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  • #76
    I am so amazed to say that I have nothing to add to this thread after spending the day with ILs. A couple of months ago, I privately thanked MILs sister for being so inclusive and caring towards me, I didn’t tell her that I was upset but it was a bit obvious as MIL was obsessing over her future son in law and blatantly ignoring me, her DIL of 15 years. I wonder if MILs sister said something to my ILs because they have both been so normal the last 2 times I saw them.

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    • #77
      Ooh I'm just going to sit here with my popcorn

      8 yrs of no longer dealing with my mil, apart from one Facebook convo... bliss [emoji28]

      Some pearlers I remember:

      - "Girl! You haven't got many stretch marks!" - 36 weeks pregnant, sitting casually in her lounge, she just lifts my top up as she walks past : her partner and his creepy af sleezeball of a mate across from me...

      - "he wanted it" - my stepson, the day beforehe turned 1, reached out for the udl can in her hand, so she gave him a swig. (In response to my jaw literally dropping and look of absolute disgust)

      - "the hospital screwed up when I had him. (Motions to df) they gave me the afterbirth and kept the baby"

      -"if you ever have trouble with anyone, let me know. Don't you smack em, I've got bipolar so I'll only get sent to ward 9, not jail"

      -her partner is part of a bike gang.

      - she rescued df from the system (foster care) ......at 18.....

      There's so many more

      But by far the last contact we had from her was the craziest, and that's saying something. Apparently, while being on the dole having never worked, she managed to lend df $75k and wanted it back because she's dying of cancer. To back it up she sent a distorted photo of *someone* with a photoshopped growth on the side of their face claiming it was her. The complexion was wrong (She's part (50%) aboriginal, the person was very Caucasian) the growth was a shape drawn over the facial features, in a flat colour, how badly edited it was, it could've been done in paint [emoji1]🤣...if we didn't give it to get immediately she was going to take us to court🤨[emoji849][emoji1][emoji57] that was 4 maybe 5 years ago now
      Last edited by EnchantedGrace; 26-12-2020, 21:13.

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      • #78
        Even though Christmas was only yesterday, I think I’ve blocked a lot of it out because I don’t remember anything my MIL actually said. It’s more the things she did...

        1. Brought over “Santa sacks” for DD and DS with presents that Santa supposedly left at their house [emoji849]

        2. Asked me about my new “big” kitchen and I said it was great, but when there’s a few people in there it gets cramped and someone is always in your way. Not 2 mins later she wanders into the kitchen where mum was cutting the ham, I was trying to finish the potato bake/do dishes and DH was doing something else. She stands right in front of the potato bake that I needed to put in the oven, and then stood there with her fingers hovering above the ham as mum was cutting it to pick up the pieces of ham and put it on the plate. Didn’t even wash her hands first. Definitely not a 2 person job. Was also in front of the mandolin slicer/box that I was trying to dry and put away.

        3. Commented on how many presents DD and DS got (looked worse than it actually was) and now we’d have to find places for all their new things to live... clearly discounting all the things they brought over for the kids [emoji849].

        I’m sure there were more, but I also went and had a 3hr nap with DS after lunch [emoji38]

        She did say to DD that she’d have to buy her a box to put her new Lego in as the small one she tried giving her didn’t fit it. FFS it’s a Lego friends car thing with lots of little pieces. If anything it’s going into the box with all the other mixed up Lego.

        Non Christmas issues...

        Keeps bringing over things for DD that were at their house. They housed a few of DDs toys and things while our house was on the market and whenever they come over, they bring more things back that aren’t even ours. We now own DHs play tea set from 30+ years ago (even though they’ve already given DD a tea set). They bought over a cherry tomato plant for DD that they were growing for her without even letting us know it was coming. Still haven’t brought back the toys she actually wants to play with though [emoji849]

        The house we’ve moved in to has some tall lillipilly plants at the end of the pool blowing leaves onto it. DH is going to trim them back. His parents asked to borrow our ladder and DH said yes, but he wanted it back to trim the Lillipillys. MIL then proceeded to tell DH that if he just went to the other side of the fence that backs onto the road, then he could trim them a) without needing a ladder, and b) without risk of falling in the pool. Why she thought DH would stand on the pools edge on a ladder with an electric power tool is beyond me (and DH). DH always intended to go from the road side of the fence and they extend almost 2m above the fence line...

