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    Default Working during IVF

    Hi Everyone,

    I would be really interested to know how other people have managed working a full time job (stressful job) with long hours at the same time as going through IVF cycles.
    I have recently received a promotion at work and have also done 2 IVF cycles - the first was cancelled and the second we didnt manage to get past the harvest (although good news that we have 3 frozen embryos waiting).
    I have been really stressed and considering taking a couple of months off work to do a frozen cycle.

    Has anyone else been in this position? Has anyone had a successful cycle whilst working a full on full time job? It is probably the hardest decision for me to make, but I just dont want to look back in a year and wonder if the stress from my job has been a factor in not getting pregnant.

    All help really appreciated!
    Lysee

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    Lysee - if you can afford to take some time off well before and after your FET I personally would do it. IVF is such an emotionally draining experience and we want to do the very best we can to make each try a success. IVF is very taxing on the body and sole and whatever you can do to eleviate some stress from your life I would go for it.

    I have been very lucky in the fact that my boss basically said "whatever time you need off just take off". He has been very understanding and supportive and I will be eternally grateful to him and his wife for their support during my 2 years of IVF. My stress was eleminated through their support.

    It is a very big decision to take time off work but sometimes hard decisions have to be made and you don't regret them one little bit once you have made them.

    I hope your decision comes easy to you and your DP and that your TTC journey is a very short one and that your dreams come true quickly.

    Best of luck

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    Hi Lysee,

    I think you have to make the right decision for you. I just thought I would share my own experience to help you make that decision.

    I too work full time in a position that can be very stressful. I continued working full time during most of my cycles.

    There is only one FET where I took time off and ended up with a BFN so I personally dont think taking time away from work made a difference for me.


    I have also asked my FS whether stress impacted on my cycles, and I explained I have a stressful job and explained a few stressful events in my life. She didnt seem to think stress impacts on your success rate.

    Personally, If I was you I would keep your leave for when your bub arrives.

    All the best in your journey

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    I'm another with a stressful job and I have recently been moved into a completely new division, so have the added 'I-have-no-idea-what-I'm-doing' stress on top.

    I will be having about a week before EPU off, and about a week after transfer, so approx 2.5 weeks.

    With that in mind, I might feel ok enough to work up until egg retrieval, and I might want to go back within a day or two.

    This is my first cycle, so I am very much of the opinion that I am going to go with whatever feels right at the time. Work will always be there, and will cope without me.

    Best of luck with your decision!

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    I guess the fact you asked this question means you have found your job in some ways is affecting your IVF journey.
    My job is very stressful job. My boss if very understanding but my work mates may not. I did not tell everyone at work because it is too personal.
    I was considering quitting my job but my boss offer me to cut down my hours. Innitially i found it very stressful to perform well at at work as i am quite hard on myself. I wasnt happy because i tried very hard to fit appointment, ultrasound, blood test around work. Plus I spent more money on acupunture, massage and supplements to support my body. But all because i was stressed. Somedays during acupunture session i was stilll thinking about ivf and work ....
    It was hard to cut down my hours, work out a budget but i am happy and feeling less stressful now. I eat well. I cook more. I spend more time with my DH. We excercise together. I am more aware about my body.
    And i have PCOS, my hormones were all over the place hence i was not ovulating and suffering acne. I am now feeling less stressful and i feel more positive each step i take.
    I hope my experience help you to make your decision. Whatever, take a step and try...we dont know what is around the corner at all. Talk to your partner too. It helps !

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    Hello Lysee

    This is such a difficult decision. I'm not in a position where to not work is even an option, but even if I did I think I would continue to at least work part-time. We need 2 incomes, and if I didn't work, my work stress would quickly be replaced by financial stress of not working, coupled with the ongoing expenses of IVF! It is not a practical choice for us. I also think I would go stir crazy not working, and my life would be completely consumed by IVF.

    But it is such a juggle! I work in Health, and racing from my own clinics to attend IVF appts, whether it is scans, ET, blood tests etc etc is very stressful. I feel like I just run on adrenaline those days! This is our 4th cycle, and I have pretty much worked through each, apart from 1 day off for EP, and maybe a day off when I get my results, which up until now have been negative.

    I've been very lucky to have a boss who is understanding and flexible. Also, in Health I have the advantage of ToIL, RDO and it is very easy to throw a sickie without too much consequence. My own stress management skills and self-care have definitely improved though! I get lots of rest, plenty of exercise, say no to social activities if I need time-out etc

    To work or not work?? Definitely a personal decision. Good luck with whatever you decide.

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    Thanks to all for your responses.
    Unfortunately I havent been lucky to work in a flexible environment and I havent been able to reduce my hours of work. I have only told two people at work, and this was more of a forced confession so that I could ask for time off and flexibility around my hours.
    I am expected to be at work for a certain amount of hours a day and I also manage three people so need to be there for them.
    I am able to afford a couple of months off work and I just found out what a frozen cycle involves and think maybe just time out to relax and focus on the cycle is what I need. I am conscious though of the fact I will have nothing else on my mind, so may need to fill my days with household duties!!

    All the advice has been great. It is really wonderful to know that some people have supportive workplaces and bosses. I wish!

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    I am on a part time contract but work alot over fulltime hours. I have let my boss know that when I get more into our IVF journey (I am pill popping atm) I will only be doing my contracted hours.

    I am finding work difficult atm as the pill is making me very moody and a little depressed. I have asked my boss to let me know when I am getting to moody or emotional so that I can reign my emotions back in.

    I was offered a fulltime contract, but turned it down last week. I think this is the best decision I have made so far and my DH supports me.

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    Default Hi Everyone

    Funny, I was thinking about whether I should be quitting my job today whilst doing IVF.

    I’m on a very good salary and if I moved to another company I’m worried that I might not get this much. I really like the people that I work with and the work itself. Although the work that I do is not stressful but the manager that I worked for is a real pain. Originally, I have a female boss who is very understanding as she has kids of her own. When she left, I was moved to another dept reporting to a middle age male.
    When I go for my EPU I was hospitalise for a full day as I suffered very bad pain from the collection. I got my m/certificate and he still asks what is wrong. So I have to keep constantly make up “white lies” as I totally don’t trust him as he’s been known not to keep his mouth shut.

    I couldn’t stay at home because I’m not used to having no one around. Although DH suggested that I should take part-time work but the company that I work for doesn’t offer that.
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    Dear Lysee,
    Quit the job if you feel the stress is getting too much. Stress is the result of increases in cortisol, cortisol creates feeling of anxiety, which is definitely not what you want. Can you reduce your hours of work? Work has a positive place in IVF treatments, it helps create normality...life has to continue on despite how hard and how absorbing the IVF process is. Without work distracting my thoughts, I'd have been a basket case long ago. Your motivation for work and enthusiasm will wane as the importance of becoming a mother takes over. Sounds like you could benefit from a cruiser job though.


 

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