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  • Trevor & Melissa's Search for a Donor

    How do you find the words to ask someone for something so personal to them. Your asking this special somebody to share with you part of themselves, it's a truly selfless act of generosity. That's exactly what Im going to ask a total stranger to do for us.

    "CAN YOU SHARE YOUR EGGS WITH US. WOULD YOU BE OUR DONOR"

    My partner and I come from Western Sydney. We have been through so many ups and downs trying to conceive using IVF.
    3 yrs on and 6 unsuccessfull cycles later see's us seeking an egg donor as my partner has been diagnosed with Premature Ovarian Failure and can no longer use her own eggs to try and conceive.
    At every turn she has been faced with defeat but she keeps picking herself up and battles on, she tell's me it's her determination to complete our family.
    The small role I play in this IVF journey hardly compares, when I see what she goes through at the end of cycles that end in total dissapointment.
    This wonderful lady deserves more than I can put into words to feel the joy of being a mother, any child would be blessed to have her as their mummy.
    I would like to sit back someday and watch this lovely lady walking hand in hand with our child and say that it was the best decision that we made together. I can picture it, can't you.
    This lady is my saving grace, the love of my life and we want to share this love that we have for each other with a child of our own.
    As you can imagine this has been an emotional journey, so please don't play with our hearts as they already ache, so we ask for sincere and honest replys.

    If you feel that you are that special somebody that would like to help us, we are seeking an understanding and compassionate woman aged between 21 and 35, preferably with children of her own. All expenses covered, no remuneration can be offered.
    If you could please contact Trevor and Melissa via our email address Brumbiesservice@optusnet.com.au and we can go from there.

    We Wait
    Trevor & Melissa

  • #2
    Hi Trevor and Melissa,

    I too am on this same journey as you both, so I do know the heartache involved. I wish you both all the best, and hope someone comes your way real soon.

    Good Luck

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    • #3
      Hey Melissa

      Why don't you PM Admin and ask them to move this thread up into the 'Egg Donor Wanted' section.

      Is a beautiful ad and certainly would make me want to get to know you better when I was looking.

      What a very caring and committed couple you sound like.

      Go on, get this thread moved Lady!

      Love

      Cindy

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      • #4
        You guys have one of the mos beautiful ads I have ever read. Never before has an ad brought tears to my eyes, but yours did.

        I hope that your egg angel is just around the corner. With you in your DW's corner Trevor, how could you guys fail??

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        • #5
          Hi Melissa

          How are things going. Are you having any success?

          rgds

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          • #6
            As some of you know I have offered my eggs to another couple. They have asked if our details could be passed on to other people in their group. If they don't need us. I have said yes.

            If you check all my posts you get know me a little. If you would like to contact me after this then email me.

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            • #7
              I can vouch that Natasha would be a wonderful donor!! You are such a lovely girl

              All the best Melissa and Trevor

              Boxoxoox

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              • #8
                Good morning B.

                Thank you. Have to catch up. I have sent another lengthy email..

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                • #9
                  Hey Natasha, you generous soul

                  I just read your post about passing your details on - I would just be careful of talking and finishing with one couple first before moving on to another - means no-one is left hanging up in the air not knowing what is going on, least of all yourself. You can't really offer to a second couple if you don't know what is happening with the first couple - what if they decide they want to cycle with you after all and you have already committed yourself to someone else, makes it very awkward for you in particular to have to say no to one of them.

                  I know, I know, I sound like your mother - but is perhaps better to have all the i's dotted and t's crossed to make sure you are not going to cycle with one couple before getting another couple's hopes up. I think that's why Admin asked for donors not to advertise, for this specific reason, to make sure only donors approach recipients and not the other way round - puts unnecessary pressure on you.

                  And of course I might be barking up the wrong tree in the wrong backyard so tell me to stick my head in - just want to make sure you don't get yourself tied in knots and unwittingly end up hurting someone.

                  Love

                  Cindy

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                  • #10
                    HI Ms Starfish. I think Natasha has been released from her obligations by B, hence B's response. however I would agree that in the interests of her and other donors being swapped its better for Natasha to approach someone that has advertised.

                    rgds

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                    • #11
                      Hello K

                      Natasha's actual words were "If they do not need us", sounds as if she still thinks there is a chance.

                      I personally would urge any donor to find and approach their own recipients rather than allow people to approach you, is very unfair to put a donor in the position of having to say no to decent, caring people who would make great parents, although they are not the right people for you. Takes so much of the awkwardness and unknown and awful waiting out of it for everyone involved. Which is why bubhub have asked donors to approach recipients, and not the other way round.

                      Cheers

                      Cindy

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                      • #12
                        Ok to everyone involved. We appologise. We didn't want to start a disagreement. This is the first time we have even considered donating and if it wasn't for the ad of our first couple possibly the though wouldn't have crossed or mind. We were not aware of certain procedures to do with IVF egg donation except through what we have learnt through comunicating with people over the bub hub.

                        We are now considering this. But will need to investigate further, medical tests and history etc. People that don't have trouble conceiving and creating their own family need to understand and be taught what is involved as we are learning. There are a lot of people to consider if I have learnt anything, not just us.

                        I know that by opening the doorway to new possibilities other donors might consider this.

                        I know that we have considered everyone involved and have told both families that we are offering my eggs. Luckily for us both sides of the family are understanding. We have told them that if we get to the point of the actual transer of eggs, that they will have to consider they will have another sibling. That sibling may never see them for 1 or might on the other hand. But the choice has been made by us as a family and if anyone is upset speak now or it could be too late. Both families have said they support us as they know how hard it was for us to actually carry Faith through to birth. They have at 1 point said to us that the thought of us having kids was very slim and some even said that they had given up on the idea.

                        We know we are very lucky to have Faith and I tell her everynight that she is the best thing that has happened to us. We just want to give the same opportunity to another couple. We are truly sorry if we have upset anyone.

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                        • #13
                          Oh you dear thing - I think we were just worried about YOU!

                          All's well that ends well - I look forward to following your journey Natasha, you sound like a very compassionate soul and adoring Mama to precious Faith.

                          Poor Melissa - sorry honey - we have a habit of messing up these threads don't we! Know you are a lovely patient heart who will be taking this all on board - no more peeps from me OK.

                          Natasha, you have talked about a few really important things there - should we continue on in the other section and leave Melissa to her thread.

                          Love

                          Cindy

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                          • #14
                            Hi Girls,

                            I don't mind at all if you discuss these issues we are all learning and the more we learn about each other and the whole egg donor process the better for us recipients.

                            Thanks to everyone who has wished me the best of luck on my journey and the support that we all crave in these circumstances.

                            The ad is doing ok have had some response but nothing firm but hey, IM NOT GIVING UP.

                            Thanks Again
                            Melissa

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                            • #15
                              Hey Beautiful

                              How is your search going, hope you are both going OK.

                              Love

                              Cindy

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