        Bought us some new towels to “replace the ones I’d bleached”. Brought them over right when we were moving. They are a bright green (not Fluro or anything just very green) and she bought 2 towels and a hand towel. I accidentally bleached the floor/bath mat.. also it’s a different type of towel and not even close to the same shade of green our towels actually are. She’d also removed the tags and washed them for us.. I know she was just trying to be helpful but the timing was **** and she was proud to announce that she got them from the clearance table...

        There’s a few more things I can’t remember, but said to DH that she acts as if she’s the parent to the kids and not the grandparent. I did suggest he have a word with her and just gently remind her of this fact. More than happy for her to be a grandparent to DD and DS, but she needs to remember that DH and I are capable adults who have managed to hold down jobs, buy and sell a house, have 2 children all without her doing it for us...

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        • #79
          Originally posted by EnchantedGrace View Post
          Ooh I'm just going to sit here with my popcorn

          8 yrs of no longer dealing with my mil, apart from one Facebook convo... bliss [emoji28]

          Some pearlers I remember:

          - "Girl! You haven't got many stretch marks!" - 36 weeks pregnant, sitting casually in her lounge, she just lifts my top up as she walks past : her partner and his creepy af sleezeball of a mate across from me...

          - "he wanted it" - my stepson, the day beforehe turned 1, reached out for the udl can in her hand, so she gave him a swig. (In response to my jaw literally dropping and look of absolute disgust)

          - "the hospital screwed up when I had him. (Motions to df) they gave me the afterbirth and kept the baby"

          -"if you ever have trouble with anyone, let me know. Don't you smack em, I've got bipolar so I'll only get sent to ward 9, not jail"

          -her partner is part of a bike gang.

          - she rescued df from the system (foster care) ......at 18.....

          There's so many more

          But by far the last contact we had from her was the craziest, and that's saying something. Apparently, while being on the dole having never worked, she managed to lend df $75k and wanted it back because she's dying of cancer. To back it up she sent a distorted photo of *someone* with a photoshopped growth on the side of their face claiming it was her. The complexion was wrong (She's part (50%) aboriginal, the person was very Caucasian) the growth was a shape drawn over the facial features, in a flat colour, how badly edited it was, it could've been done in paint [emoji1]🤣...if we didn't give it to get immediately she was going to take us to court🤨[emoji849][emoji1][emoji57] that was 4 maybe 5 years ago now
          She’s sounds charming [emoji15]

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          • #80
            Originally posted by MLadyEm View Post

            1. Brought over “Santa sacks” for DD and DS with presents that Santa supposedly left at their house [emoji849]

            ...
            MIL use to do this. I think one of DHs sister must have had a word to her, as it hasn’t happened the last 2 years. The kids were all so confused - why would Santa leave presents at someone else’s house? And why doesn’t Nanna and Pop ever give us presents?

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            • #81
              Originally posted by Mod-DJ Nette View Post
              MIL use to do this. I think one of DHs sister must have had a word to her, as it hasn’t happened the last 2 years. The kids were all so confused - why would Santa leave presents at someone else’s house? And why doesn’t Nanna and Pop ever give us presents?
              Oh they still got Nana and Pop presents as well...

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              • #82
                Originally posted by babyno1onboard View Post
                She’s sounds charming [emoji15]
                There's sooo many reasons we have no contact with her now [emoji28]

                Our first Xmas together we pre-arranged with her to mind our kitten from Xmas eve night, through to Christmas afternoon. They had to feed it twice.

