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  • 10-11 months

    4 4.55%
  • 12-13 months

    3 3.41%
  • 14-15 months

    3 3.41%
  • 16-17mths

    1 1.14%
  • 18-19mths

    14 15.91%
  • 20-21mths

    5 5.68%
  • 22mths-2yrs

    19 21.59%
  • 2.5 yrs

    17 19.32%
  • 3 yrs

    14 15.91%
  • 4yrs+

    8 9.09%
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    Really it's what works best for your family. I used to want 2 years between my children, but I'm glad I waited. DS will be 3.5 and I couldn't imagine doing it when he was two. He was so full on. He's better now, he can do things for himself and he's been toilet trained for ages now. So I think we'll be sticking to the three year age gap. But if it happens otherwise, I won't mind. We'll cope.

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    I voted for 18 months which is what i have between ds and dd...i found i was able to have them on the same routine, attend the same playgroup, kindergym classes and now at 3.5 and 2 they really enjoy playing together. There will be 2.5 yrs between dd and new bubs due to me having an ectopic pg after dd hopefully they will still be close.

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    my ideal age gap would have been 14months to 20 months but at this rate we will be lucky to have #2 before ds is 3 . It took 2.5yrs to conceive ds and it looks as thought it is going to take just as long this time around.

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    How to space your kids is something a lot of people disagree on. Some say close together (this is how I feel), while others think you should wait a few years.

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    i have a 4.5 year age gap and i'm pretty happy with it. mr 5 is old enough to understand why i cant give him 100% of my attention anymore, and he loves his brother to bits he is so protective of him and such a great helper... also 2 in nappys would drive me off the deep end... but the things that bother me dont bother others so its definitely a personal preference. the best age gap is what ur mentally and physically ready for!

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    For me at least three years, I am really keen for DS to be the only baby while he is still a baby and to be able to just enjoy him alone when he is little.

    Also from a selfish point of view I wanted my first to be either toilet trained or close to it before the next baby comes out because the idea of two in nappies horrifies me!

    So ideally 3-4 years gap with the eldest out of nappies, no longer having bottles or night waking and ready to start going to a pre prep/kinder type thing a few mornings a week.

    If we miss that window of oportunity then we might not TTC at all as there are 6 years years between my brother and I and it's too much.

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    No such thing i reckon. You get what you get, and you cope!!

    A few years ago I would have said a three year gap, but actually I've found my 2 year gap that I thought was too close, was actually easier!

    But a LOT depends on the individual childrens personalities, and we don't get to pick those.

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    but are we talking about the best age gap for the children to have a certain type of relationship with each other as they grow up or how hard it is to raise children with a certain age gap??

    there are big age gaps between myself and siblings ranging from 8 years between myself and my older sister and 11 years between myself and my little brother i got along with both fine and have fond memories of growing up with them, we still get along just fine.

    my husband and his brothers are all just under 2 yrs apart had the same sort of fondness of his childhood but now he only speaks/see his brother (one is deceased) once a year maybe.. his mum still goes on about what a rough gig 3 boys under 5 were lol so close together or apart wont guarentee anything if u ask me.

    sorry for the ramble.

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    Whatever you are blessed with For me, as close together as possible.

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    I want my DS to be in school before I even think about having another one.

    He was a full-time job as a newborn (although I'm hoping if I have others they won't be quite as much hard work) and I literally cannot see where I'd fit in time to look after a toddler on top of that.

    Child care fees are also killing me as it is. I can't imagine paying double what I am now

    There's 4 years between my brother and I. We got along great!


 

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