Im kind of looking for some reassurance...At the moment I just feel a bit alone and pointless in the family. Im having major issues with dd showing no affection towards me.
Before dh went to canada, I'd say the affection and love was spilt 50/50 between us, but since dh has come back, all dd wants is "daddy daddy daddy" or grandma grandma grandma. If I even look at her...literally...she screams and shakes her head and yells no no no no at the top of her lungs.
It just p*sses me off, because not only have I always been her main care giver ie. feeding, putting her to bed, dressing, bathing (dh has never bathed her...not once...oh wait, I tell a lie, he watched her for 2 minutes while I went to the toilet once)...when dh was away in canada for a while, she was with me, alone nearly 24/7, and I had none of the problems with her that I do now.
As soon as he got back, it was daddy daddy, I was sidelined, and I thought she'd calm down, but she hasnt. If he leaves the room, she screams. If mum leaves the room, she screams, if she goes to work, she screams. If I leave, she doesnt give a hoot!
Shes been throwing the most ridiculous temper tantrums and getting herself into a complete rage, and I cant even touch her, she just screams worse, yet if either of those 2 pick her up, shes fine, settles right down, and cuddles them, and glares at me...
I guess im just hoping to hear that its just a phase, and that she's going to grow out of it, but its just getting worse. I kind of feel like maybe I should just go back to work, and if im away, she might miss me and want to give me some of the affection that she gives everyone else.
If makes me really angry, but it also makes me so sad. Its so devistating when im meant to be her mum, and she doesnt want to give me the time of day. Im completely and utterly jealous at the amount of attention and love dh and mum get from dd
What a completely miserably whiney poor me post. I just feel sorry for myself