                She called df at 9pm Xmas eve to say the kitten had died. He was all stressed wanting to pack up and go home (she lived around the corner from us, my family 100 kms away) at that point he had no car, no license.... we'd only been with my family 90mins. My nieces etc I saw only a few times a year were there...
                He started packing the car... and she then called in hysterics, because it was a joke. From 1pm Xmas day she called him every 30 mins "where are you? It's after lunch! Where are you? Are you on your way?"

                Ugh so messed up! So glad I don't have that anymore

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                • #83
                  On Christmas Day MIL said during lunch, “why are you all still in your pyjamas?” We were wearing matching tshirts and all in nice pants.

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                  • #84
                    SH!T my MIL says #2

                    My DH sent his mother a Merry Christmas message on Xmas morning and she replies by telling him that she is going to my SIL’s place for dinner (we no longer speak with SIL). This is after getting him to buy her a couple of chickens on Christmas Eve for us to take to her place for dinner on Christmas Night like we have done every Christmas for the last 20+ years.

                    We were left to explain to our children that we weren’t going to Nanny’s house for dinner this year like we normally do.

                    A bit of a heads up would have been nice love!
                    Last edited by Chippa; 27-12-2020, 17:14.

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                    • #85
                      First person I get to see after lockdown - MIL!

                      As she was arriving the cat attacked DD (who is 8). She has lots of scratches including on her stomach as she was wearing a crop top. I was looking at the scratches and MIL was there and says to DD ‘look at your beer gut, have you been drinking your dads beers’. I was horrified, but poor DD was still so upset about the scratches I’m not sure that she was paying too much attention.

                      If this is what MIL was like when DH was growing up, it might explain his and his 3 sisters constant weight battles.

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                      • #86
                        Ahh timely reboot of this thread…

                        I posted a rant on FB the other day about my frustration taking DS to a respiratory clinic who then only Covid swabbed him when we wanted him assessed. MIL commented on my post wishing they could help us out and blamed lockdown. [emoji849]

                        As a side note, I asked DH this morning if he’s spoken to his mum this week and he said no. So despite me posting how unwell both kids have been, she’s not even phoned, texted, FB messaged to ask how any of us are even after mentioning in my post that DD had been to emergency twice. It’s all for the Facebook audience.

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                        • #87
                          Originally posted by MLadyEm View Post
                          Ahh timely reboot of this thread…

                          I posted a rant on FB the other day about my frustration taking DS to a respiratory clinic who then only Covid swabbed him when we wanted him assessed. MIL commented on my post wishing they could help us out and blamed lockdown. [emoji849]

                          As a side note, I asked DH this morning if he’s spoken to his mum this week and he said no. So despite me posting how unwell both kids have been, she’s not even phoned, texted, FB messaged to ask how any of us are even after mentioning in my post that DD had been to emergency twice. It’s all for the Facebook audience.
                          Hugs, she really sounds like my MIL. All about the Facebook comment but no actual action.

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                          • #88
                            Originally posted by Mum-I-Am View Post
                            Hugs, she really sounds like my MIL. All about the Facebook comment but no actual action.
                            My sister said a few months back that altruism is not a word found in her dictionary.

                            I bet you she still FaceTimed their Japanese exchange student from like 8 years ago on Friday night though [emoji849]

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                            • #89
                              Originally posted by MLadyEm View Post
                              My sister said a few months back that altruism is not a word found in her dictionary.

                              I bet you she still FaceTimed their Japanese exchange student from like 8 years ago on Friday night though [emoji849]
                              They are the same woman! MIL attended a birthday party for a friends daughters foster child last year and she is still talking about it. She was too tired to attend DD1 birthday the next week.

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                              • #90
                                Originally posted by MLadyEm View Post
                                My sister said a few months back that altruism is not a word found in her dictionary.

                                I bet you she still FaceTimed their Japanese exchange student from like 8 years ago on Friday night though [emoji849]
                                Oh good grief. I'm wondering if you MIL is my mother's long lost twin.

                                changed my mind. Way too identifying.
                                Last edited by SSecret Squirrel; 09-08-2021, 10:40.

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