It would take some adjusting. I know that I look forward to the days off with Dh, but your Dh wouldn't really get that anymore . 1.5 days per week would be disappointing especially when I'm sure he spends his Sundays mowing and doing jobs.
It would be nice to have him next to you at night though, and lovely to see him every night for dinner.
Hope it gets easier for you xoxo
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02-02-2012 23:49 #252Junior Member
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Just posting cause I need to blah a little. It's so hard sometimes, and I try so hard to be the best mum I can be. I have two kids under three and DH works away, but his time away is regular so that helps. Sigh I just wish I could be a different person cause I am sure others can do the parenting thing better than I can. But then I realise too that it is pretty damn hard when your partner works away. We don't have supports where we live and limited close social relationships despite going to mums groups etc. Of course I am so busy with the kids it's difficult to develop strong close relationships, and I find that no one really understands the FIFO life unless they are in it themselves. Sometimes it really is just getting through one day at a time, as bad as that sounds. Don't worry, tomorrow I will probably feeling fine and totally on top of it all, it's just that when you are the only parent for lengthy periods and there is no support when you are struggling, there is no one to help pick up the slack, it can really bring you down. I have to be the rock and well sometimes I crumble under the constant challenges. I know I am doing a good job though and I have a long list of coping strategies to manage it all, including during the times DH is home (this too presents some challenges). Is it motherhood, is it DH working away, or is it just being 'me' thats the problem? I am sure it is the combination of all three and parenting can be so hard. My poor kids, they have to put up with it all too! I really don't know how sole parents do it. Well done FIFO mummies! We are all heroes and it does go mostly unrecognised. Keep up the good work! Sigh....... and may the money be worth it............
03-02-2012 00:06 #253
Keep plodding I'm sure you are doing great and as for those 'poor' kids ... they'll survive
03-02-2012 00:21 #254Junior Member
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Thanks Emj ! . The literature says there are more peak experiences and of course more low low's when you are a FIFO family. We are just having a bit of a low low today. ...... and the darlings are snoozing now. Phew!
03-02-2012 09:11 #255
Michelle I had a low day the other day too, I find being with other adults recharging how about you, what recharges your batteries?
Took the red pill.
18-02-2012 00:20 #256
*bump* just bumping this thread up
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18-02-2012 00:25 #257
Thanks for the bump. My DH is away atm he will be back not this Tuesday but the next.
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18-02-2012 01:43 #258
Going to jump in and join this thread. My DH does FIFO work and we have a 6 week old DS. DH has just gone back to work for the first time since DS was born. Coping ok so far and managing to get things done around the house as well as caring for DS. Be great to talk to others in similar positions.
18-02-2012 10:13 #259
Hi again everyone
My DH is home at the moment, he leaves on Monday... We just got new carpets in the bedrooms so he's been really busy moving furniture!
18-02-2012 10:29 #260
Raff my man is back the day after, on wednesday morning DS1 has kindy that day so he should get a nice sleep after coming off might shift.
Summa, glad to hear your going well remember to nurture yourself (good food, rest and recharge your batteries) too
Laksa, we need to catchup! Have you checked the baldivis meet thread? We're meeting again at chipmunks next mon/tue 27th/28th if you can come?
AFM I'm doing good, I really have to make sure I regularly see people IRL or I crash and burn so I'm really focusing on that at the moment.
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