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    Default IVF Over 40

    Hi everyone

    I just wanted to write this thread because I know there was nothing like it when I was considering IVF. I did a lot of research and all the statistics basically told me to give up or that I would need donated eggs or sperm etc etc etc.

    I am 43 years old. My husband is 46. We married in February 09 and neither of us were already blessed with children. We decided pretty quickly that kids were something we wanted to try and have. Nothing happened after a few months of trying. Off we went to see a fertility specialist. Despite the pretty bad stats we were given there as well, we decided to give IVF a go.

    Our only real issue was my age. But...first cycle, 8 eggs were harvested, 3 fertilised and all 3 transferred. Then to our amazement, I got a positive pregnancy test. I am now almost 10 weeks pregnant and despite a few little humps, all is going well, no morning sickness to speak of, hardly anything else. We know that there is still some way before we finally have our baby but if we hadn't tried, we wouldn't even have got this far.

    I will be 44 when I deliver. It's a miracle.

    For anyone over 40 considering IVF, you have to give it a go. You just don't know what will happen if you try and you will regret it forever if you don't try.

    Good luck.

    LuckyAPA

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    Hi Lucky

    I remember you from a few weeks ago!

    Once again, congratulations! So glad to hear that things are going well.

    An inspirational story all the very best to you!

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    Thanks Lucky2bMum

    I'm just thinking if there had been something to inspire us, we would have attempted IVF at least a few months earlier......

    LuckyAPA

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    Hi luckyAPA.

    Congratulations on your pregnancy what an inspiring stroy. I wish you the best of luck. I have been doing IVF since I was 37 I am going to be 42 in December and no luck yet. I am currently PUPO so hopefully my luck is changing.

    Thanks for sharing

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    Dear Minibar

    Just before we did IVF, my mother-in-law said to me 'if you want something badly enough and the timing is right, you will get it somehow'.
    I'm hoping she is right.
    Good Luck to you!!!! I hope you get everything your heart desires, and soon!!!!
    And to all you over 40's....GO FOR IT!!!!!

    I've just discovered the one downside to being pregnant at 43.....the number of judgemental, inconsiderate people around who think that they have the right to comment on whether women over 40 should be allowed to have babies, yes, they actualy used the word allowed. Usually they are women under 40 who I work with who have children and never had a problem conceiving them. Wow, imagine the comments when they actually find out I'm up the duff!!!!!!

    LuckyAPA

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    Default So good to read....

    Hi Lucky

    What an awesome outcome for the both of you. I do infact, know precisely how you both feel.

    I'm 45 with a sperm morphology problem and wifey has just turned 40. She however, is fit and well. We had been trying for three years with no hint of success. We finally dragged ourselves along to our GP and then jumped on board the rollercoaster that is IVF/ICSI.

    Right now we've just had our BT to confirm our pregnancy and we're about 5 -6 weeks gone. Our scan is in December and we're looking forward to hearing our baby's heartbeat for the very first time.

    On our EPU, we had only 5 eggs, 4 fertilised, 1 lost, 2 frosties and 1 implanted.

    Isn't it the most amazing thing to realise, after believing for so long that nature wasn't going to allow your family to be? The entire world has changed for us and everything, everything now seems different to me in the best possible way. I just know you guys know what I'm talking about.

    And what you said about judgemental people...well this is a prime reason why wifey and I have told almost no one. Some comments can cut straight through us and cause so much hurt and they are spoken so casually and easy by others. They simply don't and will never understand what so many couples are willing to put themselves through what they have taken for their right....children.

    There is a specific over 35's IVF forum here too if you're interested. I'm there somewhere on it.

    I'm delighted to have read your post and just know you and DH will continue on the 9 month journey well.

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    Lucky

    Thanks for this thread. I am so excited to hear your story. I am now 43 and about to go for my 4th cycle. After the last cycle (which ended up with 4 eggs but no fertilisation) I really felt it was all over. But after 9 months off due to work, I am about to give it another go. Your story has truly given me hope. Congratulations! I have an appointment with a new doctor next Wednesday and we will start the whole process again. Scared but looking forward to it. I cannot believe people's attitude to older mothers. There are reasons why we haven't had children before now, or why we want more children at this time of our life.

    Minibar, we have met previously on Bubhub. Hope the 2WW isn't driving you too batty! Keep positive.

    Paul64 - congratulations to you as well.

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    Paul - Congratulations to you and your wife!!!!!
    And I'm so glad someone else understands.

    We have also told very few people, mostly family and close friends, you know, the people you know will be happy for you no matter what. When we made the decision to keep it to ourselves, it was more for self preservation than anything else - we didn't want to have to explain why it hadn't worked etc. Now, for an entirely new set of reason, I'm so glad we didn't tell the world. We are making the big 'announcement' after the 12 week point is past but I am certainly prepared for whatever comments come my way.

    Jen - I wish you all the luck in the world. Perhaps this new doctor is just what you need. I've heard/read time and time again about people changing doctors and having success on their very next attempt. Here's hoping that happens to you.

    Me, well, I'm still pregnant. People are now actually starting to ask questions at work. I wouldn't have thought I would be showing at 10 weeks but apparently I am. My clothes are certainly a little snug but I'm nowhere near maternity clothes. All those stomach crunches in my 20's and 30's were a complete waste of time it seems......

    LuckyAPA

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    Congratulations LuckAPA & Paul64 - both of you are inspiring. I've just got my BFP after 2 1/2 long years on IVF with 12 cycles, I turned 40 this year and I'm going it alone. I'm not out of the woods yet, as I have m/c before and still could possibly but this one sticks for the long term. It was my last go at IVF.

    Couldn't give a rats what people think about 'older women' having children, they truly don't understand what it took to get to this point & why we are where we are at.
    Perserverance is the key to anyone considering or currently going through this process & it will be totally worth it

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    Thank you for this thread. I am 42 and have one child. I fell with him accidentally the very first time at the very tender age of 17. He is now 24, married and he and his wife are expecting in February.

    I have spent the last 24 years having a successful career and trying to make something of myself after being classified a 'teen mum' for so many years.

    All I really ever wanted to do was become a mum again and do things 'the right way' but after a couple of failed relationships and a miscarriage in my mid thirties (which ruined the struggling relationship I was in at the time), I gave up on my dream and just concentrated on my job.

    Two years ago, just when I least expected it I met the most lovely man in the world and we have been delightfully happy ever since. He is 32 and always wanted children so we decided a year ago to give it a try despite my age.

    After 3 months of trying we went for tests and found we had male factor infertility. It was a bit of a shock as we assumed the problems would be with me. He is 6'7 with the biggest heart and would make the greatest dad. It seems cruel that the only thing he doesn't have in abundance is sperm!

    Our first FS made us try IUI for three months before we could have a round of IVF through ICSI. I was so angry when I realised we were never going to fall on IUI given DP's sperm count. He was just wasting our time! And at 42 I didn't have any time left to waste!

    After a chemical pregnancy on our first round of IVF (they are harder on the emotions than you'd think), I found an FS who specialised in 'old gals' and changed across to him.

    Am now PUPO on my second round of IVF and got OHSS pretty badly last week two days after transfer. Was on a drip for a day and bed ridden for a week. Apparently this is a good sign for pregnancy although it's getting better today so I'm wondering if it's now not such a great sign.

    Due for BT on Saturday 5 December at 19dpo. The 2ww it harsh!

    I love the support of BH. This thread for the over 40's is just brilliant. Glad we can all keep the faith together!!!!


 

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