry for your losses
I found out I had a missed m/c at my 12 week scan. Bub measured at about 8wks. DH and I were devastated, but deep down I knew something wasn't right. The frustrating thing is that I asked my GP for an early scan but he didn't think it was necessary.
I then found out it was a partial molar pg. I had a few blood tests to make sure my levels were coming down and within 2 months they were completely negative, and we got the all clear to start TTC again
AF has just packed her bags so we can start BDing again. This is cycle #2 TTC after my missed m/c.
I hope everyone gets their BFP's really soon!! and I look forward to getting to know you all
19-09-2010 13:16 #138
I might join in here too, I know a few of you from the 'waiting' thread, and figured we are actively TTC so would pop in and say hi.
For those that haven't seen me around b4, my story in short- Have not m/c'd, but our DS#1 was stillborn @ 31.4wks in May this yr. I'm curently in the TWW, on the first cycle that we have actively tried to catch the eggy train for bub #2
Our son died as a result of severe undiagnosed pre-eclampsia (no thx to my incompetent doctor ), so for bub #2 we have to up stumps and move to the city to get the appropriate level of care. This is not how we saw 2010 going....fingers crossed 2011 will be a happier year for us.
I am not temp testing, just using maybe baby and plenty of BD'ing . Busting to POAS but its a bit early! Maybe next wk. My DH is convinced I am UTD, I'm trying (foolishly) to not get my hopes up. Playin it cool & takin a ! (To the onlooker anyway)
19-09-2010 18:36 #139
Hi Jaci - what a lovely thought that your little will return to you I think we all have to be gentle with ourselves and let ourselves think and believe what we need to to get through this! I hope your bub returns soon!
Hi hales! I remember you from the TTC threads (i think). Sorry you have found yourself here but glad to hear that your levels have come down and you can try again. Hopefully this time round is the winner
Hi PA80, I have read so much of your story of the last couple of days! You have been so brave and even though I dont know you my heart breaks at the thought of what you have gone through. I pray that you and DH get your baby soon. I know it is better to move past these things than to dwell on them but I just cant believe your Dr missed a condition like pre- eclampsia! I am gob smacked although I know that does not help you so I will shut up! Anyway, I mean this in the nicest way but i hope you move out of here and into the pregnant threads asap!
AFM - spent the arvo with some mates and had a few glasses of the white! Feeling good at the mo 6 days to go when I wake up tomorrow!
One minute I want to try immediately and then the next I think we have 2 happy healthy kiddies and I should just stop while I am ahead. I am a freaking seasaw at the moment and cant make up mind. I guess the fear of having to go through this again is holding me back. I suppose with time the desire for another bub will be greater than the fear as I will forget a little? maybe? is that how it goes?
I am so up and down at the moment - blaming the hormones! Anyway, thats my for tonight!
19-09-2010 20:55 #140
Jax of course you can hang out! We all understand and are here if you need us. I'd have to say yes, the desire for another baby definitely overwhelms the fear. Personally I know I'll never forget any of this, it's just that it all shifts to where the pain and grief are no longer raw.
Jaci hooray for AF! This'll be the one and only time she's welcome!
hales I haven't been in the position of a missed M/C but can certainly imagine how heartbreaking it must be to find out at your 12 week scan.
I don't quite understand why GPs refuse early scans?!...I seem to read it here on BH all the time. I see them as just the professional I'm paying to write the referral, it's not like I'm asking for a script for crack!
Hi PA great to see you in here! Fingers crossed there's a ticket on that train with your name on it!
Where are you tash? Having some quiet time at the mo?
A big hi to everyone not mentioned, hope you're all doing ok.
AFM - I am both shocked and amazed...DP has willingly, yes you read right, WILLINGLY DTD every night since I told him we were back into TTC! We usually BD every 2nd night for about a week but on night 2, when he appeared naked and asked why I wasn't in bed, I didn't have the heart to tell him he had the night off! And the best part is, for the first time in a loooooong time we have actually had some fun. I mean, we love each other desperately but like you Brynn there definitely is no pretense that DTD is anything other than trying to get UTD! *sigh*
Yay it's Sunday, the start of our weekend!
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