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    Default Considering termination when Married with Children

    Apparantly this is more common than anyone realises, so I just want to put it out there. I am facing the possibility of termination. I have children already and I'm married. I am a responsible woman, trying to make a responsible decision. DH has said the decision is mine, and he will support me either way.

    I am working part time, studying part time, and trying to raise my children. I dont know if I could handle another baby, even though I want one.

    Anyone else out there that has been in this situation? How did you make your decision?

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    I have no been in this situation, and I am not married. I am a mother of 1, and in a long-term relationship though, and I would definitely consider a termination if i felt it would be better for myself and my family to have one.

    I have more than just myself to consider, and I want for my family and I to have a decent life... so if that meant terminating a pregnancy, I would do it.

    Not saying it would be easy, as I'm sure it wouldn't be, but it wouldn't be something I'd refuse to do.

    Best of luck with your decision OP.

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    Thanks SM.

    Anyone else with this experience?

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    I want to wish you all the best in this situations, and please don't allow other peoples beliefs and feelings to make this choice for you.

    At the end of the day, it is up to you. If you feel this is going to add a strain to you family lifestyle and your own emotional wellbeing, then it is responsible to examine all options.

    Why not write down how having another baby will change your life, both the positives and the negatives? Write down how a termination will affect your life as well. It may be a good idea to talk to someone at Children by Choice (have a google).

    Whatever you choose, take care of yourself.

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    I haven't no, i have had a termination when i wasn't in a relationship, but now being in a relationship and having children, i really don't think i'd like to explain to my kids one day that they could have had another brother or sister out there but i decided to terminate it. I think if i were to fall pregnant while in a relationship i would do my best to work out the best possible scenario. Having had a termination it's not something you can ever go back and change and i know looking at my kids and knowing that they could have had another brother or sister would absolutely gut me. Please think of all the ramifications it may seem a simple decision but it really really isn't. Goodluck with your decision, really you are the only one that can make it.

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    we had some bad results on a nuchal transclucency, the cvs they didn't get enough to do the tests, and I had a miscarriage before I could have an amnio.

    We were contemplating termination depending on the results though. It broke my heart.


 

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