Okay brace yourself for the short long version.
Recently my Ex purposely tracked me down and we got back in touch and spent some really high quality time together. Anyway we were each others first loves. We broke up because we grew up and life drew us in other directions. No ill feeling or anything. Along the way life has constantly drawn us back to each other.
As a result the mother of his kids hates me and father of my kids hates him. Purely because we exist and have the bond there that seemed to be unbreakable.
Anyway as soon as I became a mother I purposely cut contact with him and this past summer we came together again after 8 years of seperation.
He ended his relationship 4 years ago and Im at the end of my teether with my relationship. Things are just not getting better. Anyway thats another story....lets just say we are on our way out and discussing the best way to do it for our kids.
Anyway the Ex is spewing his feelings for me out everywhere, I still have really strong feelings for him but cant help but fret over the possible step situation that will ensue.
She has fulltime care and he has open visitation. The same sort of thing that will happen within my situation.
I know DP will not be happy if I take up with him, not because hes a bad guy or anything but because DP hates the invisible threat this guy was to our relationship.
The Exs ex-partner will spew as well. Now she is quite vindictive. In the past (before I had kids and their first son was almost 1 - no they werent together at the time) she has blackmailed the ex with threats of taking his son away from him, posted bogus charges of battery at court (which she later tried to withdraw once I decided there was too much drama in the whole situation and left it) more recently they had a situation where the ex paid school fees, spent $1G on clothing for both kids, bought all school supplies for both of them and then gave the mother $250 for expenses so she could take their son to the hospital for a pre-op check (banning the Ex from coming with them, it seems she only wanted the money) and then the son blurted out that he had been at the lake with daddy and his friend *insert my name* all of a sudden theres a formal request for child support including arrears back to the day the child was born (9years) despite the fact that she lived with the dad for 5 of those years.
See at the moment I wont say anything to him about it because it has no personal bearing on me. But I will most definitely not stand for this if we are to become a couple and this is what worries me....so okay this is probably sounding more like a rant now.
The thing is I really do have strong feelings for this guy and I know he has genuine strong feelings for me. I think without all the fuss from Exs we would be prefect together.
Ive tried time and time again to try and talk myself into walking away from him. But Im scared that after all this time this is it.....our one and only chance to work things out and see where it goes.
What am I supposed to do?