Valentines Day is a special day – it’s a great chance to really show our beloved how much they mean to us. But now that Valentine’s Day is over for another year – shouldn’t be try to put our love first every day?
How often do you spend time with your partner, just the two of you? Watching TV together doesn’t count! How often do you go on a date or do something special together?
Life is busy – bills, a mortgage, dance lessons, homework, cleaning, your job, the dog… The list goes on. There just isn’t the time or the money to have romantic weekends away. Or even to go out on a date…
But, you know it’s only going to be for a little while, right?
It will get better once the kids get a bit older… When you’re not breastfeeding anymore… When the kids are at school… When life settles down…?
Sadly, that’s often not the case.
The couples that come to see me have usually been ignoring underlying tension and dissatisfaction for years.
And sometimes it’s too late.
Life got in the way and the relationship just never got back on track.
Lack of sex, lack of communication, arguments… But, there is always something else to take care of first…
The longer problems exist in a relationship, the harder they are to fix. Arguments get worse, resentments build up, both partners feel increasingly hurt.
Don’t let your relationship take a backseat!
Think of the time and money you invest in your car each year to keep it running well. You regularly put fuel in it, you watch the gauges to make sure everything is OK (and if its not, you attend to it, you don’t wait, hoping it will get better by itself). You presumably clean it, and every now take it to a professional.
If your relationship is not happy, your entire family will feel the effects. And having a happy, loving home life is what you want most for your kids.
Your relationship is one of the most important things in your life.
Make it a priority – more than 1 day each year.
- Check in with each other regularly – ask, is everything on track? What could we do to make this relationship better?
- Spend time together each day really being together. It might be hugging for 5 minutes in bed before you get up, of having your morning coffee together.
- Set aside time each week for the two of you to do something special. Hire a babysitter, send the kids for a sleepover with Grandma…
- If there is an issue that won’t sort itself out – seek help from friends, or a professional.
You’re worth it and your relationship is worth it.
Tell us how you keep your relationship strong – all year round!