HI - My SIL has 15 months between her two kids resulting in two under two years old and she wouldnt have it any other way as she said the kids are great together. i am aiming for 16 months between the bubs (trying for #2 in the next few months).
as for "aren't you going to be busy" comment- It's not like we all think it will be a breeze. Just smile as you know best...they are your children to care for and your life to do what you please with it. I believe that becoming a mum has made my life slow down rather than being busier as I have learnt to enjoy things like playing in bed with DD in my pajamas at 1 in the afternoon!
I have a 17month 3 week gap with DS and DD and DD and #3 will be 22months. So I get idiotic comments frequently... generally along the lines of you're too/so young (generally by the same generation who were married and pregnant before 18. funny that) you have your hands full and that latest of course is that I have one of each so obviously I won't be having anymore. I tell them "I'd love to have two of each and I'm pregnant with #3" and you should see their faces drop!
I had the implanon put in when DD was 5 weeks old and my MIL is an RN at the surgery I had it put in at....We decided not to tell anyone we were trying apart from a couple of close friends so we wouldn't get all the comments and questions. I had it removed by another surgery as we'd moved away so my MIL didn't know and then when I fell pregnant she asked if it was an accident, then wondered why she wasn't told we were trying.... yeah right like your MIL needs to know all those details... I figure she has two DD's she can pass all her "knowledge and wisdom" on to... when they get there
We obviously don't need tips as we've successfully had two before! I'm hoping to have #4 about 18m-2y after #3 as I love the close gaps!
Oh and on the sterilising tips... my MIL told me how much a vasectomy was at her surgery when I was pregnant with DS so we could start saving for when we were done with our family. LMAO mind you she also said they don't like giving them to men under 30 and DH will definately be having one prior to then... I figure 4 in a close age gap will help us get our way (even if they are all planned)
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gosh i still get those comments ....when i had ds .. the twins were 16 months old so you could only imnagine .. would take me hours to go anywhere ...lol now i have 4 in which i had all in 5 years .. & i still get gosh you must be busy .. & i say yes & i also work 25 hours a week .. you should see there faces lol... closer is better .. none of thier business .... tell them to get nicked
mum to 4
I agree, people will comment no matter what. I have a 12 1/2 month age gap between my two. We copped all the negative comments. People should just worry about their own lives rather than sticking their noses in to other people's business!
I wouldn't have my age gap any other way, my babes are best mates!
Ali - Mummy Jim - Daddy
Grace Alexandra Rose born 22 October 2005
Thomas James Lamond born 8 November 2006
12 months, 2 weeks and 2 days apart!
Well hi everyone i was only 3 months ago blessed with my b-e-a-u-tiful lil boy Luke and only a few days ago was informed that i am yet again pregnant.
When i found this site and just read what all you other mums have explained as it is better to have a small age gap than a bigger one, well in a way it has kinda put a sigh of relief on my back because i am a little worried that i wont be able to cope or handle to demands of 2 children under 1
can i just ask how hard was it at first and did it ever get easier
Worried young mum Amy
My boys are 20 months apart and I did have a pretty hard time at the start (not trying to scare you here) because DS1 was getting his 2yr old molars and he was having major tantrums. Things started to get easier when DS2 started sleeping through and easier again when he started on solids and some of their meals were at the same time. By the time DS2 was one, things were really good and now they play together a lot and have common interests.
The small age gap has definitely been a good thing, even though it was hard at the start.