The emotions of loss

[Pixie]

It's only been a week and a bit since my brother died, I was so upset then I was OK I have to be strong. I cried on the phone to my birth mum last night at the regrets I have, not much I can do anyway about those!

But now we know he died from septicaemia not his heart condition it angers me, they admit they think they have made a mistake when they swapped his drains over and it was all down hill from there, they also nipped his thoriac during surgery and knew about it yet did nothing.

I know we all die when we're meant to, but it's starting to upset me more when people say "he's in a better place" Yes he might be now considering he was suffering and on full life support but if people had done their jobs properly he would be in a better place down here on earth.

Is this sadness and anger, (not really angry more annoyed) part of grieving?

[EmsMum72]

Grief can make you feel so many different emotions. Sadness and anger are definately 2 of those emotions. It's perfectly normal to feel angry. I was so sad, then angry, then lonely, then sad again when my mum died many years ago. I'm really sorry for your loss, especially because he died from something other than what you believed he died from. Hang in there, go with your feelings and don't bottle it up inside.

[Ana Gram]

Grief can be pretty much every emotion possible. And you feel them to the extreme.

[kdmid]

My Heart goes ut to you right now...just ermember we r al here if you need us Pm me if you wanna chat anytime!

I know the last thing yu wan to hear is that its for the best or hes in a beter place so Im not gonna say either of those things. Please try and remember the good times, yr brothers personality the things you love most about him and remember you can talk to him whenever, where ever.
I ant say I know how you feel Ive never lost one of my brothers and dont evenwant to think about that but I did loose me dad when I was just 6 and I have lost a feww close freinds and family though out the years.
I talk to my dad all the time, I still cry for him and miss him but I hold on to the memories and honestly beleive that oneday well be together again, but for right now im meant to be here with my kidsand dh but I know and i feel him present all the time.

Lots of love to you!!! remember pm me if you wanna talk Ill listen even if you wannago over and over the same stuff Im here!

[Ashleigh<3]

It's not much help when I can't empathise but I'm always here for you and sending my deepest condolences.

[Hokey Pokey]

I feel your pain, pm me anytime

[GraceUnhearing]

my brother died 4 years go in october
so i sortta know what your going through sweet

if you ever need to talk i'll listen

[Blessed Mum]

Yes pixie they are normal reactions to grief, any emotion u experience is ok. Grief is a hard road to travel the best advice I can give is keep talking to anyone - it'll keep you sane Don't hold it in because it eats away at you. Always here to listen mate

[Pixie]

Thanks everyone I am now just feeling so sad, bit lost, in a few weeks I am going to send my birth mum an Olive tree to plant in his memory I hope she likes it

[Hokey Pokey]

Lovely idea Pixie, we did this for my sister on my uncles property on the beachfront.