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  • #16
    Same here - total split personality.

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    • #17
      anyone over christmas yet [emoji23]

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      • #18
        Originally posted by Holmax
        Yes I hate Christmas. I was over it last month. [emoji6]
        ok good [emoji23][emoji16][emoji87]

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        • #19
          I think, I can also join here. I'm a complete newbie here, trying to make new friends. BUT, unfortunately not new to infertility. Our story goes back to 2014, from that time my family didn't didn't grow. My endo getting on me more severely and I almost stop believing we'll ever succeed with treatments. Here's what we've got up to this time. IUI#1-BFN adding cysts. IUI#2 - cancelled spontaneously. IUI#3 - Nov'17BFNand a complete heartbreak. Moving onto IVF in 2018. IVF #1 -ER (15follies, 14 eggs, only 6 mature, only 3 fertilised), transferof 2blasts, BFN (beta 0.1). Lap Mar'18 - another check for endo(CA 125levels came higher). IVF #2 - hopefully in May- June. We're passing our next cycle overseas, because want to get some guarantees. I mean this is not when just for add clinic says - we're the best, we'll do it. But refund money if the rounds are unsuccessful. With much of hope we are getting prepared for the new cycle. We follow 'fertility' diet together with dh taking vitamins and doing yoga. Wrote about it somewhere here. So I hope we'll see whether all these improvements would make sense. Wish everyone the best of luck on the way!

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          • #20
            thinkin of you all...really truly am

            Helen

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            • #21
              [MENTION=153321]Renatee[/MENTION] are you saying a clinic will refund you if you don’t succeed? Im calling bullsh.. on that. After 1 IVF you go overseas? Im not buying it.

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              • #22
                just saying hello to everyone,,,anyone...sending good vibes

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                • #23
                  We've just had our 7th negative pregnancy test today....so devastating even after travelling to Sydney twice to see an immune specialist, had two courses of LIT treatment to ensure my immune system was "in sync" and it still didn't work. Now my husband just says 'it was the embryo'....As a female and the one that the embryos are transferred in too, I can't help but feel I have let my husband down (again) and that perhaps having kids is not in our future. I want to stop IVF but that means we don't get what we want of having our own family and we both want nothing more than to be parents.

                  We have been on the journey to starting a family for almost 3yrs, one year naturally and two on IVF. One IUI cycle, 2 IVF/egg pick-ups and 7 trfs later and we're still childless. When is it our turn???? Its so hard to be happy for family and friends who tell you they are pregnant and here we are struggling....people who can have kids naturally really don't understand what a gift it is to have a child.

                  Our feelings of continuing IVF have been significantly harboured by the lack of support form my family....'well you've had 6 failed attempts...don't you think that is a sign its not meant to be' and this was from my mother, who lived with us for 6mths and saw us going through a cycle first hand. One of the things I have noticed since being on this journey and lack of understanding of people who have had kids naturally and don't understand the struggle it is to undergo IVF. No amount of explaining seems to matter. On the other hand, I am very lucky to have a very supportive family-in-law, my sister-in-law in particular as she herself has been through countless IVF cycles to have our two gorgeous nieces and just recently found out she's pregnant with baby no. 3 NATURALLY!!! Miracles can happen.

                  Its definitely an emotional, mental and physical rollercoaster that, lets face it, I want to hop off now and just enjoy the happiness of being a mum....something that seems to be getting further and further away from.

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                  • #24
                    Originally posted by RinnyRoo82 View Post
                    We've just had our 7th negative pregnancy test today....so devastating even after travelling to Sydney twice to see an immune specialist, had two courses of LIT treatment to ensure my immune system was "in sync" and it still didn't work. Now my husband just says 'it was the embryo'....As a female and the one that the embryos are transferred in too, I can't help but feel I have let my husband down (again) and that perhaps having kids is not in our future. I want to stop IVF but that means we don't get what we want of having our own family and we both want nothing more than to be parents.

                    We have been on the journey to starting a family for almost 3yrs, one year naturally and two on IVF. One IUI cycle, 2 IVF/egg pick-ups and 7 trfs later and we're still childless. When is it our turn???? Its so hard to be happy for family and friends who tell you they are pregnant and here we are struggling....people who can have kids naturally really don't understand what a gift it is to have a child.

