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    Hi,
    I am having my 2nd m/c and I am devastated. I am 35 next month and I guess I had in my head that I wanted to be pregnant before I turned 35, that's the cut off age in all the books for problems but I have problems already and am scared that this is it even though I know lots of people have babies after and it's fine...

    I know I have a thyroid issue, I found out a month ago, and I am on thyroxine. I guess maybe this is why I was able to get pregnant again (the last m/c was in November and haven't had any luck since) - but even when it happened I thought oh, this might be too soon for my body to have adjusted to the thyroxine...

    Also my progesterone is really low... I need any help at all on what I can do - I am going to try to get as healthy as I possibly can but I am so confused right now, and I'm so tired and I have been running around all week doing blood tests and seeing doctors and travelling here and there and I'm exhausted. This weekend I have a family thing and I can't get out of it and I just want to go home and cry by myself. My husband is being amazing which of course is excellent and I do know I am really lucky... but .... I so want a little baby of my own. I feel so stressed right now, don't know how I'm going to go back to work, I already am stressed with my job as it is, but if you have to pay the mortgage then what can you do... I have a headache and I feel tired and I feel sick and I feel like I've been hit by a truck basically...

    Is there anything that works? I guess I know I can get pregnant, that's something... but how do I get healthy? I was given supplements to take by the doctor but for example the Magnesium is quite strong and I read it hadn't been declared safe for pregnancy even though it hadn't been declared unsafe either so I'm scared to take it in case some of it stays in me after I got pregnant and hurts the baby, and she gave me Zinc but again its a high dose and the health place gave it to me with Vitamin A in it and I am not allowed vitamin A supplements and so I haven't taken that either. I take my thyroxine in the morning and my pregnancy tablet in the evening so they dont mix with each other, they have magnesium and zinc in them too so then I think well isnt that too much if I take the other? and when do I take the others so they dont mix either?

    I just am totally confused and I feel like everything is unravelling, and I feel like dissolving into tears but I'm at my family's place for the weekend so have to put on the happy face and it's SO draining...

    Sorry for the post... I'm just distraught... I want to go to bed and sleep for 100 years

    I already have decided to take Monday off work, if I want to cry all day I can, and I refuse to answer the phone (apart from my husband) or do anything apart from watch rubbish tv and maybe come on here ...

    Sorry for the downer what can I do???

    xxxx

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    Quote Originally Posted by aisling View Post
    Hi,
    I am having my 2nd m/c and I am devastated. I am 35 next month and I guess I had in my head that I wanted to be pregnant before I turned 35, that's the cut off age in all the books for problems but I have problems already and am scared that this is it even though I know lots of people have babies after and it's fine...

    I know I have a thyroid issue, I found out a month ago, and I am on thyroxine. I guess maybe this is why I was able to get pregnant again (the last m/c was in November and haven't had any luck since) - but even when it happened I thought oh, this might be too soon for my body to have adjusted to the thyroxine...

    Also my progesterone is really low... I need any help at all on what I can do - I am going to try to get as healthy as I possibly can but I am so confused right now, and I'm so tired and I have been running around all week doing blood tests and seeing doctors and travelling here and there and I'm exhausted. This weekend I have a family thing and I can't get out of it and I just want to go home and cry by myself. My husband is being amazing which of course is excellent and I do know I am really lucky... but .... I so want a little baby of my own. I feel so stressed right now, don't know how I'm going to go back to work, I already am stressed with my job as it is, but if you have to pay the mortgage then what can you do... I have a headache and I feel tired and I feel sick and I feel like I've been hit by a truck basically...

    Is there anything that works? I guess I know I can get pregnant, that's something... but how do I get healthy? I was given supplements to take by the doctor but for example the Magnesium is quite strong and I read it hadn't been declared safe for pregnancy even though it hadn't been declared unsafe either so I'm scared to take it in case some of it stays in me after I got pregnant and hurts the baby, and she gave me Zinc but again its a high dose and the health place gave it to me with Vitamin A in it and I am not allowed vitamin A supplements and so I haven't taken that either. I take my thyroxine in the morning and my pregnancy tablet in the evening so they dont mix with each other, they have magnesium and zinc in them too so then I think well isnt that too much if I take the other? and when do I take the others so they dont mix either?

    I just am totally confused and I feel like everything is unravelling, and I feel like dissolving into tears but I'm at my family's place for the weekend so have to put on the happy face and it's SO draining...

    Sorry for the post... I'm just distraught... I want to go to bed and sleep for 100 years

    I already have decided to take Monday off work, if I want to cry all day I can, and I refuse to answer the phone (apart from my husband) or do anything apart from watch rubbish tv and maybe come on here ...

    Sorry for the downer what can I do???

    xxxx

    Hi Aisling,

    I really feel for you. You are in a painful place right now and I can really feel it in your words. What I want you to know and keep in mind is that `this too shall pass´. You will be ok. Your age is fine and you have a great chance of conceiving and carrying a healthy pregnancy to term.

    In regards t your question of what works, well preconception health care and health optimisation for optimum fertility to help you get pregnat and deliver the healthiest possible baby—WORKS! There are many studies including a few Harvard papers to prove this fact.

    I have a lot of information about the areas too look at when you want to optimise you and your partner´s fertility in order to create the healhiest possible baby and what to do about it on my website. In addition you may also like to subscribe to my Natural Fertility Booster newsletter, which gives lots of information to prospective parents on increasing the odds of creating a healthy baby—irrespective of your previous medical history.

    In the meantime time you do need to grieve, so do cry, cry a lot and then start being proactive. I´d be delighted to help you with this if you need assistance.

    Also ways to reduce your stress will be absolutely paramount to implement because research shows that stress (work or even `fertility´stress can increase the odds of fertility problems and increase the risk of miscarriage). So finding ways to reduce your stress levels is essential here are a few things you can try:

    1) Vedic or Transcendental Meditation

    2) Emotional Freedom technique (I teach this in a workshop in my clinic in Sydney, if you are interested in more information—even to learn it remotely if you are not in Sydney just send me a private message and I can guide you on what you need to do)

    3) Exercise (great for stress reduction)

    4) Great diet and lifestyle will help your body to cope with stress better

    5) Positive visualisation and contemplations about you already being where you need to be and everything being in Divine Order right now will be of great assistance for your situation.

    I hope this helps.

    With Fertile Blessings,

    Gabriela Rosa | Author, Natural Fertility Specialist, Researcher, Speaker
    BHSc, ND, Post Grad NFM, DBM, Dip Nut, MATMS, MNHAA
    EFT | Natural Fertility | Women’s & Men's Health

    ‘Committed to helping couples create healthy babies and empowering individuals through better health.’


 

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