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    Default How Did You Tell Your Parents?

    Hi I am 18 and have been TTC for 7 months and I starting to get a little worried about how to tell my parents when I do get preg, they have told me that they don't want me having babies till Im at least 24, it's not like they will get angry about it and not talk to me Im just scared to tell them. I have also been worring about not having any time with DP when we have a baby, I was reading in my baby mag a bout how all the women in there don't really spend time with there DP and that they don't really have time for stuff like sex anymore, so I was just wondering how other young parents told their parents and if their relationship with their DP was as good as it was?

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    I was 22 at the time so it wasn't that bad telling my parents. They were thrilled, even though DP and I weren't married. I just called them and said 'Are you sitting down?' and they said 'you're pregnant aren't you?' so they made it easy

    As for the relationship after bub - as far as I'm concerned we should have had a baby ages ago LOL. We spend more time together, and our sex life is the healthiest I think it has ever been.

    Hope this helps and for you

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    just come out and tell your parents i mean it is a bit late for them to yell or get mad if your already preggers. try waiting til your 3-4 months though in case something happens.

    adn you guys need to make the time to be together. even if it is just sitting on the floor playing with your little one. try to go out for adult time at least 1 night a month. get mum to babysit for you. after all the tiredness wears off and your little one is sleeping better at night you can pick up your sex life from whereyou left off if you want. you might be a little sore in the first few weeks after the birth anyway(not to mention really tired). it is easy to spend time together bathing the little one and reading to them and just watching them sleep.

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    I told my mum before TTC so she knew then and she was thrilled. I told my dad when i was 8 weeks pregnant and he didnt want anything to do with me for a few weeks but he came around in the end.
    Im not really sure about the other question because my bubba girl is still in hospital.

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    I was only 19 at the time and i dreaded telling my parents. I think i left it till i was about 2 months because everytime i went to tell mum i just couldnt speak.

    In the end i waited untill i had one of the ultrasounds and the marched out to mum with the ultrasound so that even if i backed out i could still show her the pics.

    I just walked out with them and said.."i have something to show you'' She just looked at me and said "oh no". .....lol not the best reaction but it could have been alot worse. SHe was very disappointed for a while but once her and dad got used to the idea they were geat and Mum got really excited.

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    Well I had been married for one year and I am 35 so my parents would not have been shocked, but I still was uncertain on how to tell them in the end I did this:

    I sent an email with Introduciong as the subject line and I attached the ultrasound photo of baby! That was it!

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    my mums reaction wasnt really what i expected.. i was 18.. and her reaction was "youve ruined your life"
    After the initial shock set in, she was happy and excited, and is a very proud nan

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    You'll still spend plenty of time with your partner, it will just all revolve around the baby instead. You will bath baby, feed baby etc together. As to sex, well everyone is different, my DH and i started TTC again as soon as no1 was born. Friends of mine however didn't even want to think about it for at least 6 months! lol
    I was really sick and went to the doctors and my mum came with me, and that is when i found out i was pregnant. Mum was soo excited, dad was too.
    I had just gotten married and fell pregnant on our honeymoon, which is exactly what happened to mum, so she thought it was great! lol
    If you are really that concerned that your relationship with your partner will change for the worse, then maybe you should be putting a little more thought into TTC first. A baby adds a lot more stress etc to a relationship, so you need to know for sure that your relationship will last.
    Good luck with everything.

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    Hi CinderElla (i love ur name by the way!)

    Im 19 and I got preg when I was 17 and in Year 12 at school. I wanted to wait till I was 12weeks preg (just in case) before telling my parents who I knew would flip out. HOWEVER my nosey MIL told my mum before I got to so my parents were more angry I hadn't told them myself (Which I was going to!) They will go thru the initial shock but in the end they love it!! I think it makes my parents feel young again!!

    ANd about spending time with ur DP, u will get, its just different and even more special.

    Like now me and DF can lye on the lounge together with DS between us but it just feels so special! At first when ur sooo tired alone time seems scarse but it works itself out!

    Goodluck!!

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    I was 16 and single when I got pregnant with Zach, my sister picked up on it - I had been complaining of a few things to her so she bought a test around and made me do it. It was positive. Then she took me to my mums place and said 'charmaine has something to tell you'.... I giggled as I blurted it out to her and mum cried. It wasnt an enjoyable moment thats for sure.

    Mum called dad (mum and dad are seperated and I live with dad) and told him they needed to have a coffee and a chat after work.

    Dad came home from work anda sked me if I knew what was wrong... I said no. We went to a coffee shop and mum said 'one of your daughters is having a baby' dad replied 'another one' thinking it was my older sister who was pregnant but then he realised she meant me and he went deadly silent.

    It didnt take long for them both to be great about it though.

    With my daughter I was 19 and had been with DP for about 18 months when I fell pregnant, my parents knew I wanted another child so despite it being unplanned they werent shocked and were of course supportive and happy (happiness took about a week to set in though)

    With this bub, now I'm 20.... it was a big enough shock for me and DP let alone everyone else. We're a family now though so despite the shock everyone has been fine with it and relatively happy.


 

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