I think I have it, only found out a minute ago that it even exists. Im worried this means i am going to suffer from Post Natal Depression too?
I am 20 weeks and feeling really flat, unmotivated, sad, angry and just want to hide away from everyone. i hate everything, There are no happy thoughts in my head and I noticed the last 2 weeks I am no longer excited to even be pregnant which is ridiculous if you look at my siggy, lol.
I know this isnt right as my life is good and I certainly dont have any childhood issues or any current dramas to cause me to feel depressed. In fact i have never experienced depression before, I dont know if I even have it? I think I do, as its been creeping up on me over the past few weeks and seems to be taking over now rather than dissappearing....
I am seeing my OB on thursday and will raise the issue of how i am feeling, but in the meantime would anyone be willing to share their thoughts/experiences about it with me? Does this mean i will get PND too??
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01-02-2010 14:35 #1
Anyone had Prenatal depression?
01-02-2010 15:17 #2Senior Member
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Hi hun, I haven't experienced prenatal depression but I just wanted to give you a huge
I'm glad you're going to talk to your ob about it this week and I really hope he/she takes you seriously. Depression shouldn't be taken lightly in any form. I went through some when I was younger and DH has a fear of me developing PND. Don't keep telling yourself you have no reason to feel this way - that's what I used to do and all it does is make things worse! There could be many reasons for it - just think of the massive hormonal changes you are going through atm for a start.
As far as I have read, having prenatal depression doesn't necessarily mean you will develop postnatal depression so try not to let that weigh on your mind atm.
Good luck with your ob, I hope you start to feel better soon and can enjoy the feeling of being pregnant again!
01-02-2010 15:47 #3
ITs all new to me, and I know I dont have it too bad yet from what I have read in the past about people suffering from depression, I am just worried that it might get worse instead of better. Or hopefully its something that will just pass. Im in two minds whether to say anything or not to my doctor incase it "clears iteself up" in the next couple of weeks, kwim.
01-02-2010 16:31 #4Senior Member
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I know what you mean - but you should def mention it, even if you wake up that morning feeling better, it might not last.
You gotta look after yourself, and it's good that you're acknowledging that something isn't right and need to do something about it
01-02-2010 18:53 #5
I have clinical depression and atm am experiencing prenatal depression. I am now back on my meds and seeing mental health and a social worker to find out what I need. Talking with your maternity dept is a great help.
01-02-2010 19:32 #6mummy to boy/girl twins
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I got pre natal depression when I suffered a servere bleed and at the u/s to check what was going on, was told we had lost one (they had us muddled up with anyone couple)..from this point on, I suffered depression and anxiety attacks..I did go on to have PND , but I do blame my GP for some of that.. I spoke to him about the anxiety attacks and depression and he gave me meds, but then said they may affect the babies hearts..so there was NO WAY IN HELL i was putting them tablets in my mouth...It was only after giving birth and falling apart in hospital and talking to a physchologist, did she tell me there were other meds I could of had during pregnancy ..
Definately talk to your GP, its good that you have recognised that something isnt right.. All the best...
01-02-2010 19:37 #7Senior Member
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I had prenatal depression before my son was born, around the 6 weeks prior. I didn't want him, I went 2 weeks overdue and couldn't have been happier - anything was better than having him born. I was depressed, sad, flat and worried.
After he was born it took me around 2 weeks to be able to say I loved him. I had no post natal depression just a few 'baby blues' in the couple of weeks after.
01-02-2010 19:40 #8
I had prenatal depression, and I had a history of depression and anxiety disorder before I got pregnant. It doesn't necessarily mean you will get post natal depression but just remember that you are probably at a higher risk of getting it. I felt a lot like you, completely flat, I just couldn't feel happy about anything.
It's definitely a good thing to talk about it, though. I bottled it up and thought I could deal with it on my own, which I think contributed a lot to me developing post natal depression too. Talk to your OB, it really will help. All the best.
01-02-2010 21:45 #9
Thanks for sharing ladies,
I feel hesitant to speak to my OB, but I can see from your posts that its the best thing to do. This is going to sound really bad (sexist) but for the first time ever i wish my OB was a woman. i would feel much better speaking to a middy or another woman doctor about it. Why is that. I am going to see if my hospital has any services relating to this too, maybe they can help?
Thanks so much, gosh I just never knew Prenatal depression even existed...
