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    Default Christening for non religious family?

    Hope this doesn't seem a strange, but my DH asked me if we were going to get DS Christened. Neither of us practice a religion. I went to Catholic school but that is as far as it went.

    Can someone please explain to me if they think it would be beneficial to have my DS chistened and why , as I really don't know and it has got me thinking. DS will be attending a Christian based childcare centre and probably down the track school. I picked this because they seem to be more caring and also have a strong commitment to children and care and is the best childcare centre where we live. Both DH and myself don't have any real religious beliefs but that doesn't mean I am not open minded about the matter.

    Any thoughts and advice on this topic would be appreciated. Sorry for my niaivity in the matter.

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    I honestsly believe that private schools cost more, there for you get what you pay for.. Thats just my opinion. My Dh and I are both not religous he was baptised morman, and i am anglican, but we when we called around to get our DS christen, they told us we would have to attend mass's for 4 weeks, this is agaisnt what we stand for, why do something we dont believe in, and pretend, we have agreed to have a naming day, were we will bless our son, ourselves with the love and guidness of our friends and family, But each to their own, as you said u are open to suggestions, where as on the other hand, i wasnt.

    Good luck!

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    It might be important going to a religious based school in the future depending on the school (plenty of them don't mind if the child isn't christened).

    If you and your DH feel the need to do something like a Christening, you can have a Naming Day. We aren't religious at all and we had a naming day as a kind of special, formal way of introducing DD into the family. We had "god parents" or "life mentors" or what ever you want to call it. It was kind of like a committment to DD for the special people in our lives to have a special part in DD's life. And a way of recognising our special people by telling them that we felt they were special enough to us, to play a significant part in DD's life.

    I think I have just used the word special way too many times!

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    I held a Naming Day ceremony as well. It was beautiful because it was all designed by us to be a reflection of what our own hopes and wishes were.

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    Although I was christened, communion-ed, reconcilliation-ed and confirmed as a Catholic I am not religious at all now, and neither is my husband. We had no question about whether to get our son Christened - our view is that he should be the one to decide which (if any) religion to follow when he's old enough.

    We personally don't believe that he has the 'sin of man on his soul' and doesn't need cleansing for it

    I don't want to mess with stuff I don't know about. It might not hurt to just get it done, but who knows?

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    I personally don't like the idea of getting a child Christened/Baptised so you can then have a selection of schools to attend.

    You're either going to follow the faith in which your child has been Baptised/Christened into or don't get your child Christened/Baptised...
    using a Sacrament as a way of getting into a school is cheeky.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Debster
    Hope this doesn't seem a strange, but my DH asked me if we were going to get DS Christened. Neither of us practice a religion. I went to Catholic school but that is as far as it went.

    Can someone please explain to me if they think it would be beneficial to have my DS chistened and why , as I really don't know and it has got me thinking. DS will be attending a Christian based childcare centre and probably down the track school. I picked this because they seem to be more caring and also have a strong commitment to children and care and is the best childcare centre where we live. Both DH and myself don't have any real religious beliefs but that doesn't mean I am not open minded about the matter.

    Any thoughts and advice on this topic would be appreciated. Sorry for my niaivity in the matter.

    How about a Naming Day? Many people like to have this in place of a baptism/christening if they are not practicing any religion but still want some ceremony to celebrate their child's arrival. It has become a popular way of celebrating your child's arrival without religious ties. Sending to a religious school will give them a choice which is valuable, but you do not have to be baptised to go to a religious school actually. So, having a Naming Day for your child gets you a bit of everything. Many Celebrants do Naming Days. Perhaps give some a call and enquire. It is not a legal thing like a wedding is, but they can still put together a nice ceremony. Or you could put together your own service with family and friends doing readings and poetry etc etc. Up to you, but it is a popular option of you do not feel you would want a christening but still want something.

    All the best in what you decide to do.


 

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