                    Our feelings of continuing IVF have been significantly harboured by the lack of support form my family....'well you've had 6 failed attempts...don't you think that is a sign its not meant to be' and this was from my mother, who lived with us for 6mths and saw us going through a cycle first hand. One of the things I have noticed since being on this journey and lack of understanding of people who have had kids naturally and don't understand the struggle it is to undergo IVF. No amount of explaining seems to matter. On the other hand, I am very lucky to have a very supportive family-in-law, my sister-in-law in particular as she herself has been through countless IVF cycles to have our two gorgeous nieces and just recently found out she's pregnant with baby no. 3 NATURALLY!!! Miracles can happen.

                    Its definitely an emotional, mental and physical rollercoaster that, lets face it, I want to hop off now and just enjoy the happiness of being a mum....something that seems to be getting further and further away from.
                    [MENTION=148647]RinnyRoo82[/MENTION] - I just wanted to say that I understand part of your pain. Ttc 3.5y, 2 stim, 7 transfers and have never had any positive ...

                    I share your fears and I am sorry for the lack of support from the people you would expect some warmth. I have also been disappointed by my entourage and find people understand little about this journey. Life also likes to remind you in cruel ways that not everyone deal with infertility issues... just when you struggle the most.

                    Your message did resonate with me. I couldn’t just read and go. I just wanted to say that while trying, there is still a chance. It’s scary and disheartening, but while we can, we are still trying to know we did all we could... we’ll deal later with what will happen or not.

                    Good luck! I hope you feel better soon & that you can can grieve this negative.

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                    • #25
                      We married at my age 27, tried for over 10 years. We did Stim, tried Adoption (turned down) 6 egg collections in a year with all embryos transferred. I had a hysterectomy at age 40 when my atypical myoma possibly reoccurred so I went aggressive and removed. I was over IVF after first cycle. Hub wasn’t so when oncology said to have hyster just as we were starting IVF it was a hard road to take.

                      We went on to foster 2 beautiful children for 4 months. No-one can take away that I was a Mum for that brief period and we are hoping this time to get a long term placement - hopefully permenant.

                      We are trying to use up remaining sperm as a donor but the clinics/law doesn’t make it easy so we may need to forget that idea. But am trying to give that gift to another couple. Our families made us marry when we started talking about kids so it would be hard to accept an adult DNA match/Donation turning up as when kids get to 16/18 they can find a donor under current law.

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                      • #26
                        Hi everyone.. after 10 years of IVF we have just had one of the worst things happen. our last embryo (from the 5 year you're version of my now 43 year old self) PGD tested - all looking good , immune drugs on par.. it was sowing HCG from 3 days after the 5 day transfer.. Turns out my clinic did not relay the correct dose of Progesterone to me that my doctor had prescribed. I started to bleed like a period on day 28 of cycle, and at the same time the HCG continued to rise as if a viable outcome was likely right through until day 4 of the period. when it disappeared within 36 hours. It is very clear to me the lack of Progesterone caused my lining to shed and consequently the implanted PGD embryo got wiped into oblivion. I am beyond devastated . at 43 there is no more next times.. Has anyone else suffered in this way? I suppose you could call this "Lack of Luteal phase support" my doctor dodged the question and did not deny this is the likely cause, and instead just said "you won't find anyway to get that answer" .. meanwhile.. my life is defined, my heat is broken, and they have taken $15k from me for good measure.. The clinic and nursing team did not clearly communicate with me my dosage for progesterone as i required maximum dose due to my age and irregular cycles. I would love to hear from anyone that has experienced HCG rising at the same time as having a period. I feel battered and bruised.

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                        • #27
                          Originally posted by T1gger View Post
                          We married at my age 27, tried for over 10 years. We did Stim, tried Adoption (turned down) 6 egg collections in a year with all embryos transferred. I had a hysterectomy at age 40 when my atypical myoma possibly reoccurred so I went aggressive and removed. I was over IVF after first cycle. Hub wasn’t so when oncology said to have hyster just as we were starting IVF it was a hard road to take.
                          We went on to foster 2 beautiful children for 4 months. No-one can take away that I was a Mum for that brief period and we are hoping this time to get a long term placement - hopefully permenant.

                          We are trying to use up remaining sperm as a donor but the clinics/law doesn’t make it easy so we may need to forget that idea. But am trying to give that gift to another couple. Our families made us marry when we started talking about kids so it would be hard to accept an adult DNA match/Donation turning up as when kids get to 16/18 they can find a donor under current law.

                          I am so sorry to hear of your journey. It is heart breaking. How did you go with adoption? has there been any light? Did you find anyone for your donor sperm? x you sound like you have so much love in your hearts to give and any child would be blessed to have that. Wishing you all the best.

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