Parenting. It is not easy. It is certainly no walk in the park
Even when it literally IS a walk in the park, it’s not easy. Firstly you have to make sure everyone has shoes and hats. Then they have a tantrum because they want to bring two bikes that you know you’ll end up carrying yourself. Then the baby doesn’t want to sit in the pram. Then they’re thirsty. Then they need to go to the toilet. Then just before you get back in the car you realise the baby’s nappy is dirty and you have to change her on the front seat.
Seriously. A walk in the park. Whoever came up with that saying obviously didn’t have kids!
So why is it that, even though we all know parenting is tough, we hate asking for help?
Are we too proud?
Afraid we will be judged?
Perhaps all three. But, to quote a more apt saying, a problem shared is a problem halved.
Asking for help, venting your frustrations or chatting to a friend about your struggles can ease your stress. There’s nothing quite like the feeling of realising you are not alone!
But it isn’t always easy to connect and that’s probably why the Bub Hub forum is such a popular part of our site. It began 10 years ago now and in that time has helped numerous Australian parents and parents-to-be who came looking for support, advice or friendship.
Three years ago we created the Bub Hub Forum App to adapt to the growing use of smart devices, and now, we have upgraded that app. The new app is quicker, easier to use and comes with improved features (such as photo uploading). It allows users to navigate beyond the forum and access different parts of the Bub Hub site.
Here are 7 reasons you should download the Bub Hub forum app:
- It is free and is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. If you’re up in the middle of the night wondering if it is normal that your new baby doesn’t like sleeping at night – then connect with other parents doing exactly the same thing! They can reassure you that it is normal, help you if it isn’t, and offer you support, friendship and advice.
- It is anonymous. It’s not easy to broach the subject of post-partum bleeding over coffee with your friends or talk about your stitches while your father-in-law is within earshot. Sometimes there are questions we’d just prefer to ask anonymously.
- You’ll connect with thousands of people who know exactly what you’re going through. The Bub Hub forum has 125,000 members – they come and they go but there is always someone online who knows exactly how you’re feeling.
- It is safe and moderated. We’ve got an excellent team of volunteer moderators whose job it is to make sure the forum is a safe and supportive place for everyone.
- It is simple to use. The app is so simple to use that you’ll be able to navigate your way through even if you’re sleep deprived or experiencing some post-natal drift.
- You set the pace. You can join groups (e.g. talk to mums who are due in the same month as you) or you can just browse and join in on conversations that interest you. It is easy to see all the conversations you’re a part of.
- You can ask anything! There are things you might not be comfortable talking about with friends or on social media. Maybe you’re trying to conceive or maybe you’ve just found out that you’re pregnant but you’re not ready to tell everyone yet. The forum is the best place to ask your questions and set your mind at ease. Plus once your baby is born you can ask any thing under the sun – you might worry that it sounds like a silly question but be assured that it has been asked and answered before. Remember you’re not alone!
And if you don’t believe us here’s some comments from our current forum users:
“I feel like I can be more honest on an anonymous forum”
“I swear it has saved my marriage in lots of ways, as it saves my husband from having to deal with some of my anxiety – and some of my venting. It’s amazing the support and when you are busy with life catching up with people in real life is so hard. I would be lost without [it].”
“It has helped me as a source of support when this parenting gig has had me lonely and in need of a cyber ear or two. It has also helped me to realise that essentially we’re all facing similar trials and tribulations, triumphs and achievements and it is nice to know you have some kindred spirits to share this with.”
“TTC and infertility was something I couldn’t talk about with people, I would just cry … and then they would ask the wrong question at the wrong time and it just made it worse. So I didn’t talk about it.
Then I joined the hub and suddenly there were a whole bunch of people who were dealing with the same issues – and it didn’t matter if I cried the whole time – and if I wasn’t up to answering questions … I just didn’t. It helped me soooo much.”
The app is available on both Apple and Android devices – you can find it on iTunes or in the Android Play Store. You can find more info on specifications and how-to guides for using the app on our mobile app page.