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    Quote Originally Posted by TahliB View Post

    Quick question for those that have done the training sessions, how do you get invited to these? Do you sign up after the info session?
    At the end of the info session you will be given some paperwork to complete in order apply to attend the training sessions.

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    Thanks ShannyAnny

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    Thanks everyone for the warm wishes. We are very excited for the next step 😊

    In terms of timelines you just have to get through each step instead of thinking too far ahead. I've always believed in things happening for a reason. It's hard not to think ahead but I decided early on that it will take as long as it takes and there is nothing I can do to make it go faster!

    Saffronsunshine I am really sorry you have experienced this negativity. I guess sometimes it's hard for people to digest. When you go through the training they talk about the grieving process (as in grieving the chance to have a biological child). I know my DH and I struggled to come to terms with the fact that we would not have a biological child. But once you work through it and move forward it just becomes 'normal'. It's the same with family members. They may just need time to 'grieve' the loss of a biological grandchild, niece or nephew,etc, and take it all in. Both our families as well as the close friends we have told have all been 100% supportive. I'm sure deep down they would have loved us to have a biological child but either way they just want us to be happy!

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    Thanks for all your kind words! I'm feeling much better now. My friends reactions have been very supporting and encouraging. Lots of love there!

    I think because we are choosing adoption first and not as a last resort (after IVF) they are shocked and disappointed. Im hoping in time that they come around. Its happening whether they like it or not!

    Good luck with the PC info night TahliB!

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    Hello ladies,
    I posted here some time ago, but thought I would give an update and a little background.
    my husband and I began our journey to have a family 14.5 years ago! We tried IVF for 10 years (everything medically possible...plus sperm donation, embryo donation). We suffered through miscarriages and heartache. We were told by specialist at the end of 2013 that we could no longer do IVF as we were unable to biologically have our own child.

    So, beginning of 2014 we looked into Victorianadoption. Attended information session in May and our training was in November. We were very lucky and got a case worker straight away. We completed all our paper work, medicals, life stories and had our first interview in Feb 2015. We had a second interview and were approved for Victorian Adoption in April 23rd 2015. And then we waited and we waited. We were put up for one little boy but he wasn't to be ours. A year later we had a review where we were told we were now unlikely to be selected by a birth family because of our ages (I had just turned 40, my husband 52).... Yes, we were older, but this was never an issue during our interviews and was actually seen as a positive (long stable marriage, financially secure, life experience etc).

    This was a sad time for me. I felt I had failed at conceiving naturally, failed at IVF and now was being told we were unlikely to be successful with adoption. But I found strength and we were determined to have a child. So off we went to Permanent Care training in September 2016, interviews late October (much easier as we were still approved for adoption!). Approved for Permanent Care November 16th 2016

    .......and then on 27th April 2017 we got a phone call to say we'd been linked to a little 20 month old girl. It was surreal! I went to work the next day and said I'm taking maternity leave, this is my last day! 3 days later we met our little girl and spent 2 days at her foster Carers house. Less than a week later our little girl was living here with us in her forever home.....just in time for Mother's Day! It's now been 2.5 weeks and life is crazy! They tell you it's quick....but you can't emotionally and mentally prepare for it. Our daughter is a pocket rocket and on the go non stop! But, she is adorable. She is ours. She is already calling us mummy and daddy!
    We were anti permanent care initially, but God had other plans! We can give our daughter such an amazing life, a life her birth family couldn't.
    Dont rule out permanent care as an option. There are so many children out there that need safe, secure loving homes. The rest of my days will be spent pouring love onto our little one.
    I wish you all, so much luck. Have faith. Our journey was long but I honestly believed and knew I would be a mum one day! Much love and strength, Bek xxx

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    Wow Bek76, congratulations! Had tears in my eyes reading your story. I'm so happy for you

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    Thanks for sharing @Bek76. So thrilled for you that your long journey has a happy ending and you now have your little girl.

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    That's awesome Bek27 - I bet that was such a great feeling to tell your work you were taking your maternity leave! Did they know the length of your journey?

    I'm so happy for you and your little girl. I would love to hear any other stories people have with Perm Care as well.

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    Amazing Bek27!! Thanks so much for sharing your story!! & a huge congratulations to you on the final arrival of your daughter!! Bless xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bek76 View Post
    Hello ladies,
    I posted here some time ago, but thought I would give an update and a little background.
    my husband and I began our journey to have a family 14.5 years ago! We tried IVF for 10 years (everything medically possible...plus sperm donation, embryo donation). We suffered through miscarriages and heartache. We were told by specialist at the end of 2013 that we could no longer do IVF as we were unable to biologically have our own child.

    So, beginning of 2014 we looked into Victorianadoption. Attended information session in May and our training was in November. We were very lucky and got a case worker straight away. We completed all our paper work, medicals, life stories and had our first interview in Feb 2015. We had a second interview and were approved for Victorian Adoption in April 23rd 2015. And then we waited and we waited. We were put up for one little boy but he wasn't to be ours. A year later we had a review where we were told we were now unlikely to be selected by a birth family because of our ages (I had just turned 40, my husband 52).... Yes, we were older, but this was never an issue during our interviews and was actually seen as a positive (long stable marriage, financially secure, life experience etc).

    This was a sad time for me. I felt I had failed at conceiving naturally, failed at IVF and now was being told we were unlikely to be successful with adoption. But I found strength and we were determined to have a child. So off we went to Permanent Care training in September 2016, interviews late October (much easier as we were still approved for adoption!). Approved for Permanent Care November 16th 2016

    .......and then on 27th April 2017 we got a phone call to say we'd been linked to a little 20 month old girl. It was surreal! I went to work the next day and said I'm taking maternity leave, this is my last day! 3 days later we met our little girl and spent 2 days at her foster Carers house. Less than a week later our little girl was living here with us in her forever home.....just in time for Mother's Day! It's now been 2.5 weeks and life is crazy! They tell you it's quick....but you can't emotionally and mentally prepare for it. Our daughter is a pocket rocket and on the go non stop! But, she is adorable. She is ours. She is already calling us mummy and daddy!
    We were anti permanent care initially, but God had other plans! We can give our daughter such an amazing life, a life her birth family couldn't.
    Dont rule out permanent care as an option. There are so many children out there that need safe, secure loving homes. The rest of my days will be spent pouring love onto our little one.
    I wish you all, so much luck. Have faith. Our journey was long but I honestly believed and knew I would be a mum one day! Much love and strength, Bek xxx
    Bek I just loved reading your story and had happy tears and goosebumps as I read the joy in finding your way to your daughter. I love the message you are sending of hope and a positive spin on what can often be so negative when it comes to permanent care and adoption.
    We've adopted two little girls, our most recent adoption just close to legalisation now, and the amount of people that are shocked that we've adopted is so sad. Most people assume that local adoption or permanent care placements just don't happen. We are living proof they do and I'm such a big advocate for it and just want to encourage anyone considering to give it a go!
    It made our dreams come true, it can happen for others

    Thanks for sharing your beautiful story Bek - it made my night ❤️

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