I went back with DS1 when he was nearly 11 months. I did 1 day per week for the first month & am now 2.5 days per week, plus I work for myself 1 day per week.
Why did I return? I wanted to keep my job (been there 11 years) and keep my skills up & my options open. I also like being able to contribute financially, so I haven't had to give away my (expensive) hobby completely. Still being able to keep my horses & do some work outside the home has kept me sane and my life balanced. I am older (mid 30s) so had planned ahead & worked hard to ensure I wouldn't have to sacrifice *all* the things I enjoy (there were plenty of compromises!!).
I am enjoying being a Mum - we are expecting baby #2 in September. I will work 4 days/week in the lead up for financial reasons, then take 12 months mat leave & only plan to return 1 day a week for the first 6 months, then ideally go onto a 3 day fortnight whilst I have 2 children under kinder age. Hubby also plans to cut back his hours so we can reduce days at childcare. We've accepted we'll have a couple of years of lower income - but it's not forever. We both want to spend lots of time with the children whilst they are small.
Long term, 2 days at work I think would be perfect for me - best of both worlds.
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20-02-2015 12:34 #181Senior Member
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21-05-2015 19:21 #182Junior Member
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My DH is financially settled enough for all our family . So I decided not to go back to job after my kids.
21-05-2015 20:17 #183
My partner and I are both female, we both wanted to be stay at home mums but thats just not an option... And we also love both being financially stable/ contributing equally, so we agreed to both work part time and stay home part time. If one is at work, the other is home so we don't need childcare.
This works just perfect for us.
I took 6 months paid leave after ds was born and DP had 7 weeks off.
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21-05-2015 20:34 #184
Did you go back (or are you planning to go back) to work after you had children?
Yes I went back to FT work when DS1 was 6mo. It felt late tbh.
I plan to do the same after DD2 is 6mo
Did you want to - for your own sanity or career aspirations? Had to (for financial reasons)?
I didn't "have" to however I don't believe in leaving all the financial burden on my partner. Also I am a strong believer in financial independence.
I like my work, I have a good career and worked hard on it, so it makes sense to keep it up. I want to lead by example for my kids too.
Best scenario would be for both DH and I to work 4 days a week.
It won't happen for a while but we are working on it 😊
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21-05-2015 20:34 #185
I went back to work 3 days a week when DS was 4 months old. It was a short-term contract (only 3 months) but I'm now looking for a new job, preferably 3 days a week but looking like if I want to work in my field and at my level it will have to be full time.
Financially I don't have to work but I don't want to leave my career hanging indefinitely and I also like contributing to our finances.
21-05-2015 20:52 #186
Had to go back when Dd was 4 months for financial reasons. I went back full time.
21-05-2015 20:53 #187
I went back to work when DS1 was 10 months old for 2 days per week. I had DS2 in August and I am taking a year and a half off work to enjoy my boys as DS1 is now in school. When I return to work it will probably be for 2 days only although I really don't need to work, the adult interaction is what I need.
21-05-2015 21:00 #188
Yes I did part time when ds was just under 6 months. It was for both career and financial reasons.
22-05-2015 10:10 #189
No and I'm very grateful that we were able to set ourselves up financially before having kids so that I am able to stay home. I walked away from a career that I worked hard to 'make it' in but being home with my babies is what I ultimately have always wanted
22-05-2015 10:32 #190Senior Member
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I went back to work 3 days a week when DS was 11 months. We don't need the money (although it is nice!) - it was about feeling like a complete human being again, and keeping up my career skills (I'm an engineer).
I am glad I was able to be full-time at home up to that point, and feel like he was at an age where he was starting to need some socialisation. He now loves childcare- they do lots of great activities that I'd be unlikely to do at home (so messy!) and he loves hanging out with the other kids. I still get to spend four days a week with him, I contribute to our finances, I feel more purposeful and I get some mental stimulation. It's not everyone's cup of tea, but for us it's been a good balance.
We're planning on doing the same when DS2 arrives.
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