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Always in second place

When baby #1 arrived, he completely turned my world upside down.

As expected, he came first in everything – governing when I ate, slept, showered, even ruling on whether I could ever sit down (which quite frankly, was never!).

My life changed to become his life. My world stopped to begin his world.

So when baby #2 arrived, I expected the same monumental shift to occur again. Babies are demanding little things, why would this one be any different?

What did happen in our family dynamic, however, was … absolutely nothing.

My world still revolved predominantly around child #1. And the life of baby #2 simply had to fit in with that.

She’s not fussed at having to hang around in bed most mornings whilst I chase Mr4 around the house – attempting to get his undies off of his head and onto his bum.

And she seems quite content to sit and wait, whilst I scrape Weetbix off the floor, wipe his nose, take him to soccer … you get the idea.

Now though she is quite gentle natured, I’m sure this is more than simply a personality thing. It is also a second child thing. I think that from day dot, she has just accepted that she doesn’t always come first.

A lesson that Mr4 still hasn’t fathomed.

But does being born second, always mean coming second?

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  1. My second is vocal, impatient and has a well nurtured sense of entitlement (she’s 6 months old 😉 )

    Though I try to do things fairly and tend to my firsts needs and wants first sometimes too because he’s been learning from his little sister they who scream loudest get served first. Not a good lesson!

  2. Love this post. Sounds exactly like my house although less so now that the baby is becoming a toddler herself… she’s growing increasingly vocal about getting her share of the attention! But she was such a contented little bub and still is in many ways.

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