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    Question How can we make the EX let DH see his kids??

    hi, I havent posted in this section before, you might have seen me in child support threads elsewhere though.
    DH and i have 3 kids together, and he has another 2, with his EX.( a 11yrDD and a 13yrDS)
    Anyway, we have always paid the child support, even though he never sees the kids(she keeps moving and doesnt leave addresses, so we sometimes lose touch for up to a year).
    But now with the new system our child support has gone throught the roof, Im so stressed as to how to pay it, our income hasnt changed but because we dont have access to the kids, we pay the full amount.
    DH usually cowers when he finally gets a hold of his EX that he lets her put it over him, and once again we dont see them.
    I told DH this time he needs to stand his ground cause if we have to pay the ridiculous amount then he WILL have access to those kids, is that wrong??

    Can anyone fill me in on how he can get her to honour the court papers drawn up 10 yrs ago, giving him visitation every secong weekend??
    We cant afford a solicitor at all, and dont have access to legal aid.
    Please help, this cant go on any longer.

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    I have no advice, but just wanted to send some well wishes and I hope things work out. Is there a reason why the ex does not let you see the kids or is she just being vindictive???

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    I have followed your story in other threads regarding your DH and his kids.
    Im sorry that your family are still having to deal with this kind of rubbish and are missing out on seeing the kids.
    I hate to say it but the only way you will be able to see the kids is to go back through the courts and have new orders drawn up. The fact they are 10yrs old now and she has never honoured the original orders means there is probably no way she is going to change her mind in the near future unless she is forced to with new orders being put in place and having them followed up.

    I hope things work out for you guys and many

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    No knowledge of what you can do, but I wish you the best of luck

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    im on the opposite side of the situation to you whwere my ex only wants to see the kids when it is convienant for him so i can tell you from my end there is no way i can force him to take the kids at all. but if ther is a court documant signed by the both of them then i suggest either going to the local police station or the local court house and speakintg to a magistrate as she has broken a legal contract.
    hope you can get it all sorted soon.

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    You can do something about it definately. I have 3 kids to my XW and i didnt get to see them for nearly 2 years, so we went through quite a bit of the legal bull to make things right.

    We eventually were awarded sole custody of all the kids.

    If it says in the orders, that he can have the kids every 2nd weekend and she doesnt make them available, then you can breach her. You can get the paperwork etc from the family law court website i think.

    She will probably just get a slap on the wrist to start with, but if she keeps breaching the orders and you continue to fight then she can land herself in all kinds of trouble....including jail time. Tell him to fight.

    Keep your chin up. It can be hard and very stressful, but i can tell you from experience.....when he gets to hold those kids again it will be worth it!!!

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    thanks for all your support.
    Its hard when theres no spare cash to be able to go to court etc(its all going to the child support).
    I encourage my Dh not to give up, but when he gets let down again from his EX its hard for him to keep going.
    I will look into the breech thing , so thanks for that info

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    Been 11 an 13 i would think they would have a right if they wanted to see dad ? but then they would have to know if he wants to see them back ?

    Can legal aid help you ?

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    Hi - hope you don't mind me asking but is there any particular reason as to why you can't get legal aid?

    I know with the court orders between my DP and his ex, if she does not show up ((we have an agreed meeting place and time)) when he is supposed to come to us for a visit, as she is in breach of the contract, we are then supposed to go to the court house and lodge a judgement against her. Once the judgement all goes through we then take it to the local police station and they remove the child/children from her care and we then get him for the duration of our visit.

    Seeing as you do have an agreement in place, just take that to the court house and try and get some advice as to how to go about getting the kids. ((This should not cost you anything))

    But I think it extremely important that you get some sort of legal advice. I would highly recommend going to the court house, as they should be able to tell you how to go about enforcing the agreement or at least point you in the right direction.

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    Hi,
    My hubby had simular prob with his x. She wouldnt let him see them then as soon as things started to go through court she eased off and then on the day of court gave up full custody. She was suppose to see them every 2nd weekend but that only lasted a month or so and the lawyer told us after that that it ment she had broken the agreement so the ball was in our court. Meaning we could choose what happpened. We dont take the kids to her any more but she knows where we live and has phone numbers. I say push your case as much as you can even ask child support as they may suggest something. Even the cops as she has broken a court order. I know how hard it is and wish you all the best. Keep trying cos all the time you spend will be rewarded in the end.


 

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