The "right" age gap??

**bugaboome** · 31-05-2007 12:03

Hello

I've got a 9 month old little girl who is very very active, she keeps me pretty busy... Our parents have said 'oh, you wouldnt want to have another, how would you cope? we'd have to chuck in work to help you" - I take that in a fairly negative sort of way, but laugh it off.
I was just wondering what age gaps other people have? And has it worked for you? Did you get much family support?
Any advice would be nice

**bugaboome** · 31-05-2007 12:06

I'm Sorry, I've Put This In The Wrong Place!!
How Do I Move It?? Sorry

**filmgirlgail** · 31-05-2007 12:07

Hi

We planned our 2.5 year gap which worked well for us. DD is very good at entertaining herself and was also able to get herself dressed, get her breakfast things out and put the dirty things back in teh kitchen, put dirty clothes in the laundry basket, feed herself well, etc which was exactly where I wanted her to be so that she didn't need me all teh time IYKWIM.

Hope this helps

**bugaboome** · 31-05-2007 12:15

Thats what I'd prefer I think... it would make it that bit easier, and only one lot of nappy changes! One of my friends has a 9 month old & is 7 months pregnant, I definately didnt want that close a gap...

**tickle** · 31-05-2007 12:27

I've moved it for you now.

I have a 21 month gap between my two and love it. They are great friends now and it wasn't too hard when she was little.

**hayles86** · 31-05-2007 13:48

I dont have a age gap yet but we are trying for a 19-20 month age gap

. But i think it depends on what you feel you can handle

i have spoken to heaps of mums that have had their kids close and they say they wouldnt have it any other way

My DD is also very very active but she can play by herself which is really good. As for family support i dont have any because my family live heaps far away. I hope this helps a little bit

**Lila** · 31-05-2007 13:58

for us there is no right gap-
we had 15 month between our no.1 and no.2 and
7 years between no.2 and no.3
both gaps are great and wonderful...
i�d say whenever YOU feel ready is GREAT

**lindseyv** · 31-05-2007 21:16

I have a 10 month old daughter and I get so clucky whenever I see a new born baby. I automatically want another one and go home considering time frames. I had always wanted to have children young and about 2-3 years apart. I have asked many people for their opinions and how they and their children handled the age gaps. But how will it affect your career/ employment opportunities and finances? I have just returned to the workforce, part-time and with a new company. I didn't need to return to work, but decided to as it would help us to buy our own home sooner which is a priority to me. Should I continue to try and conceive next year to have a 2 year gap or should i wait until i have been in my new position for a year to receive maternity leave?

Not sure, but i think these questions may also be on some other mums minds when deciding on when to have baby no. 2.

**Areca** · 31-05-2007 21:28

I will have a 21 month age gap when the belly arrives....in saying that, I like at my 18 month DD and think 'yep now would be the perfect time to have bub.' Unfortunately ttc took longer than expected.

**OJandMe** · 31-05-2007 21:34

Well... I had no gap between my first and second. lol. And yes, it's pretty busy. but they're great mates. and they'll be 2.5 when bubs is born.

but for number 4 we're just going to wait and see... I'll actively start TTC again after about 5-6 months I think.