I can’t tell you how many times I have heard “I don’t care if I never have sex again” from my female clients.
It’s fair enough. You have so much going on in your life, the last thing you need is one more chore at the end of the day.
Women are generally the ones taking care of everyone else. We’re the ones that have little people touching our bodies all day long. At the end of the day, we’re tired. Mostly, we just want a good night’s rest.
Unfortunately my client’s partners often don’t feel the same way. And this leads to tension, arguments and sadly even break-ups. The lower-drive partner (usually women) feel guilty, hurt and angry. But they still don’t know what to do to get desire back.
Here are Seven Reasons to Make Sex an Important Part of your Day… or week as the case may be!
Sex has emotional and psychological benefits: Sex causes the releases of feel-good hormones and endorphins (incidentally the same hormones you release breastfeeding).
- Sex helps you feel more loving and bonded towards your partner. For men especially, sex is a way of feeling close to you.
- Sex reduces stress levels helping you feel calmer. (Many clients tell me they find +dealing with the kids’ misbehaviour a little easier after a good romp in the hay!)
- Sex helps you feel happier and more energised – it can help combat feelings of depression, elevating your mood and energy levels!
Sex has physical benefits too:
- Sex has been proven to lower blood pressure and reduce your risk of both heart attack and stroke.
- It’s a great workout – getting your heart rate up, burning calories and toning muscles. (Cheaper and more fun that the gym!)
- Sex boosts your immune system – keeping those colds and flus at bay!
- Sex can reduce your risk of osteoporosis (due to an increase in testosterone levels).
That’s 7 pretty good reasons if you ask me!
You might be tired, stressed and just plain not in the mood, but chances are, you’ll enjoy it once you get started.
If a difference in desire levels is a problem in your relationship and these reasons aren’t enough motivation to get back in there, seek professional help. Don’t just keep hoping the problem will go away – it usually doesn’t. And the longer you leave it, the harder it is to fix.
Your relationship is worth it!