02-02-2010 09:34 #10
This thread is a great idea! It's not just after the birth (post-natal) when we're at greater risk of depression. Prenatal depression is a serious problem (as is prenatal psychosis. If you have bipolar, please ensure your psychologist/psychiatrist knows you are PG, and that your GP and Obstetrician know you have bipolar).
I'm a psychologist, and I work with men and women affected by depression everyday. I thought I'd contribute with some info on warning signs to look for. I also thought I should list some things you can do to either prevent depression or help overcome it.
Some of the signs/symptoms:
- loss of interest/pleasure in things you normally enjoy;
- feelings of flatness, emptiness, hopelessness, guilt, and/or despair. Or the absence of feelings;
- decrease in hobbies/activities;
- decrease in exercise and general physical activity;
- decrease in socialising;
- decrease in energy and motivation;
- decrease in concentration and attention; problems remembering things, thinking clearly and making decisions;
- changes in sleep patterns and/or eating patterns;(obviously, some sleep and eating changes are normal during PG, but things like extreme over-sleeping or under-asleeping and extreme undereating when you're not ill and should be interested in food can be signs of depression - especially when in conjunction with other symptoms above)
- thoughts of death or hurting yourself, or thoughts of 'ending the pain'
- you don't have to have all of the above syptoms, but a handful or more can indicate you have the beginnings of depression or depression itself
How to know if it's become 'serious':
(I should point out that even if it isn't 'serious', you'll still benefit from talking to someone and following the tips below; you may prevent depression from taking hold)
- when the symptoms are present most of the day, nearly everyday, for at least 2 weeks
- when it is having a significant impact on your wellbeing, your family and home-life, your friendships, and/or your work/study/hobbies.
Things you can do:
- exercise! Research has shown that just 30mins a day can prevent/reduce depression. Because you're PG, take it easy. Only light exercise is required. Start small if you like; one day, walk around the house a few times, the next day, walk up and down the street... and so on. Depression will make you want to stay on the couch. You have to challenge this thinking and get up; exercise will pump blood, oxygen and endorphins through your body and thus it will eventually energise you.
- spend a little time in the sun each day (this is known to prevent and reduce depression)
- start doing things you love, even if it's just for a short time every day or every second day (think of hobbies or interests that you used to do, or things you've always wanted to do; again, start small if you need to. Just 15mins a day would be great)
- connect with friends and family. Isolation is a serious problem. The more your support network / social world shrinks, the more alone you feel, the more unstimulating your life becomes, and then the more depressed you can become.
- depression makes us magnify the negative aspects of ourselves, our lives, our past, our present and our future. It makes us believe that nothing will ever get better - but unless you're psychic, you can't prove this! Spend a little time each day forcing yourself to notice the good things in your life, no matter how small. Start a diary in which you record small to big things that you are grateful for. And when you find yourself thinking that the future will be bad, remind yourself that you don't actually know. You can't prove that good things aren't around the corner. You can't even prove that one day you won't look back on this time and feel grateful for it - you may learn and grow in ways you never imagined from this difficult experience. Remind yourself of other times in your life when you've gotten through difficulties - while you were going through those times, you might have been convinced nothing would get better, but perhaps it did. Lastly, depression will make you minimise your talents and achievements. Force yourself to notice what you are good at, what great things you've done, what people see/like in you. When your mind tries to downplay these things, challenge your thinking! It's just the depression telling you that your achievements/talents/goodsides don't count!
- notice your guilt. When you feel guilty, remind yourself that you are human and EVERYONE will have done things they regret. Everyone. Try to forgive yourself for your mistakes and tell yourself that you will grow and learn from them, but that they don't equal who you are as a person or how your future will be.
- talk to your GP, or any other health professional. They can refer you on for further help. Counselling in some instances can be free or cheap - let them know if you have financial difficulties. Counselling DOES work. Decades of research have supported this. Medication can also work, and many PG are able to take this during PG.
- go to Beyond Blue. They have an info/support telephone number: 1300 22 4636
Their website is also excellent! http://www.beyondblue.org.au/index.aspx?link_id=107
N.B. Some people have anxiety alongside depression. It's actually quite common. Anxiety is when you find yourself worrying a lot; you might be restless and fidgety, feel sick in the stomach or get headaches, you may have trouble stopping your thoughts or worries, you might stay awake at night due to worries, you might find yourself avoiding certain people and situations for the fear they evoke in you. Anxiety is just as treatable as depression!
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