My husbands culture does it out of neccesity, not choice, most people can't afford cloth or disposable nappies, I was always amazed (before I had my own child) that the mothers knew when there was a wee or poo coming!!!
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I'm sure we used to have a thread about this in the toilet training section, maybe even a sticky. Definitely doable, definitely works. Best to have your goal being communication with bub and them remaining aware of their bodily functions and respecting them by not having them sit in their own crap....rather than early toilet training. A problem with it in our society is we have become so obsessed with hygiene, and also all our beautiful things and carpet, if a baby wees on someone they freak out. When I was in India, if my son missed, his 15yr old cousin would often carry him back to me to change, and not held at arms length to avoid getting wet, held just as he normally would. It was just a non-issue. With a baby the tie a simple cloth or just used light cotton pants and just changed every time they wet. If they pooed they washed their bottom. They would do that if they were in a nappy anyway. If I just used a wipe it was considered very unclean.
I've done it part time with both my boys. The main benefit for us has been they have always known the toilet as an option for eliminating. They didn't need to unlearn nappies and learn how to release over a toilet or potty. After the age of about 10months I have very rarely had pooey nappies. As for newborns sleeping in poo, you will find that mostly their pattern is predictable and is somewhere around a feed. Also, if you are very consistent with EC, they will actually start to hold a little for when you offer, and show a preference for eliminating in a receptacle. After all, there are few mammals that will willingly soil their sleeping area.
Also, ECers often make a sleeping mat - I had one based on a cloth nappy design. I had a layer of PUL (waterproof but breathes) and a layer of fleece that joined to the top of it with press studs at the corner that bub slept on, and I lay terry squares in between those layers. Keep spares beside the bed so you can change quickly in the night if you need. Others just use a prefold, with a sash that goes around bubs waist like a belt. The prefold is tucked under the belt front and back, going between bubs legs. So if there is a miss you just change that one out and put a fresh one in. As AM said, most ECers cosleep and find that bub will be restless right before they go. They are so in tune with them they wake and hold them over a potty or something similar. We never took it to this extreme.
ETA - instead of ever "toilet training" my boys have just made a gradual transition from mostly 'missing' or eliminating in a nappy to mostly being dry...until one day I suddenly realise that they haven't had a miss in a while so they're done learning this skill
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12-07-2010 11:41 #25Senior Member
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It's nice to hear from someone with first hand experience.
I think I would like to try something very similar to what you did. Where we use nappies some of the time (when out and overnight mainly) and gruadually build up to not having accidents.
I do realise that it is probably a very difficult process to start and to get to know your babies cues. Roughly how long would you say it took you to - and others - to get to know these cues? I don't want to give up too soon or think I should "know by now" obviously everyone would be a little different but just a rough idea would be good.
Baby's not due till Feb so I still have lots of reading to do!!
17-07-2010 14:08 #26
Sorry I forgot to check back on this thread so never answered your question. To be honest there are some that never feel their baby gives clear cues...they often just learn their little ones patterns. Also their cues can change, or they can stop signalling when they are focused on learning a new skill. You will find you become amazingly in tune with them though. I remember when mine were little, I would have them sitting on my lap and feel a warmth as if they had wet, but they were dry, then I'd hold them over the potty and they'd go. Easiest thing for your baby is to go into it with no expectations on you or them. We had phases when at home they were rarely in nappies, and other times when I had people staying or was feeling overwhelmed where I'd just offer when I'd change them, and try to change them regularly.
As for when I started getting cues, probably took a couple of weeks to feel confident. Poo cues are easiest of course. I was and still can be worst at reading cues when out or around others and feeling self conscious or wanting to prove that EC wasn't stupid. I would be so desperate not to miss a cue I would interpret everything and take them a million times and then they would get frustrated too. I wont make that mistake again. I nolonger care what anyone thinks about the choices I make.
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