7 top tips for dads
Parenting is not a job that most people take lightly. Fathers sometimes do it extra tough, as they are not always as available to their children as they would like to be. It can't be forgotten that children still look to their fathers for love and nurturing, even if the time they spend together is limited.
As a father, you can't forget that you have many positive skills and attributes, and your child will benefit from having these actively demonstrated. You might want to write down your goals for being a father.
Seven important tips for good fathering are outlined below, that can be put into place straight away.
Dads should always set a good example for their children to follow - role modelling. If you want your children to be gentle and caring, with empathy for others, then now is the time to start showing them what this looks like. Adult behaviour is heavily influenced by the behaviour of their own fathers.
- Take the time to actively seek out your children and spend time with them. Children love to have their father's fully immersed in the activities they enjoy. Dress up, role play, invite them to see that you have not lost touch with the child within you, you may be surprised to find that you actually enjoy yourself.
- Try to maximize the amount of time spent with your children. You can encourage children to join in with many of your day to day activities. When you come home from work, invite your children to help you put your things away, or unpack your car. Invite them to have a drink of milk with you while you enjoy your cup of coffee. Try to eat meals with the children, or share a special dessert with them. In the car, or on the bus on the way home from work, try to debrief yourself. Wind down from your work activities, and begin to focus on what you will do with your family when you get home.
- Plan a special day, or part day, every so often, that involves only you and your child. Allow your child to choose the activities they would like to do with you, and allow yourself to enjoy the fact that your child is treasuring every moment of this day ?even if you wouldn't have chosen these activities yourself.
- Learn to recognise your children's achievements and accomplishments. This is the first step towards creating a positive parenting environment for your children. Focus on the good things your child does, and they will make greater efforts to repeat these good behaviours in order to reap your positive input.
- Learn more about the things your child enjoys. You may have to talk with their mother, or the child carer/kindy teacher. Fathers can sometimes feel as though they have to find something different to do with their children. But children are happiest when they are participating in activities they enjoy, and have some one they love enjoying it with them.
- Most importantly, Father's Day is a celebration of fatherhood. It gives your children a chance to show you how much they appreciate and love you. Take some of this love and carry it with you for the other 364 days of the year, and feed it back to your children.
It has often been said that by the time a man reaches the end of his life he is not wishing he did more for his employer, or wishing he had a better golf handicap, he is wishing he spent more time with his children and family.